How do you know when your athlete needs a new team and how do you make that decision without feeling disloyal to the coach who believed in her?

Ashley Roberts sits down with Chay and Victor Mann, parents of college basketball player Chloe Mann, for an honest conversation about development, team loyalty, and raising an athlete without letting sports take over your relationship.

Both former Kansas State athletes, Chay and Victor share what their own experiences prepared them for and what they still had to learn as sports parents. From independent basketball to Duncanville and Chloe’s college journey from Cincinnati to Grand Canyon, they discuss how their family approached changing environments and making difficult decisions.

They also reflect on the sacrifices, money, and childhood moments they would approach differently.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• What’s different when the athlete becomes the parent

• How to include your child in major basketball decisions

• Team loyalty, independent programs, and knowing when to move

• Why being the star doesn’t always mean your athlete is developing

• How to evaluate training and development opportunities

• Playing multiple sports versus specializing

• Motivating your child without forcing your own dream

• Adjusting to college basketball and evaluating a transfer

• Protecting your relationship and your child’s identity beyond sports

• What Chay and Victor would do differently today

Whether you’re evaluating a club team, investing in training, or preparing your daughter for college basketball, this conversation offers questions to help your family think through the next step.

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