Self-Compassion for Resilience: Why Positivity Requires Kindness, Not Just Discipline

What if the reason you can't stick with positivity isn't because you lack discipline—but because you lack compassion?

You can't hate yourself into healing. You can't shame yourself into showing up. Real positivity requires compassion—especially when positivity feels far away.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why compassion isn't soft—it's strategic. And how to train it so you can build sustainable resilience without burning out.

💕 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:→ Why self-criticism keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)→ How emotions are information, not failure→ Why your body holds what your mind won't say→ How to show up as you are—not as you think you should be→ The ONE phrase that shifts self-criticism to self-compassion

🔥 THIS IS FOR YOU IF:You're hard on yourself for not being "positive enough" | You know you need discipline but you're burning out | You beat yourself up when you're not perfect | You're ready to balance pushing forward with being kind to yourself

🎯 THE 3 TRAINING ZONES FOR COMPASSION:**MINDSET ZONE: Emotions Are Information, Not Failure**Your feelings aren't weakness—they're signals. Anger = boundary crossed. Sadness = something lost. Fear = uncertainty. Meet them with kindness, not criticism. The question isn't "What's wrong with me?" It's "It's understandable I feel this way."

**MOVEMENT ZONE: Your Body Is Talking—Are You Listening?**Tightness in your chest. Knot in your stomach. Exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix. Your body holds what your mind won't say. Compassion means listening. Rest isn't lazy—it's strategic. Slowing down isn't weak—it's wise.

**EXPRESSION ZONE: You're Worthy Now—Not When You're Fixed**You don't have to wait until everything is perfect to be worthy of love. Show up messy. Imperfect. Human. You wouldn't berate a friend for struggling—so why do it to yourself? That's not failure. That's strength.✨ YOUR ENERGY REP:When self-criticism starts this week, pause and say out loud:**"It's understandable I feel this way."**Not "I shouldn't feel this way."Not "I need to fix this."Just: "It's understandable I feel this way."Take one breath. Notice what softens.💬 DM me on Instagram @sass_schaeffer: How are you showing yourself compassion this week?

**The truth:** On Tuesday, we talked about positivity as discipline. And that's real. But discipline without compassion is just punishment.

You need both. The muscle to keep going. The kindness to meet yourself where you are.Train your energy, or go negative by default.---HOST: Sass | Energy Coach, RD, CPT, Keynote SpeakerTrain Your Energy or Go Negative by DefaultPracticeYourPositive.com

Think positivity is something you're born with? That you either have it or you don't?

Wrong.

Positivity isn't a mood you wait for. It's a muscle you build through daily practice—just like getting in shape.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why positivity is discipline, not destiny—and how to train it so it becomes your default.

💪 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:→ Why positivity is a skill you build, not a trait you're born with→ The gap between knowing what helps and actually doing it→ Why movement practices are non-negotiable, not nice-to-have→ How consistent practice becomes your new default identity→ The ONE energy rep that builds positivity muscle memory

🔥 THIS IS FOR YOU IF:You're tired of waiting to "feel positive" | You know what helps but don't do it consistently | You want real resilience, not fake smiles | You're ready to train positivity like a muscle

🎯 THE 3 TRAINING ZONES:**MINDSET ZONE: You Get 1 Point for Knowing, 10 Points for Doing**Most of us know what helps—gratitude, connection, rest, movement. But do we DO it? That's the gap. Knowledge without action is noise. Close the gap.**MOVEMENT ZONE: It's Not a Nice-to-Have, It's a Non-Negotiable**You can't wait until you feel positive to practice. You practice ESPECIALLY when you don't feel like it. Your body teaches your brain what discipline feels like.**EXPRESSION ZONE: The Doing Becomes Your Default**Through consistent practice, positivity stops being something you do and becomes someone you are. Build the muscle memory. Watch your default shift.✨ YOUR ENERGY REP:Pick ONE positive practice you already know helps:- Mindset: Daily gratitude- Movement: 10-minute walk- Expression: One boundary you've been avoidingDo it EVERY DAY this week. Even when you don't feel like it.Track it. Notice how discipline builds the muscle.

🎁 COMING MARCH 1ST: THE +12 CHALLENGE21 days of gamified energy training to build your positivity muscle WITH your team. Daily reps across all 4 Training Zones. Team accountability. Structure that makes discipline doable.Ready to train it instead of waiting for it?

💬 DM me on Instagram @sass_schaeffer: What's your ONE non-negotiable practice this week?

**Here's the truth:** Positivity isn't something you're born with. It's something you build. One rep at a time.Train your energy, or go negative by default.---

HOST: Sass | Energy Coach, RD, Keynote SpeakerTrain Your Energy or Go Negative by DefaultPracticeYourPositive.com

Want to know why you can't find your people? It's not because you're unlikable. You're doing it backwards.

Research shows the most likable people are those who LIKE other people. But here's what nobody tells you: You can't genuinely like others if you don't like yourself first.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the three-step formula for finding your tribe.

💫 THE FORMULA:Like yourself → Like others → Others like you

🎯 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:→ Why the most likable people like OTHER people→ The self-compassion secret you're missing→ How to be interested, not interesting→ Why you haven't found your tribe (you're showing up masked)→ How to attract YOUR people by being unapologetically YOU

💪 THIS IS FOR YOU IF:You want community but can't find "your people" | You're lonely even in crowds | You feel like you're performing to fit in | You're ready to show up authentic

✨ YOUR ENERGY REP: Have ONE conversation 100% focused on the other person. Be genuinely curious.

🎁 COMING MARCH 1ST:The +12 Challenge — 21 days of energy training WITH your team.

💬 DM me on Instagram @Sass_Schaeffer: What's one "weird" thing you usually hide? Let's normalize being ourselves.Connection isn't about being perfect. It's about being REAL.---

HOST: Sass SchaefferTrain Your Energy or Go Negative by DefaultPracticeYourPositive.com