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  • He gets admired whilst she gets judged.

    He gets admired whilst she gets judged.
    Feb 18 2026

    In this provocative conversation, I sit down with a male escort to explore the stark double standards surrounding sex work. From safety and reputation to social perception. While men in this industry can be met with curiosity or even admiration, women often navigate danger, stigma, and lasting judgement.

    We unpack power, privilege, and the politics of pleasure , and dive into what it really means to “hold the feminine.”

    Why are so many women craving to be deeply seen, prioritized, and made love to without performance or pressure? And what does it reveal about modern intimacy that some are paying to experience it?

    This episode challenges assumptions and invites a deeper look at gender, desire, and who gets celebrated and who gets scrutinized.

    Check out Georges site HERE

    AND learn how to last as long as he does HERE

    Melissa Louise



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    1 h et 18 min
  • What actually is an “alpha male”?

    What actually is an “alpha male”?
    Jan 23 2026
    The internet version is terribly fake. The red pill dogma that is being pushed is not actually making men stronger at all and it is definitely not making women safer. Instead of creating healthier relationships or societies, it is actually doing the complete opposite.Red pill ideology teaches emotional suppression, domination, and hierarchy taken as a given from the mens side (….??) not so much responsibility, emotional and nervous system regulation, or leadership. It frames women as adversaries, emotions as weakness, and vulnerability as something to be conquered or hidden. This worldview does not just damage intimacy, it actively makes women live in more danger and men live in deeper isolation.We can see this clearly when we look at the data.Globally and in the United States, men are overwhelmingly the ones dying by homicide. Around 75–80% of homicide victims are male. At the same time, men also make up roughly 90% of homicide perpetrators. For the part of humanity who are not supposedly “so emotional”, men are both the primary victims and the primary actors in lethal violence. (Emotions run ragged). And I do not believe this is because men are inherently violent, yet because our culture has failed men emotionally.When emotions are not allowed to be expressed, they do not disappear. They compress into so many areas of the body physically and energetically and harden. They then at some point come out sideways as rage, over the top risk-taking, numbness, and explosions. A culture that tells men their feelings are dangerous or punishable creates exactly the volatility it claims to be fearing and trying to control.Women pay the price for this too. While men are more likely to be killed overall, women are disproportionately killed by intimate partners. When men are taught that they do not need to take responsibility for their emotional world, that dominance is masculinity and emotional literacy is weakness, women are placed in unsafe relational dynamics. Red pill culture actively reinforces this risk.And addiction tells the same story. Men have significantly higher rates of substance use disorders than women. Alcohol, drugs, and compulsive behaviours become socially acceptable outlets for emotions men were never taught to feel, name, or regulate. Again, this is not a failing in our biology, this is a societal emotional neglect playing out on a massive scale.Incarceration mirrors this breakdown with over 90% of the global prison population being male. Prisons are filled with men who were never taught how to be with fear, grief, shame, or anger in healthy ways. Instead of addressing this as a collective failure of emotional education, society doubles down on punishment and control.And the red pill ideology pretends this is “natural male behaviour.” My loves,….It is not.Biologically, men and women are almost identical. Around 98–99% of our DNA is the same. We share the same emotional architecture in the brain: the same limbic systems, the same capacity for empathy, bonding, grief, and love. There is no scientific basis for the idea that men are less emotional than women.What differs is nurture.Girls are encouraged to express, seek connection, and talk about feelings. Boys are taught to suppress, endure, and dominate. By adulthood, we mistake emotional suppression for emotional absence, and then blame women for being “too emotional” while praising men for being “controlled.”This lie is destroying intimacy between us all.A man who cannot feel safely is not strong. He is volatile or shut down and will often need to turn to forms of abandonment to escape. A man who cannot take responsibility for his emotions will inevitably place them onto his partner, blaming her for being too sensitive, too needy, too much. This is how women get scapegoated for emotions men were never allowed to have.The irony is that this red pill ideology pushes an agenda for men to be “men” and get your woman WHEN we are NOT turned on by this exhausting emotional numbness at all.Women open, trust, and desire men who can lead themselves emotionally. Men who can feel without collapsing, hear emotion without attacking, and take responsibility for what moves through them are safer, more attractive, and more powerful ….not at all weaker.Real masculinity is not dominance and true strength is regulation.Real alpha energy is emotional self leadership.When we teach men to suppress who they are and what they feel, instead of integrate, society becomes more violent, more addicted and more incarcerated and resulting in women becoming less safe. If we want safer women, healthier men, and relationships rooted in trust instead of fear, we must dismantle the lie that emotions make men weak. Emotions make us human and refusing to deal with them is where the danger lies. The real definition of an alpha male comes from biology and social mammals.In healthy mammal groups (wolves, primates, elephants, humans), an alpha is not the ...
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    25 min
  • Dealing with PE, ED, Pelvic pain (for women also)? etc etc ( yes the list goes on & on....)

