#257. Why is the party girl suddenly everywhere again? This week I trace the shift from clean girl and tradwife aesthetics to a messier, freer moment — the culture, the politics, the history of partying through hard times — plus the party girl commandments and my hoe theory.

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#256. I'm sitting down with brand strategist, angel investor, and Material Interest writer Kira Mackenzie Jackson to talk about building credibility and wealth when your career doesn't follow a straight line. We get into following a "random" interest until it becomes real expertise, the entry-level truth about angel investing, and Kira's rule for balancing consistency with the innovation that keeps you feeling alive — plus honest talk on motherhood and building an ambitious career that still leaves room for a life.

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#255. Am I slowly turning into my mother? I sat down with genetic counselor Natalie Samson to figure out how much of who we are is actually written in our DNA — and how much we get to choose. We get into inheritance, the traits that surprise you, and why your genes are a starting point, not a life sentence.

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#254. This week's ASK P tackles the questions you've been scared to ask out loud — navigating friendship breakups and having no close friends in your 20s, spending your birthday alone, advocating for your needs in the bedroom, walking away from a situationship, and moving to a big city on your own. It's a little tough love, a lot of validation, and a reminder that you're allowed to want more. Send me your own ASK P questions using the link below. 🤍

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#253. My best friend, Kristen Ritchie, has one of those jobs everyone's curious about and nobody really understands: she's a celebrity stylist— and she's annoyingly private about all of it. So I made her explain herself. We get into what a day on set actually looks like, how she built a career by leaning on her friends and saying no to almost everything, and why she'd rather let the work speak than post about it. Plus a proper summer style Q&A: the staples, the sneakers, and how to actually survive business casual.

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#252. I’m mourning the loss of me… but, like, in a good way? In this episode, we are ending over a year of internal personal chaos with realizations about growth, releasing old versions of self, and stepping into a new phase of life. This episode is very much giving *classic* NTS, and for that, we are thankful.

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#251. Everyone’s favorite seasonal series – summer favorites! I’ve gathered a long list of summertime favorites, from skincare & makeup to most-listened-to podcasts and perspective-changing Substack articles. I’ll link everything linkable on ShopMy, of course. Xx

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#250. In today’s ASK P, we are discussing mostly relationship-related topics, with a little glow-up note to lighten the mood. Listeners sent in sensitive topics, like “am I dating his potential or supporting him through a period of growth?,” non-existent sex lives, and sacrifices in closing the distance gap in a relationship.

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