Physician families do not need a "perfect" division of labor, they need a realistic one. In Part 2 of our Fair Play conversation, we move from concepts into application and talk about how to make the Fair Play framework work when medicine does not cooperate with routines, predictability, or a normal workweek.

We name the reality that 60, 70, 80-hour weeks are not "flexible hours," and also the important question that follows: when the physician is home, what happens during those hours? We talk about the difference between needing to decompress (human) and becoming consistently unavailable for household participation (a dynamic that slowly breaks trust).

From there, we get practical about "cards" and ownership, specifically: what responsibilities can a busy physician genuinely own from start to finish, and how do you choose those in a way that reduces resentment instead of creating more?

• The "reality check" of physician schedules, and why fairness cannot look like a simple 50/50 split

• The nuance of being physically home, but mentally and emotionally tapped out

• Decompression vs chronic unavailability, and why that distinction matters

• How to decide which Fair Play "cards" a physician can truly own

• Practical criteria for picking responsibilities that work in physician life:

  • tasks with flexible timing

  • tasks aligned with the physician's interests/strengths

  • tasks where their unique input really matters

• Examples of "physician-owned" commitments that can work even with changing rotations (like a consistent weekly tradition, kids' activities, or bedtime on specific days)

Next, we'll hear from each of our spouses about the process from their perspective, what was harder than expected, what helped, and what changed.

• Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

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When one partner is working 60, 70, 80+ hours a week, it is easy to default into, "I'll just handle everything at home." On the surface, it looks supportive. Over time, it often turns into resentment, disconnection, and a physician who feels like a guest in their own home, while the at-home partner feels like they can never step away from being the household CEO.

In Part 1 of our Fair Play series, we break down the core ideas from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky, and translate the framework into the reality of physician family life. This episode is about the concepts and language you need before you can make anything practical.

• Why "I'll do it all" starts as love, and ends as resentment

• How control can quietly become the coping strategy (and why it costs you)

• The invisible work that drains you most: planning, remembering, anticipating

• Why "Can you help with…" keeps one partner as the manager, and the other as the assistant

• The Fair Play card deck concept: making the invisible labor visible

• The game-changing framework: conception to completion

• The conversation most couples skip: defining the minimum standard of care

• A key reframe for physician families: fair does not mean equal, and all time matters

• Resentment is often a signal that a pattern no longer fits, and you do not know how to get out of it yet.

• Doing "everything" at home can unintentionally push the physician partner out of meaningful contribution at home.

• Ownership is different than helping. Ownership means the task is fully yours, without being asked, reminded, or managed.

• "Good enough" has to be defined. Otherwise, everyone is guessing, and conflict is inevitable.

• In physician families, the workload may never be 50/50, but value can still be equal.

Do you believe your time is equal to your physician spouse's time?

• Episode 34: Applying Fair Play to physician family life (how this can work with call, rotations, and unpredictable schedules)

• Then, in epsidoe 35 and 36, we'll bring in both of our spouses to share what the process felt like from their perspective, including the messy parts and what actually helped.

• Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

• Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses

• Email: hello@supportingphysicianspouses.com

If you're married to a physician, the "New Year, new you" pressure can feel extra exhausting, especially when your life is already running on a high-demand schedule. In this episode, Kendra and Katie offer you something better than resolutions: permission to honor your current season and work with your real energy, not an arbitrary calendar date.

• Why January 1 can be a terrible "starting line" (and why nature is resting when we're told to sprint)

• The seasons framework, using a farming metaphor:

  • Winter: planning, rest, reflection

  • Spring: gentle planting, experimentation

  • Summer: consistent growth and maintenance

  • Fall: harvesting wins, celebrating, completing the cycle

• Why your seasons do not have to match the calendar, and how you can be in different seasons in different areas of life

• The simplest way to identify your current season:

  • What is your energy actually like right now?

  • Does starting something new feel exciting or exhausting?

• Real-life examples from Kendra and Katie about where they are right now, and what they're choosing to say yes to, and no to

• A practical way to answer the "What are your New Year's resolutions?" question without over-explaining

• A reflection prompt to help you align this week with what you truly need

What does my season need from me right now?

Next week, we're talking about what the principles of Fair Play can look like in physician families.

Interested in Coaching with Kendra?

Schedule your interview with Kendra at https://itgetsbetternow.com/work-with-me/

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• If this episode resonated, please leave a review. It helps more physician spouses find the show.

If you're married to a physician and you've been holding a lot this year, this one is for you. Katie and Kendra share highlights from our first year, read reviews from listeners, and tease what's ahead in 2026, including a Fair Play series and conversations about your family's ecosystem.

As we head into a new year, we're looking back on the first year of the Supporting Physician Spouses podcast, how it began, what resonated most, and what we're building next. If you've been listening quietly, this is your invitation to step closer. Leave a review, send a DM, or email us with what you want next. We're building this community with you.

• How Katie and Kendra first connected through coaching, and why that matters for the medical journey

• Favorite episodes from the year (including Kendra's episode with her husband, and Katie's "marriage contract" conversation)

• Real listener reviews, and what you've shared about feeling seen and less alone

• What's coming in 2026: no traditional New Year's resolutions, family systems, and a three-part Fair Play focus (including episodes with both spouses)

• A question for you: how could this community serve you best next year?

