In this powerful episode, attachment expert Jessica Baum joins Adam Lane Smith to unpack one of the most essential yet misunderstood pillars of a healthy relationship: emotional safety. Together, they explore why safety isn’t just a “nice to have” in love, but a biological and psychological necessity that shapes the way we connect, heal, and grow. Whether you’ve struggled with abandonment wounds, anxious or avoidant patterns, or felt unseen in your relationships, this conversation offers deep clarity and actionable insights.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why many women unconsciously expect men to be a source of total safety and why that’s unsustainable 👉 How emotional safety is built through connection, rupture, and repair 👉 The impact of childhood attachment wounds and parental regulation on adult relationships 👉 How men's fear of vulnerability leads them to suppress the very tools that create intimacy 👉 Understanding neurosception and how the nervous system detects safety or threat 👉 Why safety isn’t “doing” more but “being” more present with pain and fear 👉 The unconscious tendency toward self-abandonment in order to maintain connection 👉 Why women often mistake a need for emotional parenting with romantic expectations 👉 The difference between selfless (fear driven) and selfful (grounded) caregiving

Emotional safety isn’t a destination. It’s a dynamic, living process between two people willing to show up, attune, and grow. If you're ready to understand your patterns and start healing from the inside out, this conversation is a must. Check out Jessica’s book for deeper insights and take Adam’s free attachment style quiz at adamlanesmith.com to begin building healthier connections today.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, Andrey and Adam dive deep into the foundations of trust-based communication in both professional and personal relationships. They unpack the dangers of transactional thinking, explore how poor communication sabotages connection, and offer practical insight into building relationships rooted in mutual respect rather than leverage.

Topics Covered: 👉 The danger of giving power based solely on talent 👉 Why standardization and Six Sigma don't inspire Gen Z workers 👉 The shift from performance-based to trust-based leadership 👉 How fear and unmet expectations destroy relationships 👉 The role of masculine relationships and loyalty in high-performing teams 👉 Love, loyalty, and servitude in business culture 👉 How attachment wounds impact negotiation and influence 👉 The legal and ethical principles of “good faith” negotiation 👉 Why old systems of influence are collapsing in the age of AI 👉 Why leverage-based leadership is unsustainable

If this conversation shifted the way you think about negotiation, leadership, or connection—there’s more where that came from. For deeper insight into building trust-based relationships in business and life, visit adamlainsmith.com.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, Kelly Chase from Love Is Blind (Season 1) opens up about her journey from heartbreak and self-abandonment to healing, boundaries, and self-love. She shares what led her to go on the show, what she learned from the experience, and what she's looking for now in love, life, and relationships.

✨ Topics Covered: 👉 Why Kelly went on Love Is Blind and what she hoped to find 👉 The hidden reasons people stay in unhealthy relationships 👉 Her “aha” moment after the show ended 👉 What healthy ambition and partnership mean to her 👉 Dating challenges in today’s world—ghosting, emotional unavailability, and more 👉 Why looks aren’t enough and the power of personality 👉 The emotional cost of people-pleasing and external validation 👉 Navigating modern dating with healed energy and clearer boundaries 👉 What women truly want versus what society pushes 👉 Kelly's real talk on being loved with baggage—not despite it

Kelly’s story is a powerful reminder that healing takes courage, and love begins with the relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating cycles, this episode will speak to your heart.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

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