What happens when erotic obsession stops being fantasy — and starts rewriting your reality?

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In this episode of I’m joined by author Stephen Paul Edwards to explore the psychological depths of his book The Venus Fly Trap — a story described as equal parts Fifty Shades, Gone Girl, and a therapy session with the devil.

In this episode, we explore:

• The psychology of erotic obsession.
• Fantasy vs manipulation in relationships.
• What destabilising attraction reveals about ourselves.
• Shame, secrecy, and the cost of silence.
• Why writing the truth can change the body — not just the mind.
• A live reading from the book.

Research article: Confronting a traumatic event: Toward an understanding of inhibition and disease.

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What if male submission wasn’t about giving up power — but about choosing where it belongs?

In this episode we explore the erotic realm of Taylor Ellwood, a submissive, men’s coach, and writer living in a 24/7 female-led dynamic, to explore masculinity, devotion, and sovereign submission through a psychological lens.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why submission must be chosen, not defaulted into.
• The difference between “nice guy” behaviour and genuine devotion.
• Submission as discipline, not self-erasure.
• Masculinity beyond performance and dominance.
• How erotic polarity and meaning shape long-term D/s relationships.

Research article: Perks, problems, and the people who play: A qualitative exploration of dominant and submissive BDSM roles

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What if pleasure wasn’t the opposite of responsibility — but one of its foundations?

In this episode of I’m joined by Tanya Griffin — entrepreneur, sexual wellness and harm-reduction educator, and flow-state practitioner — to explore the psychology of pleasure, altered states, and embodied leadership.

In this episode, we explore:

• Pleasure as a measure of freedom, not indulgence.
• Flow states in sex, embodiment, and longevity.
• Intention vs. compulsion in erotic and altered states.
• Conscious use of cannabis and psychoactives in sexuality.
• Shame reduction as harm reduction — in sex and substances.

Research article: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.

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