Ever chased a goal thinking it would finally make you feel "enough"—only to feel empty when you got there? This episode digs into the performance trap: the cycle of achieving more and more while still feeling unfulfilled inside.

Dr. Teresa Reyes Castillo and Silvana Deigan explore why we set goals that can never actually satisfy us—like buying a fancy car hoping it will make us feel loved, or climbing the corporate ladder seeking approval we never got as kids. Spoiler: you don't just get a car and roll into a commercial where everyone's popping bottles. That's not how it works.

The sisters share their own stories: Silvana's short-lived (and embarrassing) career as a conservatory dancer, Teresa's 23-year journey to become a psychologist despite being told she'd never get into a PhD program, and why the motivation behind your goals matters more than the achievement itself.

In this episode:

• Why external achievements can't fill internal voids
• The difference between goals driven by passion vs. goals driven by approval-seeking
• How "keeping up with the Joneses" leads to emptiness
• Silvana's brilliant "post-it note dance" exercise for letting go (and why some baggage isn't even yours)
• The importance of your support system over any career milestone
• Why you're still taking yourself into that fancy car—anxiety, insecurities and all

Key takeaway: The performance trap is setting goals designed to fail—chasing external validation for internal fulfillment. Real satisfaction comes from knowing why you're pursuing something and surrounding yourself with people who support the real you.

Permission granted: Stop performing. Start living.

What if your brain sees your future self as a complete stranger?

In this episode, Dr. Teresa Reyes Castillo and Silvana Deigan explore a powerful exercise inspired by neuroscience: writing letters to their future selves. Research shows our brains process our future selves the same way they process strangers, so how do we bridge that gap?

The sisters share their deeply personal letters out loud. Silvana's focuses on expanding her women's healing circle globally and living in the frequency of abundance. Teresa's is a conversation across time—acknowledging that every decision today, from working out to building relationships, is an investment in who she's becoming.

In this episode:

• The brain science behind visualizing your future self
• Silvana's mantra: "Words are spells"
• Why doing the dishes tonight is a gift to tomorrow's self
• Book launch updates and potential podcast guests

Permission granted: Write yourself a letter. Your future self is waiting.

In this raw and personal episode, Silvana opens up about her divorce and the well-meaning advice she received: "the grass is not always greener on the other side." But what if that saying has it all wrong?

Dr. Teresa Reyes and Silvana Deigan challenge conventional wisdom about staying versus leaving, exploring how the grass can be green wherever you choose to stand—if you're willing to nurture it. They discuss the power of imagining your future, trusting your path, and making conscious choices that align with who you're becoming.

This conversation dives deep into decision-making, trust, personal growth, and the courage it takes to water your own grass instead of wondering if it's greener somewhere else.