    Dealing with PE, ED, Pelvic pain (for women also)? etc etc ( yes the list goes on & on....)
    Jan 2 2026
    Hello lovers,I am actually really excited to share with you as we bring in the new (gregorian calendar) yr my latest podcast episode I had with Jana Danielson. Not just because it is juicy, but because it is so profoundly practical and potentially life changing for both women and men.Jana Danielson is the creator of the Cooch Ball, and we sat down ( yes even on the ball ) to speak about something that is rarely spoken about honestly or intelligently, but would be best if it was at the dinner table like chit chat as it effects everyone… and that is pelvic health.Jana’s journey began with her own body. After experiencing multiple physical ailments, she committed deeply to Pilates and somatic movement. Through this practice, she did not just “strengthen” her body, she completely rewired it. Her pain reduced, her vitality returned, and her connection to her pelvic floor radically changed. What she discovered along the way was that most people are either disconnected from their pelvic floor or gripping it unconsciously. Neither leads to health and both take you down a ( not so sexy ) slippery slope of issues.This is where the Cooch Ball was born.The Cooch Ball is not about squeezing harder or doing endless Kegels. In fact, it supports the opposite of what many people have been taught.It works by:• Creating feedback and awareness in the pelvic floor• Helping the muscles relax, coordinate, and respond, rather than clench• Supporting neuromuscular re education and therfore teaching the brain and pelvis to communicate again• Restoring elasticity, tone, and responsiveness, not rigidityThis distinction is very necessary, especially for men dealing with pelvic issues.How the Cooch Ball supports menFor many men, pelvic floor issues show up as:• Urinary incontinence• Dribbling after urination• Erectile dysfunction• Prostate challenges• Chronic pelvic pain or tightness• Loss of sensation or controlWhat Jana explains so clearly in this episode is that incontinence is very often linked to a pelvic floor that is too tight, not too weak. When muscles are chronically contracted, they lose their ability to respond when needed, leading to leaks, lack of control, and pain.The Cooch Ball helps men:• Learn how to release chronic tension in the pelvic floor• Rebuild functional strength through relaxation and coordination• Improve bladder control by restoring proper muscle timing• Support prostate health through improved circulation and tissue health• Reconnect sensation and awareness in the pelvisThis is especially powerful for men post prostate surgery, men aging into new stages of life, or men who have been told “this is just how it is now.”How the Cooch Ball supports womenFor women, the benefits extend across health, pleasure, and vitality.It supports:• Recovery after birth• Healing from prolapse or pelvic instability• Reducing pain during penetration• Increasing sensation and orgasmic capacity• Releasing pelvic holding linked to trauma or stress• Supporting continence without force or strainRather than training the pelvic floor to grip, the Cooch Ball helps women experience full spectrum pelvic intelligence. This equates to the ability to soften, respond, engage, and release (Oooooo) with choice.This episode is not about gimmicks or quick fixes. It is about re educating the pelvis, honouring the intelligence of the body, and dismantling outdated approaches that have left so many people frustrated, leaking, numb, or in pain.We speak candidly about:• Why “just do your Kegels” is often harmful• The connection between pelvic health and pleasure• How men and women can reclaim dignity, confidence, and control• Why pelvic awareness is foundational to whole-body wellbeingYou will be seeing me and my ball a bit more in the future ..on Instagram and here.You can also follow Jana on insta HEREWant to get your own?MEN go here ( you have your very own special videos )And Women..HERE ( yours are special also…😜 )If you or someone you love is navigating incontinence, pelvic pain, sexual challenges, or simply wants to understand their body more deeply then I truly recommend this conversation.Always with Pleasure (& a deep respect for the pelvis)M💋P.S. This is one of those episodes I wish everyone learned earlier in life. Please share it on. Especially with the men who’ve been quietly strugglingPPS….. to add to your bundle of health practices for your sex life..have you got yourself onto the FLOW tablets yet? This is some good ole bio hacking…..as Nitric Oxide supplements radically help our body restore healthy blood flow and circulation, meaning we can make up for lost function much faster.This is precisely why Susan Bratton ( the sex-pert to millions ) formulated her top selling product, FLOW. A food- derived supplement that gives you ( and mmeee) better blood flow. all you need to do is take two capsules before bed and sex.it is that easy lovers…and why not ...
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    1 h et 14 min
  • Bio hacking your relationship

    Bio hacking your relationship
    Dec 30 2025
    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit melissalouise.substack.com

    Lovers.

