Épisodes

  • The Relationship Trap: Confidence, Arrogance, and Emotional Maturity

    The Relationship Trap: Confidence, Arrogance, and Emotional Maturity
    Mar 6 2026
    Dr. Kerry McAvoy and Joanne close the week by dissecting why emotionally immature or narcissistic people can appear magnetic at first. They explore the difference between confidence and arrogance — and why confidence does not automatically equal competence.

    They talk about “future faking,” control disguised as transparency, and early boundary tests that often get dismissed as harmless immaturity. Kerry also references Jennie Young and her book, Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating and dating app red flags that too many people overlook.

    The episode includes moments that are absurd - like a wig-demand power play — but the underlying message is serious: dangerous patterns are more common than we want to admit. The goal isn’t revenge. It’s indifference, clarity, and freedom from doing unpaid emotional labor for someone else’s identity.
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    38 min
  • Decoding Respect and Reciprocity in Relationships

    Decoding Respect and Reciprocity in Relationships
    Mar 5 2026
    Dr. Kerry McAvoy returns for a grounded, practical conversation about disordered relationship dynamics and the confusion paradox. Kerry shares how she’s evolved her work — from therapy to coaching, to podcasting, weekly livestreams, a tiered membership model, and now an upcoming AI coach app called Reclaim You.

    Together, they unpack why survivors of disordered relationships assume everything is their fault, why some partners actively prefer chaos, and how shame (especially shame tied to perceived status loss) fuels denial, projection, and entitlement.

    They draw a clear line between therapy and coaching, explaining the licensing constraints that complicate online therapy. But they land on something refreshingly simple: two markers that cut through the fog — respect and reciprocity. If you’re doing all the apologizing and all the emotional labor, it’s not a “communication” issue. It’s imbalance.
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    33 min
  • The Confusion Paradox: Making Sense of Disordered Ties

    The Confusion Paradox: Making Sense of Disordered Ties
    Mar 4 2026
    Joanne sets the stage for her upcoming conversation with Dr. Kerry McAvoy about what she calls the “confusion paradox” — that disorienting experience of being drawn to emotionally immature or disordered partners and then blaming yourself when everything falls apart.

    She quickly recaps recent topics — deep brain reorienting, coercive control laws, dissociation, trauma bonding, antisocial vs narcissism distinctions, women’s rage — and introduces Tim’s background in psychology and sports psychology. Tim shares parts of his own story, including childhood trauma and caregiving for his grandmother, and reflects on how younger generations are pushing harder for accountability.

    The episode blends insight with humor, especially when Joanne riffs on parenting, comedy as emotional release, and a few red flags she can’t believe she once ignored.
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    33 min
  • Beyond the Brain: Understanding Psychological Abuse and (C)PTSD(I)

    Beyond the Brain: Understanding Psychological Abuse and (C)PTSD(I)
    Mar 3 2026
    This episode is deeply personal and research-heavy at the same time. Joanne explores how long-term psychological abuse can create effects that resemble brain injuries — and why, for people with PTSD, joy may not be able to be sustained.

    Drawing from research by Kelly Baez, PhD, she explains why joy can trigger anxiety: familiar suffering feels predictable, vulnerability feels dangerous, survivor’s guilt lingers, and unresolved trauma keeps the nervous system on alert. Joanne walks through practical strategies — moments of joy, self-compassion, gradual exposure, reframing beliefs, and support groups — while also reading AI-generated notes on PTSD, anhedonia, and brain reward systems.

    The conversation expands into frustration with outdated psychological models and newer research suggesting PTSD affects deeper brain regions beyond just the amygdala and hippocampus. Tim jumps in with thoughtful questions about DSM updates and even raises a difficult ethical question: can PTSD alone justify involuntary hospitalization? The episode ends not with certainty, but with honest confusion — and that’s part of the point.
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    35 min
  • When To Question Capitalism - Always - At Least Until Conscious

    When To Question Capitalism - Always - At Least Until Conscious
    Mar 2 2026
    Joanne opens this episode a lil fired up — with a little public service announcement, so to speak. She comments on home equity investment (HEI) companies that may offer homeowners about 25% of their equity upfront with no payments for 10 years… but (likely) require, in addition to payback, another 25% — which can effectively mean taking half of a home’s appreciated value and sometimes forcing a sale. In some states, this model has already been labeled predatory, and Joanne just wanted it disclosed.

    The conversation pivots to NYAYAM, a very intelligent, AI-powered legal platform Joanne found for a near a statute-of-limitations deadline. She’s impressed by its research, document review, and step-by-step guidance, while also warning AI can be wrong and should be verified. Regardless, it seeks to democratize law.

    Tim and Joanne discuss AI’s upside and downside (it can reduce thinking skills unless you know how to prompt it), its use in teaching and publishing, and wrap with Joanne previewing a break from podcasting to write more and a quick riff on conscious capitalism in the age of AI.
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    28 min
  • Compassion, Intentions, and Synchronicities/UPDATE On Coercive Control

    Compassion, Intentions, and Synchronicities/UPDATE On Coercive Control
    Feb 27 2026
    In this episode, Joanne has a conversation filled with humor and insights about the significant role of beliefs in personal transformations, the weaponization of words across generations, and the humorous synchronicities that life tends to throw our way. Pamela and Joanne discuss topics like the importance of examining situations over people, the power of finding hidden blessings, and the evolving understandings and misunderstandings of terms like empathy and intention between Gen X and Gen Z. They also touch on the challenges men face in estranged relationships and the recent legislative progress in recognizing coercive control as a form of domestic violence/abuse.
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    36 min
  • Navigating Estrangement: Obligation vs. Authenticity

    Navigating Estrangement: Obligation vs. Authenticity
    Feb 26 2026
    In this discussion, Pamela Dussault-Runtagh is still with Joanne, digging into the complex subject of family estrangement. They explore the varying desires and levels of commitment between parents and children from different generations, highlighting the challenges of balancing obligation with the quest for meaningful relationships. Pamela shares insights from her experience with Generation X parents and the unique dynamics they face. Joanne adds her personal experiences, discussing the impact of psychological abuse and the journey towards self-awareness and self healing. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation that emphasizes the need for understanding, patience, and the quest for authenticity in said relationships.
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    33 min
  • Rage, Rage, Rage: Women's Anger and Estrangement/Laugh So I Don’t Die Philosophy

    Rage, Rage, Rage: Women's Anger and Estrangement/Laugh So I Don’t Die Philosophy
    Feb 25 2026
    Join Pamela and Joanne for an uproariously candid discussion on rage, estrangement, and what’s in between. Dive into emotions you never thought would, could, and sometimes should, make you laugh. This episode lays a foundation for the hopeful impact of Joanne’s upcoming events titled “Laugh, So I Don’t Die” and the book by the same name. Pamela shares her insights from her Facebook group on coping mechanisms and the intricacies of women's rage. Laugh out loud with Joanne's witty reflections on societal expectations, brain release through humor, and the comedic potential of the so-called 'the-rapists.' This episode promises a roller-coaster ride of catharsis, hilarity, and empowerment.
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    29 min