Welcome back to Knee Deep in Beats, Part 2 — our continued conversation with Sacramento’s very own audio engineers/producers @splashrecordz and @msvameproductions.

This episode gets into:

• What it really looks like to be AFAB & queer in the music industry
• How streaming platforms shape who “makes it”
• The tension between authenticity + capitalism
• The renaissance of physical media (vinyl supremacy!!)
• How queerness shapes artistry, survival, and sound
• The cutest queer wife stories you’ve ever heard
• K.K. Slider collabs that should exist yesterday
• Our panel’s current unhinged song loops and feminist anthems

We also talk about Ms. Vame’s exciting new role with We Make Noise Sacramento, Sam’s shark-tracking side quests, and why community is the real engine behind innovation.

Follow our guests & their counterparts:

• Sam Splash — @splashrecordz
• Ms. Vame — @msvameproductions
• ComposeHer Collective — @composeher.official
• Virgo & Evette Wav — @virgogabrielle & @evette.wav
• We Make Noise (Sacramento chapter info coming soon!)

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In this episode of Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, hosts Cady Moore and Sharilyn Wester sit down with Sacramento-based producers and engineers Sam Splash and Ms. Vame (Vanessa Neves-Jackson) for a deep dive into queerness, feminism, and identity in today’s music industry.

They break down what it means to be AFAB behind the boards, how queer artistry has shifted mainstream sound, and why community-centered collectives like ComposeHer are reshaping music from the inside out.

You’ll hear conversations about:

• Overcoming misogyny in engineering and production spaces
• The artists redefining genre and performance (hello, Doechii)
• Authenticity vs. queerbaiting in pop
• How queerness changed the sound of modern music
• Why femme collaboration—not competition—is the future
• The power of community in uplifting independent queer musicians

Plus, all the GayDHD goodness you expect: ovulation metaphors, historical rants, Naked Brothers Band lore, and even a detour into whale dildos.

Follow our guests & their counterparts:

• Sam Splash — @splashrecordz
• Ms. Vame — @msvameproductions
• ComposeHer Collective — @composeher.official
• Virgo & Evette Wav — @virgogabrielle & @evette.wav

New episodes every other Wednesday.

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This week, Cady and Sharilyn get knee deep in queer sex ed and are joined by Eva Bloom (@whatismybodydoing) — queer and trans late bloomer coach, inclusive sex educator, and host of Out in Bloom — for a cozy and frankly, charming, conversation about what it means to come into your queerness later in life, how to unlearn compulsory heterosexuality, and why sex ed should be way gayer.

Together, they unpack:

• What “queer sex ed” actually means 🌈
• Late-blooming queerness and queer imposter syndrome
• Pleasure, play, and why scissoring is very real (and very hot)
• How to flirt without feeling creepy
• Why laughter belongs in the bedroom
• D&D archetypes, sapphic book recs, and the final boss of queerness (spoiler: it’s shame)

🛠️ Resources & Links:

Eva Bloom: @whatismybodydoing | Out in Bloom Podcast | Late Bloomer Support Club

Queer 🌽 Recs: QueerCrush.com | Pink Label TV | Crash Pad Series |

Books Mentioned: Every Step She Takes by Allison Cochran | Can’t Spell Treason Without Tea by Rebecca Thorne - BONUS: Find Eva’s post for cozy sapphic fall reads HERE.

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What happens when you love your partner but living together just isn’t working? Cady and Sharilyn dive into the concept of de-nesting — choosing to live apart while staying together — and how it can reshape what commitment looks like.

Cady shares her personal story of de-nesting with her husband Navarre after nearly a decade of cohabitation, revealing what led to the decision, how neurodivergence played a role, and how they maintain connection and intimacy across two homes.

Later, Navarre joins for a candid conversation about how de-nesting strengthened their marriage, improved communication, and reignited appreciation for intentional time together.

In this episode:

• What “de-nesting” actually means (and how it’s not a breakup)
• How to know when it’s time to consider living separately
• The intersection of neurodivergence, non-monogamy, and household dynamics
• Redefining what “marriage” looks like outside of monogamy and cohabitation
• Why intentionality beats proximity in long-term relationships

Mentioned in this episode:

• Couples therapy & communication practices
• Emotional labor and household management
• The importance of chosen family and queer community

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts, and follow us on Instagram @kneedeeppodcast.

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Welcome back to Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, your favorite GayDHD podcast hosted by Cady and Sharilyn. This week, we’re taking the scenic route through non-monogamy: how we practice it, what it means to us, and how we manage everything from jealousy to joy (and all the chaos in between).

💬 In this episode, we talk about:

• How hierarchy, solo poly, and kitchen-table dynamics actually play out in real life
• What jealousy really means and how to turn it into self-knowledge
• Why communication and check-ins are the unsung heroes of healthy relationships
• How capitalism creeps into our expectations of love and commitment
• The overlap between polyamory, queerness, and kink — and why the Venn diagram can sometimes look like a circle
• What community looks like when your chosen family is your family

You’ll also hear about our D&D-inspired polycule (yes, there’s a D20 on our imaginary coat of arms), a spontaneous Pokémon metaphor, and why it’s totally valid to both cry over your luteal phase and fight God on a Tuesday.

