In this anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on how this podcast began — and why so many women resonate with episode one: loneliness inside a marriage that looks “fine” on the outside.

Before my separation nearly 15 years ago, the fighting had stopped. But instead of feeling better, we became quiet roommates. The chaos was gone… but so was the connection.

If you’re not fighting but still feel distant, disconnected, or emotionally alone, this episode is for you.

I unpack the real root of that loneliness — attachment longing — and walk you through the five core questions underneath conflict and disconnection:

Are you there for me? Do I matter? Will you come when I call? Do you need me? Will you be there when I’m vulnerable?

You’ll learn why loneliness isn’t proof your marriage is broken — and how to move toward deeper attunement without rushing to fix everything.

If you’ve ever felt married but emotionally single, you are not alone.

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In this very special 200th episode of The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I’m sitting with you in a conversation that feels both tender and necessary—the difference between intent and impact in marriage.

Because so often, we mean well. We’re not trying to hurt our husbands or create distance. And yet, our words can land in ways we never intended, leaving both of us feeling misunderstood, defensive, or shut down. If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “That’s not what I meant,” or “I was just trying to help” I want you to know - you’re not alone!

In this episode, I talk about why good intentions aren’t always enough, and how emotional attunement is what actually creates safety and connection. I’ll walk you through why impact matters more than intent during moments of tension, and how learning to repair—rather than retreat—can become one of the most powerful tools in your marriage.

We’ll talk about how to:

• Slow down defensiveness (yours and his)
• Take responsibility for impact without drowning in shame
• Repair moments of disconnection instead of avoiding them
• Rebuild emotional safety, even when conversations feel vulnerable

This isn’t about blaming yourself or fixing your husband. It’s about learning how to show up with wisdom, humility, and grace—so reconnection becomes possible again.

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• Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching

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• • Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity
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Have you ever found yourself and your husband stuck in recurring arguments that never seem to resolve? I've been there too. Today, we're piecing together everything we've learned about the negative communication cycle and how it’s responsible for your disconnection. We're diving into practical steps to recognize, regulate, and change these patterns in real-time. We'll talk about how to move from frustration back to connection, and I'll share personal anecdotes and clients' stories that highlight the importance of breaking these cycles. By the end, you'll know how to step out of reactivity with awareness, humility, and grace, fostering a deeper, more empathetic connection in your marriage. This isn't about forcing change, but about gentle, mindful shifts that make all the difference. Join me, take a deep breath, and let's work on breaking those negative cycles together.

Wait!!! Before you go!

Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!

Work with me:

• Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching

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• Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity
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