In this powerful episode of "The Summer of Me," we explore the intricate process of how to get over a breakup . It's often not the person we miss, but the identity and personal growth, and opportunities we experienced within that relationship. Drawing on her personal experiences after divorce, she explains how fantasy, hope, and a focus on potential can keep someone attached to unhealthy dynamics. This discussion offers essential breakup advice, guiding you through the grieving process towards significant personal growth and self development.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction
00:29 My Post-Divorce Relationship
01:22 Dating Potential
02:54 Hope as a Drug
05:13 Why Breakups Hurt
07:12 Identity After a Breakup
08:00 The Breakup Reframe
09:32 How to 'Metabolize the Grief' (Step-by-Step)
10:53 Rebuild Self-Expansion
12:26 Takeaways + Homework
14:18 Closing: You Were Always the Magic

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In this episode, Kendra opens up about her personal journey with being "easy to love" and how this mindset impacted her relationships. She discusses the importance of self-improvement and personal growth, encouraging listeners to prioritize their own self-worth. Kendra's insights aim to foster a deeper understanding of self-love and self-esteem, moving beyond external validation.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction: The Struggle of Being Easy to Love
00:48 The Cost of Being Easy to Love
01:01 Personal Experiences and Marriage
01:52 Childhood Conditioning and Identity
03:53 The Turning Point: Choosing Myself
09:23 The Trap of Self-Silencing
12:13 The Price of Likability Over Respect
13:41 Confusing Peace with Connection
16:58 Self-Reflection and Overcoming the Fear of Needs
18:49 Conclusion: Seeking Connection Over Convenience

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This week, Kendra is talking about companionship, reflecting on her personal journey from loneliness to finding solace and connection beyond romantic partners. She emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and the significance of fostering deep relationships with friends and family. Kendra talks about overcoming fears of loneliness, the necessity of facing it head-on, and the growth that comes from embracing solitude.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction to Companionship

00:15 The Struggle with Loneliness

01:22 Finding Solace in Being Alone

02:38 Beyond Romantic Relationships

04:48 The Importance of Community

06:36 Redefining Companionship

10:22 Practical Tips for Overcoming Loneliness

13:45 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

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Today, Kendra is exploring the concept of microabandoning: the small, repeated decision to overlook your own needs. She explains how this can lead to full self-abandonment, causing significant emotional and physical stress. Kendra gives strategies for combating micro-abandonments, and encourages listeners to choose themselves by making small, intentional decisions to prioritize their own needs and well-being, aiming for a more fulfilling and balanced life.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Welcome to the Summer of Me
00:25 Introducing the Substack Community
01:08 Understanding Micro Abandonment
04:54 Defining Micro Abandonment
05:42 Self-Silencing Behaviors
09:45 Minimizing Your Feelings
12:07 Shrinking to Keep Others Comfortable
13:31 Embracing Uniqueness and Rejecting Conformity
14:34 The Trap of Over-Functioning
16:00 Listening to Your Body's Signals
17:35 Unmet Needs and Emotional Starvation
19:39 Psychological Drivers of Self-Abandonment
21:24 Micro Choosing Yourself: Steps to Self-Rediscovery
26:33 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Feeling lost, but you aren't sure what steps to take to find yourself again? In this episode, Kendra shares some signs of self-abandonment and her best tips for getting back on track. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and self-worth, and identifying your desires, even if they differ from societal norms and expectations. Kendra encourages women to recognize their worth and establish anchors to realign and live a more fulfilling life.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

00:50 Signs You've Disappeared

03:54 You Don't Know What You Want

06:44 Performing the Expected Version of Yourself

11:00 Feeling Numb or Just Fine

13:34 Outsourcing Your Self-Worth

17:31 Your Life Runs, but You Don't

19:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode of the Summer of Me, Kendra deep dives into the unexpected and often overlooked positive parts of divorce. From the freedom to eat and buy whatever you want, to having the bed to yourself, Kendra shares her personal silver linings and encourages listeners to embrace their new chapter.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction to the Silver Linings of Divorce
00:54 Underrated Freedoms
02:20 Sleeping
03:08 Home Cleanliness
04:28 Remote Control Freedom
05:13 Shopping
05:54 Decorating
06:13 Embracing Sadness
06:56 Conclusion: Embracing the Single Life

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This week, Kendra is talking all about becoming magnetic and playing the main character role in your life. She explains the law of attraction and attachment theory, particularly in the context of dating. Kendra shares practical advice, like labeling emotional triggers, redirection responses, and maintaining your self-worth. This episode emphasizes the importance of centering yourself to attract healthier relationships. Kendra discusses how cognitive bias can influence our behaviors and provides valuable insights into self-love and self-prioritization, highlighting how they can transform your life.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction to Magnetic Attraction
00:09 Understanding the Law of Attraction
00:29 Applying Attraction in Dating and Relationships
01:43 Dealing with Anxiety and Attachment
03:53 The Psychology Behind Attachment
08:30 Becoming the Main Character in Your Life
17:10 Practical Tips for Staying Grounded
20:24 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

LINKS:
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Welcome back to The Summer of Me! In case you're new here, Kendra is diving deep into her personal journey, navigating through self-abandonment, divorce, and the realization that she needed to reclaim her own identity. Reflecting on her wake-up call, Kendra is here to encourage women to prioritize themselves and take small, intentional steps toward their true selves. Tune in for practical advice and the validation that it's never too late to choose yourself.

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction
00:12 The Slow Loss of Identity
01:02 Personal Stories of Self-Abandonment
04:59 Realizations and Turning Points
11:37 The Summer of Me
15:46 Reinventing Myself
17:18 Encouragement and Conclusion

LINKS:

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