This episode explores how peer pressure shapes lives from childhood through old age — from classroom rankings and parental comparisons to the social expectations of adulthood. The host shares personal experiences of feeling pressured, how self-awareness developed around age 20, and why knowing what you truly want helps dissolve comparison-driven anxiety.

The episode encourages listeners to discover their genuine passions early, resist following the crowd, and make choices based on personal values rather than external expectations. Practical reflections include how family support (or lack thereof) affects exploration, and why internal pressure from one’s former self can be especially damaging.

If in the future, all food—even gourmet meals—were free and instantly available, wouldn’t we all end up overweight?

Well, that future has already arrived—just not with food, but with information.

Our minds feel bloated, our brains have gotten lazy. We consume constantly, but rarely digest.

Imagination fades. Creativity stalls.

We just repeat the “right” things others have said, and our thoughts lose the freedom to be wrong in our own way.

Short videos are the fast food.

Classics are the five-star meals.

Breaking news has the shelf life of milk.

Reality shows? They’re like chips—endless, salty, and hard to stop munching on.

But if it all leads to mental obesity…

does it even matter what we’re consuming?

• [00:00:06] – The Core Idea: Spiritual Overweight
• [00:00:17] – The Analogy: Food Consumption
• [00:03:29] – Information Overload
• [00:05:00] – The Consequences: Mental Bloat
• [00:06:51] – The Solution: A Mental Diet
• [00:08:40] – Actionable Task

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Hey friends, in this episode I talked about something that’s been on my mind a lot lately—desire. Why do we always want more? Whether it’s craving knowledge, chasing trends, obsessing over food, or just wanting to feel seen and loved, these desires shape so much of who we are. I also explored how influencers, money, even love, all reflect the things we long for deep down. It’s a bit of rambling, a bit of thinking out loud—but all from the heart. Hope it resonates with you somehow.

00:00:00 The Pleasure of Destruction: Symbolic Violence in Online Debates

00:03:30 Desire Adapts: From Primal Urges to Social Conformity

00:05:29 Violence as Entertainment: A Legacy of Human Nature

00:08:00 The Craving to Be Seen: Attention and the Digital Age

00:15:28 Influencers as Mirrors of Collective Desire

00:21:30 Love and Money: The Ultimate Bundles of Human Longing

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