Why You Keep Choosing the Same Person (With a Different Face) with Nick Onken and Nicky Clinch

In this episode, Nick and I get into one of the questions I find most confronting and most necessary: why do we keep choosing the same person, just with a different face?

We look honestly and specifically at our own relational histories - tracing the types we kept choosing, the childhood imprints underneath those choices, and what it actually took to begin doing it differently.

If you have ever wondered why the pattern keeps repeating no matter how much work you do, this episode will show you exactly why - and what it looks like when you are genuinely ready to outgrow it.

You’ll Learn:

• Why you keep attracting the same relational dynamic, no matter how different the person seems

• Why the honeymoon phase ending is not the problem - it is the beginning

• The difference between seeing your pattern and actually outgrowing it

• The seven types of intimacy all human beings need - and why compatibility goes far beyond chemistry

• Why genuine safety can feel, at first, like something is missing

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This is the final episode of Season 2. Thank you for being here, for listening, and for bringing this work into your life.

Season 3 returns in September. I cannot wait to continue this work with you then.

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Ready to Go Deeper?

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Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

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Connect with Nicky:

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

I’m re-releasing my most downloaded episode this week! Because it feels more important and necessary right now than ever before: What is maturation?

When you do this work, you’ll find the teachings land in a completely different way, because of where you are now listening from.

Why do we have consistent problems that keep repeating no matter how much we try to change and solve them?

Unless we outgrow the survival identity formed in our early childhood, our life will continue to organise around it. And as long as this stays unconscious, it will continue to rob us of the power to create the life we were meant to live.

In this episode, I’ll share how we as a species can mature into a new way of being and outgrow the blind spots that are colouring our reality.

You’ll Learn:

• Practical strategies for recognising and overcoming blind spots

• How to grow and evolve beyond your childhood survival identity

• The shift from managing survival to outgrowing it

• How to live your life from higher levels of maturity, consciousness, and potential

And lot’s more!

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Ready to Go Deeper?

Take Your First Step Into This Life Changing Work…

Listening to Life:

A 4-Day Intensive Transformative Programme to completely shift beyond the current limitations, repeating problems, and patterns in your life. Discover an entirely new possibility for who you truly are and the life you can live.

• Join our Programme Priority List to get the latest news: https://nickyclinch.lpages.co/listening-to-life-opt-in/

• Book Your Call with Our Team: https://calendly.com/d/cw78-zx3-wdt/listening-to-life-discovery-call

PLUS

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch: https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/27

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

Connect with Nicky:

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.

In this week's episode, Nicky is joined by her partner and love Nick Onken for a raw, unscripted conversation recorded just days after returning from a profound seven-day couples Divine Union immersion in Costa Rica.

Nothing was prepared. Nothing was scripted. What you'll hear is two people still integrating one of the most transformative experiences of their lives. The real, tender, and sometimes uncomfortable truth of what it means to do deep work together, and what becomes possible when you do.

This episode picks up where their first conversation left off, going deeper into the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, the wounds we carry into relationships, and what it truly looks like to choose each other at a root level.

You’ll Learn:

• Their profound experience throughout their divine union immersion

• Why the distinction between "I need you to feel complete" and "I cannot reach my highest without you” changes everything

• The childhood wounds (strict religious control, inherited scarcity, a mother's survival) that were showing up in their relationship, and how they traced them to the root

• How to navigate conflict without drama, process your triggers before bringing them to your partner, and repair without keeping score

And lots more!

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The work we reference in this episode with the facilitator was located ⁠here⁠ if anyone is interested in exploring this option for themselves.

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Ready to Go Deeper?

Take Your First Step Into This Life Changing Work…

Listening to Life:A 4-Day Intensive Transformative Programme to completely shift beyond the current limitations, repeating problems, and patterns in your life. Discover an entirely new possibility for who you truly are and the life you can live.

• Join our Programme Priority List to get the latest news:

  https://nickyclinch.lpages.co/listening-to-life-opt-in/

• Book Your Call with Our Team:

  https://calendly.com/d/wvpz-r6zs/maturation-discovery-call

PLUS

✉️ Join Outgrowing Survival with Nicky Clinch:

https://nickyclinch.activehosted.com/f/127

Free weekly deep teachings and reflections from Nicky to mature your being and outgrow survival.

This is your invitation to go beyond surface-level change and start transforming at the root.

—

Connect with Nicky:

• Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/

• Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/

• Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation

• Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender

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Remember:

Transformation always feels uncomfortable - until it doesn't. Your next breakthrough might just be on the other side of what feels like falling apart.