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Dating at 30 as a Christian comes with its own set of challenges, especially when abstinence, desire, and faith collide.

In this episode, I open up about breaking a three-year abstinence pact, the lessons I learned from dating again, and why knowing your values matters more than chemistry. This is an honest, vulnerable conversation about sexuality, faith, alignment, and learning to trust yourself again.

CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS

0:00 Dating Again at 30 & Breaking Abstinence

1:00 Why I’m Sharing This Story

2:00 My Dating History & Patterns

4:30 2020, Self-Worth & Slowing Down

7:00 My Spiritual Shift in 2022

8:30 Lust, Sexuality & Being Honest as a Woman

11:30 Why Abstinence Wasn’t Just Religious

14:00 Sex, Biology & Healthy Sexual Mindsets

16:00 Dating Again as a Christian Woman

17:30 Hormones, Ovulation & Real Struggles

18:30 Meeting Him & Immediate Chemistry

20:00 Values vs. Boundaries Explained

21:30 Why Misalignment Always Shows Up

23:00 Shame, Grace & Running Back to God

25:00 Lesson #1: Your Values Are Everything

27:30 Actions vs. Words

29:00 Communication & Emotional Maturity

30:30 Standards, Solitude & Singleness

31:30 Final Reflections on Dating at 30

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Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

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An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

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Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12
https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d

Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11
https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-

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My African dad is BACK — and this time we’re talking dating, relationships, marriage, culture, red flags, green flags, and everything in between. 😂

We unpack the conversations immigrant kids never have with their parents, including why he never asked about boyfriends, his evolving views on interracial dating, and what he believes women (and men!) should look for in a serious partner.

This episode is honest, funny, and surprisingly vulnerable. Get ready to take notes.


CHAPTERS
1:00 Growing Up African & Avoiding Dating Conversations
5:10 Cultural Expectations Around Marriage
8:00 Would Dad Accept a Non-Nigerian Partner?
12:50 Black Women & Marriage Statistics
16:00 Are Men Falling Behind? Masculinity Today
18:20 Successful Women & Men’s Insecurity
21:00 What Women Need to Know About Men
23:45 Dad’s Advice to Successful Women
26:30 Do Men Need to Work Harder?
27:30 When I Started Dating (Dad Is SHOCKED)
29:50 My Dating Experiences Now
32:00 The “Pick You Up In My Heart” Disaster
35:30 Standards, Initiative & Red Flags
37:00 What My Dad Thinks I Should Work On
39:30 Understanding My Anger & Communication Style
41:00 Should Women Date Multiple Men?
43:00 Green Flags in a Serious Partner
45:30 Financial Support & Intentionality
47:40 Men: How to Pursue a Successful Woman
48:40 Women: Watch His Actions, Not His Words
49:40 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
51:00 What Men Should Look for in Women
52:20 How Fast Should Marriage Be Discussed?
54:00 Love Bombing & Moving Too Fast
55:10 Why Your Gut Matters in Dating


You can also listen on:
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Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more for Season 2⬇️
Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12
https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d

Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11
https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-

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In this episode, I open up about my mental health journey! Starting antidepressants as a Christian, unlearning the stigma around medication, and finally feeling normal for the first time in my adult life.

Chapters
0:30 — Early Signs of Depression & Anxiety
6:20 — Finding My First Therapist
8:30 — Understanding Anxiety and Compulsive Habits
10:00 — Learning to Name My Emotions
11:20 — 7 Years of Therapy and Still Learning
13:00 — When Faith Meets Mental Health
14:00 — “I’m on Medication Now, and I Feel Great”
16:00 — Sobriety, Isolation, and Facing Myself
18:00 — Taking the Depression & Anxiety Assessment
22:00 — The Stigma Around Medication
23:30 — “I Didn’t Realize I Had Bias Against Meds”
31:00 — Can Christians Take Medication?
34:00 — Choosing Yourself Over People’s Opinions
36:00 — Why Faith and Meds Can Coexist
38:00 — A Year Later: Peace, Clarity, and Balance
39:20 — “This Is My First Normal Year”


You can also listen on:
Apple:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948

Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e

Catch up on:
The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️
I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01
https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c

You might like ⬇️
An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09
https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc

There's more for Season 2⬇️
Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12
https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d

Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11
https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5-

Let's Be Friends!
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https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod

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