In this live session, we explore one of the most overlooked dynamics in modern relationships: the thin line between care and control. Emotional monitoring can show up as “just checking in,” “wanting reassurance,” or “needing transparency” — but when does it cross into surveillance, anxiety-driven policing, or subtle forms of control?This conversation breaks down:• How emotional monitoring develops• Why it often feels like love (even when it’s not)• The difference between safety, transparency, and control• How trauma, attachment, and insecurity shape our behaviors• What healthy interdependence looks like• How to set boundaries without creating distanceWhether you’re healing from past relationships, preparing to date again, or supporting others on their journey, this session offers grounded, compassionate insight into reclaiming emotional freedom.✨ If you found this helpful, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this conversation.0:00 — Welcome & Opening Intentions1:42 — What Is Emotional Monitoring?5:10 — How Surveillance Shows Up in Relationships9:25 — “Care vs Control”: Understanding the Difference13:40 — Attachment Styles & Monitoring Behaviors18:55 — When Transparency Becomes Policing23:18 — The Role of Trauma & Past Relationships28:02 — Signs You’re Being Monitored Emotionally32:45 — Signs You Might Be Monitoring Others36:30 — Healthy Interdependence vs Hypervigilance41:12 — How to Set Boundaries with Compassion45:20 — Final Reflections & Takeaways48:00 — Closing & Next Steps

So many adults move through dating and relationships without realizing they’ve been operating from a place of self‑abandonment, emotional survival patterns, and unhealed relational wounds. This video guides you through the process of recognizing where you’ve been disappearing — and how to finally return to yourself with clarity, compassion, and power.Whether you’re rebuilding after heartbreak, re‑entering the dating world, or learning to trust your voice again, this session offers grounded, trauma‑informed insight to help you reconnect with your identity, boundaries, and emotional truth.---⏱️ TIMESTAMPS00:00 – Welcome & Overview 02:15 – What Is Self‑Abandonment? 06:40 – Childhood Roots of Losing Yourself 11:55 – How Self‑Abandonment Shows Up in Adult Relationships 17:20 – The Cost of Disappearing in Dating 22:05 – Signs You’re Disconnecting From Your Needs 27:30 – Rebuilding Self‑Trust & Emotional Safety 32:10 – How to Stop Over‑Functioning and Over‑Giving 36:45 – Boundaries as a Path Back to Yourself 40:20 – Final Reflections & Integration 43:42 – Closing

Join Coach Derrick, a certified healing journey and relationship coach, as he explores the intricacies of navigating conflict and building trust in relationships. This episode dives deep into understanding inner child dynamics, how childhood wounds influence adult conflicts, and the importance of healing for better relationships. Coach Derrick emphasizes effective communication, emotional safety, and the necessity of addressing unresolved trauma for relationship success. Tune in every Tuesday at 7:30 PM EST for live broadcasts, and access more resources at www.sitdownandheal.com.

00:00 Introduction to Sit Down and Heal

02:24 Navigating Conflict: A Deeper Look

04:53 Understanding Inner Child in Conflict

09:53 The Cycle of Unresolved Trauma

16:42 Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact

19:41 Trust and Safety in Relationships

21:47 Coping Mechanisms and Unresolved Issues

22:48 Understanding the Inner Child

24:10 Triggers and Reactions in Relationships

25:01 The Importance of Shadow Work

27:33 Building Trust Through Vulnerability

29:25 Communication and Conflict Resolution

32:23 The Role of Tools and Coaching

33:18 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Tune in every Tuesday at 7:30 PM EST for live broadcasts, and access more resources at www.sitdownandheal.com.