in this raw and unscripted episode, i challenge harmful narratives of hyper-individualism and explore why community care is essential for survival, especially for trauma survivors who are failed and often retraumatized by the mental health industrial complex.

let's talk about:

• why telling people to "just call your therapist" when they reach out is harmful and what to do instead
• why community care is the antidote to hyper-individualism
• how to show up for your community in specific, meaningful ways that honor both your capacity and others' needs by using a tool i call "the support menu"

this episode is a love letter to anyone who's ever been told they're a burden—spoiler: you're not. we owe each other care, and together, we can survive AND thrive.

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• madness network news: glossary
• beyond self-care bubble baths: a vision for community care by abbie jones

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hey sweet babes! 🎉 first off, huge thank you for making this one of spotify's most shared podcasts in 2025! you all are amazing.

in this episode, we're diving into emotional flashbacks—a type of flashback many cptsd survivors experience but don't always recognize. unlike the vivid sensory flashbacks we often hear about with ptsd, emotional flashbacks hit you with overwhelming feelings and sensations without the visual memories. they can be confusing, terrifying, and hard to identify.

i'm sharing pete walker's super practical 13-step guide for managing emotional flashbacks (from his book complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving), which has been a game-changer for me. you can download the full list from his website!

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

✨ emotional flashbacks = re-experiencing intense feelings without visual memories

✨ triggers can be anything (sounds, smells, body sensations, memories—or nothing obvious at all)

✨ you don't need all the answers; what you need is relentless self-compassion

✨ pete walker's 13 steps can help you navigate emotional flashbacks when they hit

CHAPTERS:

0:00 intro & spotify award announcement

1:50 what are emotional flashbacks?

3:44 what triggers emotional flashbacks?

4:26 my experience with emotional flashbacks

5:14 pete walker's 13 steps for managing flashbacks

8:21 wrap-up & support the show

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📖 complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving by pete walker

🔗 download the 13 steps: www.pete-walker.com

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this episode is for all my babes who struggle this time of year. with the lack of sunlight, early sunsets, literal darkness, & of course, the winter holidays. this episode is for those of us who are traumatized, queer, trans, disabled, chronically ill, estranged, or have difficult family dynamics. we’ll explore 5 micro-practices for making the holiday season a healing experience, rather than a hell-ish one.

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let’s talk about traumaversaries, or, the anniversary of a traumatic event or experience. traumaversaries bring up a LOT for survivors. many of us experience overwhelming surges in their cptsd/ptsd symptoms: panic attacks, flashbacks, dissociative episodes, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, & SO much more.

every survivor experiences their traumaversary & our cptsd/ptsd differently ****&/also traumaversaries are almost always a profoundly painful, difficult, & isolating event we must endure every single year, without fail.

in today’s episode, i talk about how to support a loved one during their traumaversary. we go over community care plans, committing to specific supportive actions, & the many forms community care can take.

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in this episode, i talk about my creative practice, which i call creative composting & how creative self-expression can be profoundly healing, not just for yourself but for fellow survivors. we also touch on sharing your story: how to decide which parts to share, the nonlinear nature of survivor storytelling, affirmations for sharing your story, and more. this is a juicy one!

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What routines and rituals do you rely on when things are hard? In this episode, host Karina Hagelin (they/them) shares 5 of their bare bones but impactful habits for when things just really suck.

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In this episode of Healing is the Best Revenge, host Karina Hagelin (they/them) talks about micro-journaling, a bite-sized journaling practice that not only may be more accessible for those of us in trauma recovery but can also be a supportive tool for CPTSD recovery. They talk about what micro-journaling is; how they practice micro-journaling; and the benefits of micro-journaling in trauma recovery they’ve experienced.

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In this episode of Healing is the Best Revenge, host Karina Hagelin (they/them) talks about glimmers - the opposite of a trauma trigger - micro-moments of safety, calm, and connection that bring us back to nervous system regulation.

They share examples of glimmers, their favorite check-in question for friends, read from their recent mini zine on glimmers, discuss activities to help with noticing and increasing glimmers in your day to day life, and wraps up with a book recommendation on the subject.

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