Choosing a secondary school can feel like one of the biggest decisions a family makes — so how do you cut through the noise and work out which school is genuinely right for your child?

In Episode 3 of School Ties, Freddie Mills and Henry Stoot break down the secondary school search, from when families should start looking and how many schools to shortlist, to the factors that really matter when making a decision.

They explore some of the choices parents often wrestle with: big school or small? Single-sex or co-educational? Specialist strengths or a broad range of opportunities? And, crucially, how much should reputation and academic results influence the decision?

At the heart of the conversation is a simple idea: start with the child, not the school. Freddie and Henry discuss the importance of understanding a child’s personality, strengths, interests and support needs, and finding an environment in which they can genuinely flourish.

They also tackle some of the most common mistakes families make — including applying to too many schools, relying on websites rather than visiting, comparing children with siblings or friends, and chasing a prestigious name at the expense of the right fit.

Freddie shares a real example of a family whose original school choice turned out not to offer the boarding experience they expected, and how careful guidance helped them find an alternative when time was running short.

A practical guide to making the secondary school search feel less overwhelming — and keeping the individual child at the centre of the decision.

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In Episode 2 of School Ties, Freddie Mills and Henry Stoot take a closer look at what boarding education really looks like today — and how families can decide whether it’s the right choice for their child.

Moving beyond outdated stereotypes, they explore modern boarding life, from full and weekly boarding to increasingly flexible options designed around family life. They discuss what helps children make a successful transition into boarding, whether there really is a “right age” to start, and the importance of finding the right child, right school and right time.

Drawing on Henry’s experience as a Head of Boarding and Freddie’s work supporting families through the school selection process, they explore what makes a genuinely great boarding environment: strong relationships with house staff, clear routines and boundaries, emotional safety, friendships, activities and that all-important sense of belonging.

They also share practical advice on what parents and children should look for when visiting a boarding school, the questions worth asking, and why the atmosphere in a boarding house can tell you far more than a prospectus.

Finally, Freddie and Henry discuss school fairs, open days and other opportunities to meet schools face-to-face — helping families explore their options with greater confidence.

A practical and reassuring guide to navigating modern boarding education and finding the right environment for your child.

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In the first episode of School Ties, Freddie Mills and Henry Stoot introduce themselves and explore some of the big questions facing parents and schools at the start of a new academic year.

From the impact of VAT and falling birth rates to changing patterns in boarding and the future of independent education, Freddie and Henry look beyond the headlines at what these developments actually mean for families. They also discuss admissions, planning for the year ahead, and the trends parents should be keeping an eye on.

Finally, they tackle one of the biggest decisions families face: how do you choose the right boarding school? Looking beyond league tables and reputation, they discuss the importance of culture, pastoral care, boarding style, extracurricular opportunities and, above all, finding the right fit for the individual child.

A practical, accessible conversation for parents navigating the world of independent and boarding education.

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