    This year has been a wild year to say the least. Slithering this way and that and shedding old identities like the true snake energy 2025 was deemed to be,

    One thing I have “had” to do 6 times this yr ( about to record my 7th one ) is my sex magic manifestation. Things just keep on coming true in rapid time. I have spent this yr saying “ oh my gawd you can’t make this shit up”.

    This morning as I was sitting having my coffee sitting on my Cooch Ball whilst drinking me coffee as the sun was just skimming the mountain range, I had this realization that caused me to understand how to bio hack relationships into excellence.

    Just I have supported and witnessed many ( yes even christian ) men this year with my Sex magic technique, I realized how god damn powerful it would be to be used within relationship this way.

    Intrigued to know what it is?

    simply subscribe by clicking the button below. 💋

    Not one to send out emails just because it is Xmas and the Gregorian New Year, I have also been in my cyclical season of death ( just before my birthday in November) and renewal ( spring creation ) these past 6 to 8 weeks. Part of my renewal/spring energy has been to finish the construction and main building of my book I started to write 4 season ago..in my last Spring season. And I did.

    Ahead of me is about 6 weeks or months of editing ( I am unsure what the number 6 represents but it keeps on coming to me ) which is exciting.

    BUT..what I have done for you lovers inside of my inner circle is recorded a passage from the ( near )beginning of the book and the passage that opens the last part of the book.

    These word have been inside of me since my 20’s. And this process of putting them on paper in a way that makes sense has been an incredible return to myself.

    To have the opportunity to listen to the depths of my heart and learn how to bio hack your relationship and your own life, be sure to subscribe. 💋💋

    So wether you are attuned to the 13 cycles of each return, or tethered to the Gregorian calendar may this time and rythm of the seasons be what you truly desire, filled with the nurturing of your loved ones and the dreams of what is to come.

    M

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    12 min
  • A 90-minute class men say they wish they’d had years ago.

    A 90-minute class men say they wish they’d had years ago.
    Dec 17 2025
    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit melissalouise.substack.com

    Hello beautiful lovers,

    I recently taught a 90 min masterclass on the biology of women and to be completley honest, I was not prepared for the depth of the responses that came back.

    Men wrote to me saying things like:

    “Holy scissors! I’ve been hit by a tsunami of information and experience.”“If only I had known this years ago…”“It will take me two years to fully absorb and practice what I learned.”

    Whilst other men cried as they pondered if they would have actually separated from their partners if they had known this.

    What moved me most was not just their enthusiasm, but more so it was the shift in understanding. Men began to see that women are not a problem to fix.That our hormones, nervous systems, and emotional processing are fundamentally different and oh so exquisitely designed.That a woman does not open through solutions, logic, or pressure… she opens through emotional safety, presence, and rhythm.

    One man shared that for the first time he truly understood why safety is paramount for women and that from now on, he would encourage his wife to take her time instead of rushing her.Another said he finally grasped that women are not fragile or weak, but beautifully complex and immense.Many realized that what women need most is not fixing but listening, presence, and attunement instead.

    One man even said, “This should be taught in big businesses.”

    This masterclass is not about blame.It is about biology, compassion, and understanding and what becomes possible in relationships when men and women finally speak the same language.

    If you are a man who wants deeper connection…a woman who wants to feel seen and understood…or a couple tired of misunderstanding each other….

    this class will change the way you relate.

    To have access to the entire class simply subscribe by pushing the button below.

    I am also including the audio so you can listen on your long drives over this Xmas season.

    💋💋

    M
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    4 min
  • Teal Elisabeth

    Teal Elisabeth
    Nov 13 2025

    Hello lovers…..

    This email is and podcast episode is for the women here and I feel like I am wrapped in pink silk just writing to you about it.

    Last week I sat down with Teal Elisabeth, the powerhouse behind Relax Into Love Coaching, and our conversation went straight to the heart of what so many women struggle with. How to be strong, powerful, unapologetic AND deeply loved.

    with my raw, brutally honest and scorpio drenched way of crawling through the world I have not ever really been intrigued by “Love coaching”, but let me tell you, when I met Teal a little over a month ago, I was like “Oh Hello”. I want to know more about this women and have her in my field.

    What I love about what Teal embodies is that she is not teaching women to “lean in” harder or to chase love. And she is definitely not teaching you to dim your light or play small to keep a man interested.

    Nah babe..Teal teaches something she calls “soft fierceness” the art of having non-negotiable requirements for how you show up AND how your partner shows up, without apology, without hoping he will eventually come around, and without sacrificing your power.

