How well do we really know each other?

In this episode we are switching things up and having a little fun with some questions about each other. No script, no pressure, just some off-the-cuff answers, a few surprises, and a chance for you to get to know us a little better beyond the marriage conversations you usually hear from us.

And here’s the fun part: you can play along, too! Grab your spouse, make a date of it, and take turns answering these same questions together. You might be surprised by what you discover along the way.

Tell us what you learned or what surprised you: email us here and let us know!

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What exactly does it mean to be "masculine" or "feminine" in your marriage?

There are so many conflicting and confusing ideas, even in the church, about what it means to “be a man” or “be a woman.” Some of them create unhealthy competition and unhelpful expectations. Often, they leave men and women striving, performing, trying to prove themselves, or fit into a particular mold.

What if it's NOT about doing more of the “right” things? What if it starts with simply getting more in tune with who God created you to be in the first place?

In this episode, we’re clearing up some of the confusion around masculinity and femininity and exploring what it looks like to live from God’s design. There's incredible freedom and power in being present, secure, and fully alive in the way God uniquely created us. It also creates so much health in our marriages.

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Why does a husband say he’ll do something, but then not follow through?

Over time, that pattern leaves a wife feeling like she has to carry everything, manage everything, and constantly remind her husband to step up. Eventually, disappointment can turn into frustration, criticism, and control.

And on the other side, when a husband feels constantly criticized, corrected, or controlled, he may retreat even further, becoming more passive and taking less initiative. The more he steps back, the more she feels like she has to take over.

So how do you actually break the cycle? In this episode, we talk about the deeper healing that needs to happen underneath the behaviors for both husband and wife, and how each can begin taking responsibility for their part in creating a healthier marriage.

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Come to Return to Us, an intimate marriage retreat on a small private island in Belize, June 10-15, 2027.

Get Cara's FREE communication master class for wives.

Join Cara's Restored membership for wives.

Get Adam's FREE training: 5 Essentials for Leading a Wife Who Seems to Crave Control.

Join Refined Adam's online men's membership

Get the Marriage Check-in Journal: stay connected intentionally all year long and have regular, important conversations that build your relationship every week.

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