If you've ever spiraled after someone pulled away, checking their social media at midnight, replaying every conversation, trying to figure out what you did wrong, this episode is for you. The truth is, you weren't chasing them. You were chasing a verdict. And the verdict you're looking for cannot be delivered by someone who won't even text you back.In this episode we go deep on the pattern nobody wants to look at: why we fall for potential instead of reality, why unavailability feels familiar, and how we abandon ourselves one small moment at a time while calling it love.In this episode: • Why chasing potential is a nervous system addiction and how intermittent reward keeps you pulling the lever long after you should have walked away • The difference between grieving a person and grieving a fantasy you built in your own head • Why you specifically chose someone unavailable and what that pattern is actually protecting you from • How self-betrayal happens in micro-moments so small you barely notice them until you don't recognize yourself anymore • Why the verdict you're desperately seeking from them can only come from one place and it was never theirs to giveIf this hit you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Subscribe so you never miss an episode, and drop a comment. I read every single one and I'm so grateful you're here.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida

In this episode of Life in Focus, I’m challenging you to stop healing "politely." We’ve been taught that personal growth should be quiet and convenient for everyone else, but real transformation requires a level of audacity that looks like madness to the uninitiated. I’m diving deep into why you need to be embarrassingly committed to your own nervous system and why your old self and likely a few people in your current life, will call you "dramatic" for finally setting boundaries that actually stick. We're tearing up the generational contracts that told you to stay small and learning how to occupy the space that was always yours to begin with.In this episode, you’ll discover: • Productive Delusion: Why you have to believe in your healing even before you have the evidence to back it up. • The "Unemployed" Toxic Person: How reaching a specific level of emotional stability effectively lays off the people who used to profit from your chaos. • Romanticizing Stability: Shifting the narrative from "the struggle" to celebrating the sheer luxury of a regulated nervous system. • The Friendship Audit: How to honor shared history while acknowledging that shared alignment is missing, allowing for graceful exits without the blowout. • Obsessive Self-Devotion: Why choosing yourself isn't narcissism—it's finally refusing to abandon yourself ever again.Choosing yourself comes with a messy internal climate. You’ll meet a heavy sense of guilt and a season of isolation, but on the other side is a level of liberation that allows you to finally breathe. I can’t explain the euphoria of a calm mind, but I know it’s a power that must be lived with vigor. Remember to welcome every emotion, but recognize you don’t have to become everything you feel.Be so committed to your peace that you’re willing to be the villain in a toxic person's story. As always, if you enjoyed this episode, leave a comment, share it, and subscribe. I read every single message, I see you and you have a place in this community to unapologetically be yourself.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida

Ever had someone come in hot, chase you hard… then suddenly disappear like they were never real?In this week’s episode, I talk about why people withdraw right when things start getting real, and why your job isn’t to decode them… it’s to stop abandoning yourself trying to earn consistency.Inside this episode, we cover: • Why withdrawal isn’t a mixed signal, it’s a loud “I can’t” • How the “decoder addiction” keeps you stuck obsessing over someone who already left • What real closure looks like when they refuse to give you oneIf someone walks away, let them.Your nervous system deserves peace, not puzzles.🎧 Listen now and remind yourself: self-respect is a decision, not a mood.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida