#230. In this Ask P episode of Note to Self, Payton answers listener questions about navigating life’s in-between seasons — from fresh breakups and New Year resets to long-term relationship “ebbs,” family dynamics, friendship loss, and early dating red flags. This episode explores how to move through heartbreak while staying hopeful, maintain independence inside committed relationships, and set boundaries with parents as an adult. Payton also shares her perspective on New Year’s resolutions that actually stick, staying motivated during winter, and how to find peace when a friendship ends without closure. If you’re in your 20s or 30s and rebuilding, recalibrating, or quietly starting over, this episode offers grounded advice and permission to take your time.

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#229. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel fully present, this episode is for you. We break down why getting out of your head isn’t a mindset shift but a nervous system one, and how embodiment creates calm, confidence, and connection. Think of this as a gentle invitation back into your body — and back into yourself.

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#228. Welcome to the 2026 toolkit—a curated collection of what's working, what's worth it, and what creates the infrastructure for an intentional life. This isn't about perfection or having it all figured out; it's about the specific tools, rituals, and systems that help you show up as a better version of yourself. Your good life starts with what you choose to let in.

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