Before you can do shadow work, you need to understand what happens when your psyche fights back.
In this episode, I break down 20+ ego defense mechanisms — what they are, why they exist, and what they're actually trying to protect inside you. This isn't just theory. These defenses show up constantly in my 1:1 practice, in my own journey, and now in the comments of my viral videos (which... said a lot).
We cover everything from repression and projection to intellectualization, splitting, projective identification, passive aggression, somatization, and beyond.
You'll also learn why your defenses tend to get loudest right before a real identity shift — and why that's actually a sign you're doing something right.
Whether you use Jungian, IFS, or Freudian language, this episode gives you a framework to recognize when a protector has been activated, get curious instead of shameful, and start working with your psyche instead of against it.
In this episode:

The difference between repression and suppression
Projection, displacement, reaction formation — the big hitters
Why intellectualization feels like progress but keeps you stuck
Splitting, introjection, and identity-protecting defenses
Somatization, dissociation, and when your body is the defense
How to know when you're ready to push through vs. when to wait

This episode was made for my REBORN community, but it's for anyone doing serious inner work.

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About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

What happens when we stop avoiding the most socially conditioned part of ourselves?
In this episode, we go deep into sexual shadow work through the lens of Jungian depth psychology - what it is, why it matters, and how to actually start doing it. Not as a way to spice up your sex life, but as a direct line into your creative energy, your intuition, your authenticity, and your aliveness.
Because our sexuality isn't just about sex. In Jungian terms, libido is psychic energy - the energy that animates everything. And when it's riddled with shame or disconnection, it shows up in every area of our lives.
We cover:
What the sexual shadow is and how it forms
How unprocessed sexual shame affects creativity, relationships, and abundance
How to identify your root sexual programming
How to use recurring patterns and judgments as shadow maps
What the erotic persona is and what it's hiding
How to decode your fantasies and kinks as psychological data
What we can expect when we actually do this work
This is for anyone who:
Has done therapy, breathwork, or personal development work and keeps hitting the same walls
Wants to understand the psychology behind desire, shame, and fantasy
Is curious about Jungian shadow work applied to sexuality and relationships
Feels disconnected from their creative energy, sensuality, or sense of self
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Connect with Me:

• 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper
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If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.

About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

If you keep getting ghosted, this video is for you — and it's probably not the answer you're expecting.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the pattern of being pursued, falling for someone, and then watching them disappear — from a depth psychology and Jungian perspective. Because ghosting isn't just bad luck, and it isn't just "men being men" or "women being women." It's a message from your unconscious mind.

I share my own experience with this exact pattern, how it connects to childhood abandonment trauma, and why our psyche keeps recreating the same emotional architecture — even when we consciously want something completely different. We also get into repetition compulsion, projection, shadow work, and the mirror principle.

In this video:

• Why your psyche recruits people who will ghost you (and what it's trying to heal)
• The role of your earliest attachment experiences in your adult relationships
• Why you might be more emotionally unavailable than you think
• How your shadow plays out in the people you attract
• Reflection questions to map this pattern in your own life
• A guided Jungian active imagination visualization to access deeper wisdom around love and connection

This isn't about blame — yours or theirs. It's about recognizing that you are a co-creator of your relational patterns, which means you actually have the power to change them.

REBORN — my 12-week live program — is open for enrollment now. We go deep on attachment, the erotic imagination, the nervous system, the heart, and more

READY TO GO DEEPER? 🖤

[📖 FREE Workbook: Erotic Shadow Workbook]

[👩‍💻Book a session with me here]

[🌹Be REBORN: A 12-week Erotic Shadow Journey]

[☕️ Support my work]

Connect with Me:

• 📱 TikTok: @jaclynproper
• 📺 YouTube: @jaclynproper

If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review and sharing it with someone who might benefit.

About Jaclyn Proper: Jaclyn is a Jungian Coach & Underworld Priestess dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.