Dr. Chris Lee opens with the truth most people avoid: men are dying from loneliness.

In this conversation, Adam Lane Smith and Dr. Chris Lee break down the science of emotional regulation, why your amygdala hallucinates up to 340% more threats if you have insecure attachment, and why scheduling your feelings might be the most counterintuitive (and effective) thing you ever do.

About Dr. Chris Lee: Neuroscience researcher, consultant, father, homeschool parent. Lost his father to suicide at 22, had his daughter two weeks later. Built his career understanding why men suffer in silence and how to break the pattern. 🔗 Instagram: @drchrislee 🔗 Website: drchrislee.com

About Adam Lane Smith: The Attachment Specialist. 17 years married. Six children (number six on the way). Helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 RESOURCES: 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/

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🔗 Attachment Assessment: Dr. Orion Taraban returns to break down what most relationship advice gets completely wrong.

We dive into the neurochemistry behind attraction and commitment: dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin, cortisol; and why chasing "good feelings" is destroying modern relationships.

Adam reveals the Secure Loyalty Equation he and Andrey developed, explaining why purpose and shared challenges create bonds that last decades.

We cover: → Why "love bombing" actually works (and what that reveals) → The 58 to 63 day window for rewiring attachment patterns → What the prairie vole experiments teach us about human monogamy → Building a 1000 year family legacy vs. optimizing for immediate happiness → The spiritual case for non;attachment in relationships

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Find him: youtube.com/@OrionTaraban

About Adam Lane Smith: Attachment specialist. 17 years married. Author and coach helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 Website: adamlanesmith.com 🔗 Attachment Assessment: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 🔗 Attachment Repair Program: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/ 🔗 Retreat: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 🔗 New Year's Sale: Uutm_source=youtube&utm_medium=nynybundle.adamlanesmith.com/nynm?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=nyny

You're lonely.

Not because you're broken. Not because something's wrong with you.

Because you're trying to get all your connection from one person.

Krista Williams built her business with her best friend Lindsay. Stayed married for years. Got divorced. And discovered something that changed everything: her deepest sense of security didn't come from her husband. It came from her friendships.

66% of millennials feel lonely every single day. Not because they're alone: many have partners. They're lonely because they've made one person responsible for all their emotional needs. That's not a relationship. That's a hostage situation.

In this conversation, Adam Lane Smith and Krista Williams break down why friendships matter more than romantic relationships for emotional health, how to conduct a friendship audit, and what happens to your nervous system when you finally let other people in.

This is about building the foundation that makes romance possible.

She's giving him everything.

Reducing friction. Avoiding hard questions. Making him comfortable.

Hoping he'll finally step up.

He won't.

Not because he's broken. Because you've told him everything is fine.

Kelsey Wonderlin coaches women out of the patterns that keep them stuck: attaching too fast, ignoring red flags, and failing to have the conversations that actually build relationships.

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith and Kelsey break down the three mistakes women make in dating: bonding before vetting, compatibility testing too late, and waiting for men to lead conversations they should be co-creating.

About Kelsey Wonderlin: Dating coach specializing in helping women attract emotionally available partners. Creator of the Magnetic Dating Lab and the weed-out question framework. 🔗 Instagram: @kelseywonderlin 🔗 Free Masterclass: How to Attract Emotionally Available Men | https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/3-things-free-opt-in

About Adam Lane Smith: Attachment specialist. Author. 17 years married. Helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 Website: adamlanesmith.com 🔗 Attachment Assessment: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 🔗 Attachment Repair Program: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/

What if choosing the right partner is the most important decision a man makes? Schafer explains how leadership, respect, and healthy dynamics create attraction, loyalty, and lasting partnership.

Topics Covered:

👉 Why choosing a wife is the most important decision in a man’s life 👉 The hidden damage caused by “mothering” and nagging dynamics 👉 How positive reinforcement builds loyalty and emotional safety 👉 The Executive Partner model and how to challenge without conflict 👉 Treating marriage like a team instead of a battleground 👉 Why becoming a high-value man matters more than “finding” the right woman 👉 How vision, legacy, and future generations motivate discipline 👉 The biochemical bonding effects of solving problems together 👉 A practical nervous system reset that strengthens connection during stress

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg

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Why do so many marriages fail even when both partners try to keep things 50/50? This episode breaks down why that model creates tension and what actually makes a marriage strong.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why 50/50 marriages create resentment for both men and women 👉 The difference between leading your wife vs. leading the marriage 👉 Why most men want to lead but were never taught how in marriage 👉 How responsibility—not feelings—is the foundation of masculine love 👉 The CEO model of marriage and why it outperforms equality-based roles 👉 How lack of leadership drains intimacy, connection, and desire in marriage 👉 Why waiting for your partner to “do their part” weakens a marriage 👉 How safety, trust, and attraction grow when a man takes ownership of the marriage

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg

Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam

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Can relationship stress literally make someone sick? From cortisol spikes to blood sugar dysregulation, this discussion reveals how emotional conflict is processed by the body as a survival threat.

Topics Covered: 👉 How chronic relationship stress creates a cortisol association with a partner 👉 Why psychological stress alone can spike blood sugar 👉 Acute vs chronic stress and its impact on metabolism 👉 The long-term health risks linked to insecure attachment 👉 How oxytocin buffers anxiety and suppresses cortisol 👉 Why stress drives rigid habits and poor coping behaviors 👉 The communication gap between problem-solving and emotional regulation 👉 Why validation strengthens connection without admitting fault 👉 The biological equation behind attraction, bonding, and commitment 👉 Emotional impermanence and the cycle of reassurance seeking

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg

Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam

Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist:

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What does a truly masculine role look like in a healthy marriage? Daniele explains how masculine presence, emotional safety, and respect create trust, connection, and long-term stability

Topics Covered: 👉 emotional safety as a core masculine responsibility in marriage 👉 why women need security to bring their best selves 👉 masculine listening and how it strengthens connection 👉 why men retreat from emotion and how it harms the marriage 👉 commitments required from both partners 👉 what a man provides: safety, provision, character 👉 what a woman provides: respect, peace, support 👉 how to handle mistakes and vulnerability in a healthy, masculine way

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg

Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam

Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist:

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Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social

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