In this episode, I explore the ideas from Wanting by Luke Burgis and why so many of us feel restless, dissatisfied, or perpetually chasing “the next thing,” even when our lives look good on paper.

I look at the concept of borrowed desire (mimesis), the difference between thin and thick desires, and how stress and nervous system dysregulation make it nearly impossible to know what we truly want.

This episode is especially for women who:

• feel stuck or disoriented after quitting drinking
• are high-achievers who’ve done “everything right” but still feel unfulfilled
• notice themselves chasing relief instead of meaning
• want a slower, more honest relationship with desire

We also explore scapegoating, why removing habits or people doesn’t always bring peace, and how creating safety in the nervous system is often the missing step in clarity, alignment, and real change.

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why does nothing I want ever feel like enough?” — this conversation will meet you there.

Ways to continue the work:

🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.

Free: The Complete Guide to Quitting Drinking .. a nervous-system-based guide for understanding cravings, stress, and stop/start cycles.

🧭 Personalized clarity: The Personal Power Map — a personalized nervous system and identity audit with a video walkthrough.

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Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateone

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What if ambition isn’t about wanting more, but about what you’re actually able to hold?

In this episode, I’m breaking down the Law of Ambition — a concept that really resonated when I heard it and it reshaped how I think about growth, money, leadership, and nervous system capacity for 2026.

I had already known some of the universal laws, like the Law of Attraction and the Law of Correspondence, but the Law of Ambition was new to me. It explained why ambition expands for some people and collapses for others, even when the desire is there.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the Law of Ambition actually is (and what it’s not)
• Why ambition shrinks under stress, burnout, and dysregulation
• How your nervous system sets your “ambition ceiling”
• The difference between survival ambition and true, embodied ambition
• How to expand your capacity before chasing bigger goals
• Six grounded steps you can use to apply the Law of Ambition in your own life

This episode is for high-capacity women who feel called to more ... more ease, more money, more leadership, more alignment ... without burning themselves out in the process.

If ambition has felt inconsistent, heavy, or fragile lately, nothing has gone wrong. Your system may just be asking for safety before expansion.

Listen in to learn how to work with ambition instead of forcing it.

Ways to continue the work:

🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.

Free: The Complete Guide to Quitting Drinking .. a nervous-system-based guide for understanding cravings, stress, and stop/start cycles.

🧭 Personalized clarity: The Personal Power Map — a personalized nervous system and identity audit with a video walkthrough.

Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com
Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateone

If this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here

If self-improvement has started to feel exhausting instead of supportive, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I talk about why real change doesn’t come from breakthroughs, discipline, or trying harder, it comes from consistent, nervous-system-aligned practice. You’ll learn why insight alone doesn’t create lasting change, how the nervous system actually learns safety, and why so many women keep “starting over” even when they care deeply about growth.

This conversation is for high-capacity women who are tired of pushing, fixing, and optimizing themselves, and are craving steadiness, clarity, and a way of living that feels sustainable.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• Why nervous systems change through repetition, not insight
• The difference between coping and capacity
• Why motivation and willpower eventually fail
• How stress and self-override keep patterns in place
• The role of breathwork and regulation in lasting change
• How working with the physical, mental, emotional, and energetic bodies together creates integration

I also share the philosophy behind The Deliberate Practice — a nervous-system-aligned space designed to help women build steadiness, self-trust, and capacity over time, without pressure or performance.

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about practicing safety, until it becomes your default.

Ways to continue the work:

🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.

Free: The Complete Guide to Quitting Drinking .. a nervous-system-based guide for understanding cravings, stress, and stop/start cycles.

🧭 Personalized clarity: The Personal Power Map — a personalized nervous system and identity audit with a video walkthrough.

Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com
Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateone

If this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here