• Email: hello@supportingphysicianspouses.com

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If this podcast has helped you feel more grounded, more understood, or simply less alone, please leave a rating and review. It helps other physician spouses find support when they need it most.

Keywords: physician spouse, physician partners, medical marriage, residency spouse, surgeon spouse, end of year reflection, invisible load, Fair Play Eve Rodsky, marriage communication, burnout prevention, support for physician families

The holidays can be joyful—and complicated—when you're married to medicine.
Today we're talking about how we actually celebrate the holiday season—as physician spouses juggling unpredictable schedules, limited time off, and shifting expectations.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why creating "traditional" holiday traditions can feel hard in medical training and early practice

• How simple, flexible traditions often matter more than elaborate plans

• Letting go of comparison—especially online—and doing what works for your family

You'll hear:

• A story about how Christmas Eve pizza became a meaningful tradition during an unpredictable season

• An honest realization that we do have traditions—even if they don't look big or Instagram-worthy

• Encouragement to simplify gifts, food, and expectations during a demanding season of life

This episode is an invitation to release pressure, ignore the online noise, and give yourself permission to celebrate in ways that actually support your family—right where you are.

We're so grateful you're here. Happy holidays.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Brûléed Orange Brioche French Toast (Williams Sonoma recipe)

• The Giving Machines (charitable vending machines)

• Leave a review for Supporting Physician Spouses to help other physician families find the show

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• Email us your topic suggestions at hello@supportingphysicianspouses.com

Today we're talking about the kind of rest physician spouses actually need during the holidays—especially when the whole world seems to slow down while your home ramps up.
If you're carrying the family load while navigating your spouse's demanding end-of-year schedule, this episode was made for you.

Rest—not the "add another task to your list" kind, but the biological, necessary kind that helps you survive and stay present during an already overwhelming season.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The three types of rest most depleted in physician families during the holidays

• How emotional suppression drains your energy (and what to do instead)

• Why some social interactions restore you—and others drain you

• How sensory overload impacts your brain and your patience

• Micro-practices you can implement this week, not "when things calm down"

You'll hear:

• A vivid scene of what emotional overload looks like for a physician spouse on December 16th

• A powerful reframe that your kids don't need you to overcompensate—they need your authenticity

• Practical micro-practices for emotional, social, and sensory rest that take 1–3 minutes

This episode is especially for you if:

• You're carrying the mental, emotional, and logistical load while your partner works unpredictable hours

• You feel guilty for needing support because your spouse is already exhausted

• You want the holiday season to feel more grounded—but you have no idea where to start

• Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith's Rest Quiz: restquiz.com

• Sacred Rest by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

• Micro-practices for emotional, social, and sensory rest (from the episode)

• Need help applying this work? Book a coaching session with Kendra

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In this episode, Katie and Kendra talk honestly about what it's like to attend holiday events solo as a physician spouse. From classroom parties to winter concerts, this season often highlights the unique pressures physician families face. We normalize the mixed emotions, offer simple ways to reduce the pressure to "perform," and share strategies to stay connected with your partner and present with your kids—even when you're the only adult who can be there.

• Your presence matters more than perfection. Kids remember how it felt, not whether two parents were in the audience.

• Normalize your emotions. Feeling sad, overwhelmed, or disappointed doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.

• Prepare yourself and your kids ahead of time. A quick, calm conversation before the event can reduce meltdowns and help everyone feel grounded.

• Have a simple response ready when someone asks, "Where's your spouse?"—something warm, brief, and not emotionally loaded.

• You don't have to overcompensate. Be present, not perfect.

• Stay connected as a couple. Share short videos, send a quick voice memo, or debrief the moment afterward so your partner still gets to be part of it.

• Find solidarity. Look for the other solo parents—you're not the only one.

Here are the resources mentioned in today's episode along with ways to connect more deeply with our community:

• See, Say, Feel, Do Framework

• Holiday routines & grounding rituals we referenced throughout the conversation

• Kendra's Coaching: It Gets Better Now
  Personalized coaching for physician spouses navigating seasons of stress, transition, and identity shifts.

• Instagram (@supportingphysicianspouses)
  Daily encouragement, tools, and community for the physician family journey.

• Join SPS Office Hours
  Monthly drop-in coaching and conversation—a space to get support, ask questions, and connect with other physician spouses in real time.

• Podcast Website / Additional Resources
  Access downloads, guides, and past episodes all in one place.

In this honest solo episode, Katie shares what's coming up for her as December begins—resistance, overwhelm, perfectionism, small-space stress, seasonal energy dips, and the pressure to "make magic" during the holidays. Instead of powering through it, she slows down and walks through the SEE–SAY–FEEL–DO framework in real time to bring intention, clarity, and compassion into the season.

If you're feeling behind, heavy, stretched thin, or unsure how to make the holidays feel good for you, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

• Overwhelmed by the holiday mental load

• Pressure to buy, curate, or perform your way into "magic"

• Exhausted before the season even begins

• Triggered by small-space decorating or clutter

• A dip in energy or mood as the days get darker

• Like you're doing the emotional labor and planning alone

• Unsure how you want the holidays to feel

• Behind the Mic email list

• Office Hours with Kendra and Katie

• It Gets Better Now Coaching with Kendra

• The Minimalist Christmas by Meg Nordmann