🎧 Listen if you’ve ever wondered how people “make poly work,” if you’ve struggled with jealousy, or if you just want to eavesdrop on two queer femmes laughing their way through love, logistics, and the human experience.

Referenced in this Episode:

• @femmmeow

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It’s officially spooky season, and we’re bringing the chills, laughs, and queer chaos straight to your ear holes! In this “minisode”, Cady and Sharilyn get real about their complicated relationships with horror, swap hilarious Halloween stories, and dig into why spooky season feels so special.

From haunted house trauma to legendary costumes (hello, Big Naturals Gandalf!), this episode is part nostalgia trip, part queer nerd-out, and part cultural commentary. We’ll talk about what makes gothic horror so alluring, how true crime can shift from exploitative to empowering, and why D&D is the ultimate way to reconnect with your inner child.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• 📚 The Five by Hallie Rubenhold — reframing Jack the Ripper’s victims through a feminist lens.
• 🧛 Vampire girlies unite: a heated round of F/Marry/Block featuring Edward Cullen, Damon Salvatore, and Matthew de Clermont.
• 🎲 Sharilyn’s first-ever campaign as Dungeon Master, and how D&D can be both healing and hilarious.
• 🎥 Childhood spooky movie trauma (Bride of Chucky, Darkness Falls, The Ring… yikes).
• 👗 Costume history: from bounty hunter fails to Sally Slater from Haunted Mansion.
• 🍬 Candy, witches, vampires, and polycule group costumes - spooky hypotheticals galore.

Whether you’re here for the laughs, the lore, or the Halloween vibes, this episode will have you cackling and cringing in all the right ways.

👉 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts!

And don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe so you never miss a ride in the passenger seat.

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In this episode of Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, Cady and Sharilyn welcome Lindy — a powerhouse in the Kansas City rope community and the foundress of the Sisterhood of Artistic Rope (SOAR). Together, we unravel the art of Shibari: its rich history, its role in queer culture, and how rope can be both sensual expression and radical empowerment.

Lindy opens up about building safer, more inclusive spaces for femme-identifying folks in the rope scene, shares moving success stories from SOAR participants, and takes us behind the curtain of their newest venture blending burlesque and rope performance.

You’ll also hear practical advice for newcomers curious about rope, reflections on community and connection, and plenty of laughs as we tie it all together (pun intended).

✨ Whether you’re rope-curious, a seasoned rigger, or simply here for the stories, this episode invites you to reflect on identity, expression, and what it means to feel empowered in your body.

NOTE FROM OUR GUEST AND ROPE PRO: Rope can be potentially very dangerous, so it's always recommended to do research, go to classes, etc. before diving in. ALSO, any body can be a rope body, but what each person is capable of may vary and that's ok! Explore safely, y’all!

Referenced in this Episode:

• Sanu the Poly Fairy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sanuthepolyfairy/
• Shay Tiziano on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/shaytiziano/?hl=en
• Tying & Flying (book) by Shay Tiziano
• Shibari Study (paid subscription on app)
• The Duchy (free & paid content)
• Rope365
• ropestudy.com (lots of free content)

Connect with Lindy:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hopsandropes/ (Private, but feel free to DM and let her know that you heard her on the pod!)
• SOAR Instagram: @sisterhoood.of.artistic.rope
• SOAR FetLife: SOAR_KC
• SOAR Facebook: SOAR KC

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Welcome to Season 2!! In this episode, Cady and Sharilyn journey into the realm of fantasy. Together, they unpack its origins, representation, and how gender bias has shaped the genre. They tackle the Bechdel Test and shine a light on why romance deserves more respect in fantasy storytelling.

The conversation celebrates under-recognized voices, highlighting the importance of diversity, strong female characters, and inclusive narratives. Along the way, Cady and Sharilyn share their own childhood and young adult favorites, reflecting on how those stories shaped their identities. They also explore the transformative role of fan fiction and small creators in pushing the genre forward.

Of course, it wouldn’t be Knee Deep without some giggles. The gworls get delightfully silly with a juicy (and mildly unhinged) “hear me out.”

Find our book list below!

Queer + BIPOC Authors:

• Iron Widow Xiran Jay Zhao
• Daughter of the Moon Goddess Sue Lynn Tan
• Earthsea Ursula K. Le Guin

Cady & Sharilyn’s Faves:

• Throne of Glass Sarah J. Maas
• A Discovery of Witches Deborah Harkness
• Percy Jackson & the Olympians (series) Rick Riordan
• Protector of the Small (series) Tamora Pierce

Childhood Nostalgia:

• Shatter Me by Tahereh Mafi
• A Great and Terrible Beauty by Libba Bray
• Vampire Kisses by Ellen Schreiber
• Hush, Hush by Becca Fitzpatrick
• Blue Bloods by Melissa de la Cruz
• Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter (series) by Laurell K. Hamilton
• Vampire Academy by Richelle Mead

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