In this episode of Secret Life of Therapists, Dr. Habiba Zaman peels back the layers of codependency: the invisible patterns that shape how we love, help, and lose ourselves in others. From the therapist’s couch to everyday relationships, we explore why “being the strong one” can quietly become a trap, how caretaking turns into self-erasure, and what it really means to set boundaries without guilt.

Blending clinical insight with honest reflection, this conversation challenges the fantasy of self-sacrifice and exposes the emotional costs of over-functioning. Whether you identify as a helper, healer, or chronic peacekeeper, this episode invites you to rethink connection, reclaim autonomy, and redefine what healthy attachment truly looks like.

Because sometimes, the most therapeutic question isn’t “How can I help?”, it’s “Who am I when I stop trying to save everyone else?”

Secret Life of Therapists pulls back the curtain on what really happens beyond the therapy room, where mental health meets politics, power, and social change. In a world shaped by polarization, policy shifts, and collective stress, therapists are not just listeners; they are witnesses, advocates, and sometimes quiet rebels.

Each episode explores how the political climate impacts mental health, clinical practice, and communities, while unpacking the ethical tensions and personal dilemmas therapists face when advocacy and professionalism collide. Through candid conversations, real-world stories, and expert insights, the podcast challenges the myth of therapist neutrality and asks a bold question: what does it mean to care in an unjust world?

Insightful, honest, and occasionally irreverent, Secret Life of Therapists is where psychology meets activism and where healing becomes a form of resistance.

In this episode of Secret Life of Therapists, the conversation with Kaylan Maloney explores a nuanced tension many people face in relationships: the difference between genuinely protecting one’s peace and unintentionally using that concept to avoid necessary communication and emotional repair. The hosts unpack how “protecting your peace” has become a popular mantra, often framed as a form of self-care, while also examining how it can sometimes mask fear of conflict, discomfort, or vulnerability.

Through a therapeutic lens, the episode distinguishes healthy boundary-setting from emotional withdrawal. Protecting one’s peace, the hosts explain, involves intentional choices that preserve emotional well-being without abandoning responsibility for honest dialogue or relational repair. In contrast, avoidance can erode trust, stall growth, and perpetuate unresolved resentment, even when it feels calm on the surface.

The discussion also addresses why repair conversations are often misinterpreted as threats to peace, when in reality they can be a pathway to deeper safety, clarity, and connection. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own patterns: Are they choosing peace as an act of self-respect, or using it as a shield against difficult but necessary conversations?

Grounded in clinical insight and real-world examples, this episode offers a thoughtful reframe of peace, not as the absence of conflict, but as the presence of integrity, boundaries, and the courage to engage.

In this episode of Secret Life of Therapists, the conversation with Kaylan Maloney takes on one of the most uncomfortable and relatable human struggles: the difficulty of accepting people for who they truly are. Whether in romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, or therapy rooms, the urge to fix, reshape, or hold others to who we wish they would be is examined with honesty and depth.

The discussion explores how unmet expectations, attachment patterns, and unspoken needs fuel frustration and disappointment, often eroding connection in the process. With a therapeutic lens and real-world insight, this episode challenges listeners to reflect on control, compassion, and the courage it takes to meet people where they are without abandoning ourselves in the process.

In this episode of Secret Life of Therapists, the conversation with Jen Hawkins turns inward to explore how a mother’s identity evolves across the lifespan of her children. From the early years of total immersion to the quieter, more complex transitions of independence, motherhood is examined not as a fixed role, but as a continually shifting sense of self.

The discussion unpacks the emotional, psychological, and relational changes that emerge at each stage: grief for former versions of oneself, pride in growth, and the challenge of redefining purpose as children need us differently. Thoughtful and deeply relatable, this episode offers validation, nuance, and space for mothers navigating who they are becoming alongside who their children are becoming.

In this episode of Secret Life of Therapists, Chris Irving steps into the conversation to offer a candid, grounded male perspective on modern dating and long-term relationships. With honesty and humor, he unpacks the often unspoken pressures men face in navigating emotional availability, redefining masculinity, and learning new roles in partnerships that no longer follow old scripts.

The discussion goes beyond dating advice, exploring how self-awareness, communication, and adaptability shape healthier relationships. Chris shares real-world insights on growth, accountability, and what it truly means to show up as a partner today, making this episode a compelling listen for anyone curious about how men are evolving in love, connection, and personal development.

Welcome to The Anti-Resolution Club Episode in The Secret Life of Therapists Podcast, where therapists Dr. Habiba Zaman and Kaylan Maloney ditch the pressure of New Year’s resolutions and choose something more human. Instead of goals that burn out by February, we explore the power of selecting one intentional word to guide your year across every part of life: relationships, work, mental health, boundaries, and self-trust. Through honest therapist conversations, real-life reflections, and practical insight, this podcast offers a grounded, compassionate way to approach growth without perfection, shame, or hustle. No fixing yourself, just focusing forward. Less pressure. More clarity. Real growth.

In this episode of Secret Life of Therapists, host Dr. Habiba Zaman and Kaylan Maloney explores the psychological journey of how we learn to love, from childhood attachment patterns to adult relational dynamics. Drawing on her clinical experience and research in developmental psychology, Dr. Zaman demystifies the emotional and cognitive processes that shape our capacity for intimacy, trust, and connection.

Through engaging storytelling and case-informed insights (anonymized for confidentiality), this episode examines:

• The roots of love in early attachment experiences and caregiver relationships
• How internal beliefs about self-worth influence the way we give and receive love
• Common barriers to healthy emotional connection, including fear of vulnerability, avoidance behaviors, and unresolved trauma
• Therapeutic practices that support healing and cultivate sustainable, meaningful relationships

Dr. Zaman also discusses actionable tools listeners can apply in their own lives, such as reflective self-inquiry, communication strategies, and mindful presence, to nurture deeper bonds with themselves and others.

Secret Life of Therapists invites you behind the scenes of therapeutic practice to illuminate the universal yet often hidden processes that shape human connection.