In this episode, I explore the ideas from Wanting by Luke Burgis and why so many of us feel restless, dissatisfied, or perpetually chasing “the next thing,” even when our lives look good on paper.

I look at the concept of borrowed desire (mimesis), the difference between thin and thick desires, and how stress and nervous system dysregulation make it nearly impossible to know what we truly want.

This episode is especially for women who:

• feel stuck or disoriented after quitting drinking
• are high-achievers who’ve done “everything right” but still feel unfulfilled
• notice themselves chasing relief instead of meaning
• want a slower, more honest relationship with desire

We also explore scapegoating, why removing habits or people doesn’t always bring peace, and how creating safety in the nervous system is often the missing step in clarity, alignment, and real change.

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why does nothing I want ever feel like enough?” — this conversation will meet you there.

Ways to continue the work:

🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.

Free: The Complete Guide to Quitting Drinking .. a nervous-system-based guide for understanding cravings, stress, and stop/start cycles.

🧭 Personalized clarity: The Personal Power Map — a personalized nervous system and identity audit with a video walkthrough.

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