Ever wonder how to help your teen truly thrive after treatment? In this episode of Not By Chance Podcast, host Tim and guest Roger Knecht explore how a first job can build confidence, independence, and real-world life skills. They share practical strategies for guiding your teen from treatment back to everyday life — covering topics like choosing the right work environment, setting expectations, and encouraging a strong work ethic without hovering. You’ll also learn how to nail job interviews, appreciate the value of “not-so-glamorous” work, and build resilience through real-world jobs.

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As well, if you want to give your teen a head start in job hunting and long-term career success, check out Roger’s Finding Employment with Confidence course — designed to equip teens (and adults!) with practical skills, confidence, and effective job-search strategies: universalbusinessbuilders.com/job-placement-sign-up.

What makes a family bond unbreakable? This episode of the Not By Chance Podcast is your blueprint for building lasting connections through meaningful traditions. Join Tim and Roxanne as they unpack the science and art of family rituals—revealing why shared traditions aren't just fluff, but proven keys to belonging, identity, and resilience. '

From adapting old customs to creating new ones, Tim and Roxanne explore strategies for fostering cohesion, especially as families change and grow. Whether you're approaching the holidays, navigating teens in treatment, or melding new relationships, you'll discover practical tips for making traditions work for every stage.

You'll also get free access to Trustyy's tradition builder—a simple tool that will help you prioritize and flex your family's rituals. You can access this builder at at www.trustyy.com/traditions. Tune in for lively stories, actionable advice, and fresh ways to elevate your family's celebrations. Walk away inspired to nurture love and belonging, one tradition at a time.

What if the most heated arguments with your teen could become your greatest opportunities for connection? Marriage and family therapist Emil Harker joins us to challenge everything you thought you knew about parent-child conflict. Drawing from his own struggles as a newlywed who "didn't have a clue" how to communicate, Emil reveals why hoping to avoid conflict is a terrible plan—and why real intimacy only happens when we learn to navigate it skillfully.

Emil unpacks his powerful framework of four statement types that every parent faces: criticisms, questions, declarations, and commands. You'll discover why your instinct to defend yourself backfires, and learn the counterintuitive responses that release oxytocin and create bonding moments. When your teen says "You don't care about me" or "That's ridiculous—no other parent is like you," you'll finally know exactly what to say. Emil demonstrates how agreeing with the element of truth—nothing more, nothing less—disarms conflict and opens doors you thought were permanently closed.

We tackle the respect dilemma head-on, exploring Emil's eye-opening conversation with his son who asked, "How have you taught me to respect you?" This leads to a crucial distinction between demanding deference and earning respect through consistent, accountable behavior. You'll hear a recorded example of a father who simply owned his mistakes without pushing an agenda, and his teen's stunning response: "Well, it isn't all you, dad. I got a part in it"—words this father had never heard before. It's a masterclass in why relationship must come before resolution, and how making connection your agenda naturally invites correction without force. Whether your teen is in treatment or you're navigating everyday tensions, this episode equips you with practical tools to transform conflict into your family's greatest asset.