You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat.

In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible labour finally gets named, but the conversation doesn’t land.

Whether you're met with defensiveness, silence, or a flat-out dismissal, this episode walks you through what to do when your partner isn’t ready to engage.

We cover:

• What mental load really is (and how it differs from task load)

• Why your partner might resist or shut down the conversation

• How to zoom out and see the bigger system at play

• Practical tools to move forward—even if you're carrying it alone for now

This isn’t about blame. It’s about building bridges, one small shift at a time. If you’ve ever said “I’ve tried to talk about it… but nothing changes,” this one’s for you.

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What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share?

In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy.

We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those overwhelming emotions like shame, hyper-responsibility, fear of being too much or not enough, and how they manifest in relationships through bottling, numbing, stonewalling, over-functioning, and explosive reactions.

We get raw about their own patterns, childhood roots, and the real-life impact these invisible feelings have on communication, parenting, and connection.

With practical questions, examples, and a free downloadable resource to help you identify your own hidden emotional drivers, this is an episode you’ll want to reflect on, revisit, and share with your partner.

🎧 Whether you’re curious about emotional intimacy, want to communicate better, or just feel stuck in unhealthy patterns, this conversation will give you tools and language to move forward- together.

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Ever feel like you're speaking two different languages in your marriage? Or wonder why your partner shuts down when you bring something up?

We sat down with Sam and Liv Ramsden (aka Mr. & Mrs. Silly Stories for Kids) to explore what really goes on under the surface when we miss each other in conflict. This one’s packed with honest conversation, real-life tools, and the kind of grace that keeps a marriage grounded.

We talk about:

• Why emotional wiring matters in conflict

• How to study your partner instead of fixing them

• Staying on the same team (even when you clash)

• Parenting, overstimulation, and emotional repair

• What really holds a marriage together behind the chaos of raising kids and building a podcast

If you’re in a season of disconnect or just want to grow your communication muscle, this episode will meet you where you’re at.

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You can connect with Sam & Silly Stories for Kids:

• Anywhere you get your podcasts
• Youtube - www.youtube.com/@SillyStoriesforKidspodcast
• www.sillystoriesforkids.com
• Instagram - @sillystoriesforkids

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