The hardest part of healing isn't the moment you decide to forgive. It's every ordinary moment after that—the birthday parties, the graduations, the holidays—where you choose it again and again.

In this final episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim and Konnie talk about the relationship they've built in the years since their divorce. It hasn't been without struggle. There have been seasons of tension, moments of hurt, and the ongoing challenge of staying cooperative when old wounds made that feel unreasonable. But they kept choosing it for their children, and for themselves.

Their children speak in this episode, too. Now adults with families of their own, they share what it has meant to grow up watching two people refuse to let the worst chapter of their family's story become the defining one. Their children and their grandchildren are growing up knowing the full story and witnessing firsthand what genuine healing can produce. Konnie also shares that the cooperative, caring relationship she and Tim have built is one her current husband not only knows about but fully supports.

This episode is a true account of what becomes possible when two people decide that their shared future matters more than their painful past.

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Affairs often have multiple victims. This episode gives voice to some of them.

Tim and Konnie's story has been told, in their own words, across two honest episodes. But there were others in that story, too. Five children who didn't choose what happened, didn't cause it, and couldn't stop it, but who carried it nonetheless, each in their own way.

In this bonus episode, released before the final conversation between Tim and Konnie, two of those children speak. Their oldest son and youngest daughter offer their own perspective on what it was like to grow up through their father’s affair, the divorce, and everything that followed. They weren't coached toward a particular conclusion. They were simply invited to be honest.

Their perspectives are windows into the experiences of children who had no say in the story they were handed, and into what it took to find their footing within it.

If you are a parent who has put your children through something like this, listen carefully. This one is for you.

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Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/056

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In this second episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim Tedder and his ex-wife Konnie talk about the disclosure of Tim's affair—first the partial truth, then the full confession he chose to make a week later.

What followed was one of the most revealing stretches of their marriage: Konnie processing devastating grief while Tim watched, emotionally unreachable, from somewhere he couldn't explain. They tried. They stayed under the same roof for months, attempting repairs neither of them was fully equipped to make. And then, it was a misunderstanding that became the excuse for choices that would unravel their marriage.

This episode doesn't soften their hard history, but it also doesn't leave you without hope. Two people talking this honestly about this much pain, with this much respect for each other, is its own kind of evidence that something worthwhile survived.

I SHOULD FEEL SOMETHING (song lyrics)
©2025 Tim Tedder

I know I did this
, I know this mess is mine
You fall to your knees while I make my stand
I know I loved you so I should feel something
But your eyes flood while mine fill with sand

I feel nothing
I feel nothing

Pain shatters all around me
I feel nothing

Your heart’s broken
You scream out my name, I feel nothing
Except the shame

I should say something, I should tell you we’ll be fine
You cry for answers, I make you guess
I sing songs so words should come easy
But you strain for music while my song’s at rest

I feel nothing
I feel nothing

Pain shatters all around me
I feel nothing

Your heart’s broken
You scream out my name, I feel nothing
Except the shame

Where is the man who swore he would hold you?
Where is the man with love gone wild?
He would be covering you like a champion
He would be comforting you like a child

I feel nothing
I feel nothing

Pain shatters all around me
I feel nothing

Your heart’s broken
You scream out my name, I feel nothing
Except the shame

My fist holds tight the seeds of regret
Someday I might plant them, but I’m not ready yet

LINKS and EXTRAS

Episode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/055

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