They are not resisting you. They are waiting.

In Luke 14 a man throws a feast and sends out invitations. The whole town knows. Then verse 17 says he sent his servant to the people he had already invited. Same guests. Second trip. A human being walking to a specific door saying it is ready, come now.

Most churches have a verse 16 and no verse 17. You have been announcing for years and nobody has ever been sent to the person.

In this episode Henry walks through the first gate of the Member Pipeline and makes the case that your church does not have a commitment problem. It has an asking problem.

Three movements:

Nobody Sent The Servant. Luke 14:16-17 and 23. An announcement is delivered to a room. An invitation has a name in it. The sentence that works has three parts, their name, why you thought of them, and a specific next step. And no, a text blast does not count. If it went to a list, it is still an announcement.

The Silence Voted For Them. John 1:46 and 2 Timothy 1:7. Three fears stop the ask. Rejection, awkwardness, and not knowing the words. Every one of them is about the asker. Not one is about the person being asked. And the worst one is the one that sounds spiritual.

Somebody Has To Walk Them In. Acts 9:26-27. Saul tried to join the disciples and they were afraid of him. Then four words changed church history. But Barnabas took him. Belonging is assigned, not felt. Every person who stays at your church has one human being who would notice if they stopped coming.

Tools do the sending. People do the church.

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Season 7 is The Four Pipelines. Guests, Members, Givers, Leaders.

There are two different people sitting in the same seat at your church. One of them is visiting. One of them has already decided this is home.

And you treat both of them exactly the same, because you cannot tell them apart. Nobody ever built a road between them. There is a chair, and there is a family, and in most churches in this country there is absolutely nothing in between.

October opens the Member Pipeline, and Henry starts with a sentence that is going to bother some people. You have been counting the crowd and calling it the church.

Three movements. The crowd, the covenant, and the commission.

John 6. Jesus has the biggest crowd of his ministry and he preaches a sermon that empties the room. He gets harder, not softer. Not the Pharisees, his own disciples walked out. And then he turns to the twelve and asks the question no pastor in this country is willing to ask anybody. Are you also going to leave?

Jesus was willing to lose a crowd in order to keep a body. Most pastors have never been willing to lose anybody, and that is exactly why they do not have a body.

Then Ruth. Your people will be my people, your God will be my God. That is not a feeling and it is not attendance. It is a covenant statement, spoken out loud, to a specific person, with no exit built into it. A foreign woman with no claim chose a people and said so, and that one sentence put her in the lineage of Christ.

And then Paul calls them members, and we hear roster. He meant body part. A hand. A foot. An eye. A body part has a function and a place it belongs to, and a person in a crowd has neither.

You cannot commission a crowd.

IN THIS EPISODE

Why Acts 2:47 proves the early church had edges and we only have attendance

The three stages of the road: stranger, citizen, family, and why nobody skips one

Why your membership class never fills and your small group has the same eight people

The reason your leader shortage in December starts with your membership gap in October

Scripture: John 6, Acts 2:47, Ruth 1:16, Ephesians 2:19, 1 Corinthians 12

You do not have a commitment problem in your people. You have a covenant problem in your house. Nobody ever asked them for one.

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Latoya hosts and teaches this one.

You know who's struggling at your church. You know who got quiet. You know who stopped raising their hand in Bible study. You know who didn't come back after the funeral, and you know exactly which Sunday it was.

Now name the last person who noticed you.

Not the last person who needed you. Not the last person who thanked you for something you did for them. The last person who looked at you and could tell.

If you had to stop and think about it, this one is for you.

Latoya walks three things. The service, which starts in Luke 10 with Martha saying the thing out loud that most women in ministry have never said once. The silence, which is what she stopped saying and why. And the seeing, which is Genesis 16, where a pregnant slave woman alone in a desert becomes the first person in all of scripture to name God.

She doesn't call him the God who rescues me. She doesn't call him the God who fixes it. She calls him the God who sees me.

And notice what God does not do. He doesn't change her circumstance. He sends her back. What changed is that somebody saw her inside it.

IN THIS EPISODE

Why Jesus doesn't scold Martha for serving, and what he does instead

The research: 51% of women in church leadership are at high risk of burnout

Why female pastors report lower satisfaction and lower confidence than men

Four reasons she doesn't say anything, and two of them belong to the church

Genesis 16, and the difference between being watched and being seen

Scripture: Luke 10, Genesis 16:13

Being seen is not the same as being watched. Watching evaluates. Seeing knows.

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Latoya Tolbert helps lead the online campus at THE STAR Church and hosts the women's room for Simple Systems Consulting. She and Henry Tolbert help small and bivocational pastors build churches that run on systems instead of exhaustion.

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