    In this really sweet and powerful episode, we chat giggle and even have a few tears about,

    * Why “hoping he will like you” or “waiting for him to come back” is energetically repelling the love you want

    * How to set clear requirements for partnership without feeling demanding or pushy

    * What it really means to “Relax Into Love” when you have spent years proving your worth

    * How to stop over giving, overthinking, and carrying the mental load in relationships

    Teal has helped hundreds of women around the world transform from anxious, burned out daters into women who attract deeply committed, soul-nourishing partnerships. And it is not by doing more lovers, I promise.

    Her message is that you do not have to go get the love. When you know your requirements and lean back into your feminine power, the right partnership is magnetized to you.

    If you are one of so many women who feel torn between your ambition and your desire for partnership, or if you are tired of being the one who does all the work in relationships, this conversation will hit home. Make a cup of tea, snuggle on the couch with a fluffy blanket and enjoy our convo.

    And just fo credit who she is… Teal is a Spiritual Love & Relationship Coach trained in Feminine Energy, NLP, and subconscious reprogramming. She’s happily married for 10 years, a new mama, and has built her entire business while traveling the world as a digital nomad. She walks her talk…..and it damn well shows.

    The great thing is she has a (free) 5 day event coming up called MANifest starting Dec1st. She does not start letting the world know until next week…but you can get your cheeky bum in now if you like because you are here Inside of The Pleasure Studio.

    Sign up HERE

    Ok lovers… be well, be juicy and be unapologetically YOU.

    Always with pleasure

    M

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    44 min
  • PolyTales with Luna

    PolyTales with Luna
    Nov 3 2025

    Lovers hello

    You know I adore conversations that crack open our conditioning and invite us into questioning the world we live in. The convo’s that are raw, a little humorous and of course a little uncomfortable in all the best ways.

    Recently I sat down with Luna, the creator of the Polytales Podcast, to talk about her messy, human, and oh-so-relatable road into polyamory.

    We talk into jealousy, liberation, cultural conditioning, and what it actually looks like to love more than one person without losing yourself (or your mind).

    Luna shares what it’s been like to navigate love and freedom as a Mexican woman in a culture where traditional values, religion, and romantic ideals run deep.It is juicy and honest and shows that life is messy as f*ck at times.

    And I am curious…what does love without ownership mean to you?I would love to hear your thoughts after you listen.

    Always with Pleasure and a wink 😜 Melissa LouiseHost of Inside of The Pleasure Studio💋



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    1 h et 21 min
  • The real reason why men need to spread their seed.

    The real reason why men need to spread their seed.
    Oct 31 2025

    Hey lovers

    I am a bit excited to share this week’s episode with you because I am, we are.. dismantling one of the most pervasive myths used to justify “male promiscuity…” and that is the idea that “men are naturally wired to spread their seed.”

    We have heard it all before. It has been used to excuse everything from infidelity ( even though the stats are pretty even on that one between women and men ) to commitment phobia. But here is what that narrative conveniently leaves out

    The egg chooses the sperm. Not the other way around.

    The biological reality is that fertilization is not some conquering mission where sperm “penetrates” a passive egg. The egg actively selects which sperm it will allow entry. She is the one in charge. She is the gatekeeper, the decision maker and the chooser.

    If we look at ancestral communal and polyamorous living structures, men ( via their sperm ) were not guaranteed anything. They ( the sperm ) were essentially in a lineup, hoping to be chosen. A man could ejaculate inside many wombs and still not father children, because ultimately, the woman’s body (and the egg itself) held all the power. SHE chose the fittest…. this is the first line of defense for survival of the fittest. ( How monogamy relationships have bred a weaker and more disease prone society…. needs to be truly looked at… )

    Even the research in books like Sperm Wars reveals that the majority of sperm in any ejaculation are not there to fertilize. They are “warrior sperm” designed to block or kill competing sperm. In other words, male biology evolved not for indiscriminate spreading, but for sperm competition. A response to the reality that women have always had multiple partners……………

    So this whole “men need to spread their seed” story? It’s not biology. It is patriarchy wearing a lab coat.

    The truth is far more interesting and fun.

    Our bodies evolved in contexts of female choice, communal intimacy, and yes—women’s sexual autonomy.

    In this episode, I break down:

    * The science of egg selection and what actually happens during fertilization

    * What sperm competition really tells us about ancestral mating patterns

    * How the “spread their seed” narrative serves patriarchal control, not biological truth

    * What happens when we recenter female agency in our understanding of sexuality

    This is about reframing the narrative and telling the whole story. About recognizing that even our biology has been filtered through a patriarchal lens.

    Ready to hear it differently?

    Take a listen to the episode above.

    With love, pleasure and a little rebellion ( of course )

    M

    💋

    P.S. If this resonates, please share it. These conversations matter, and the more we question these “natural” narratives, the more freedom we all have to live authentically.



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    23 min