If you've ever spiraled after someone pulled away, checking their social media at midnight, replaying every conversation, trying to figure out what you did wrong, this episode is for you. The truth is, you weren't chasing them. You were chasing a verdict. And the verdict you're looking for cannot be delivered by someone who won't even text you back.In this episode we go deep on the pattern nobody wants to look at: why we fall for potential instead of reality, why unavailability feels familiar, and how we abandon ourselves one small moment at a time while calling it love.In this episode: • Why chasing potential is a nervous system addiction and how intermittent reward keeps you pulling the lever long after you should have walked away • The difference between grieving a person and grieving a fantasy you built in your own head • Why you specifically chose someone unavailable and what that pattern is actually protecting you from • How self-betrayal happens in micro-moments so small you barely notice them until you don't recognize yourself anymore • Why the verdict you're desperately seeking from them can only come from one place and it was never theirs to giveIf this hit you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Subscribe so you never miss an episode, and drop a comment. I read every single one and I'm so grateful you're here.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida