As first-generation immigrants with a Chinese upbringing and an North American education, we experience cultural and generational conflicts with our parents in a unique way. However, our relationships are stronger for it, and we are optimistic that our self-work can save both our parents and future kids a trip to the therapist's office.

2:36 Intense family time with meltdowns and reflections

6:34 We never had a teenage rebellion

9:19 To keep constant contact, is it a tyranny?

23:53 Our cultural conflicts with parents as first-generation immigrants

26:00 With the intention of care comes the impact of judgments

30:18 Moms reject compliments as a coping mechanism

44:25 Feeling like a puppet in their master plan of conventional success

48:08 Oversensitive or genuinely traumatized?

52:10 Mom told me I was not pretty

1:00:23 Unconditional love, transactional affection

1:05:03 It's their first time being parents too

References:

• 孩子睡了 (She's Asleep) Podcast
• 奇葩说 (QI PA SHUO) Debate Show S3E18

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Catching up with my friend who has been on exchange programs for almost a year to talk about the things in our lives and on our minds.

04:48 I feel happier after selling the bathroom scale

08:28 Cultural difference of "Getting what you want"

17:06 I wish I could go back and learn better in middle school

23:25 "You will sweep the street if you don't get better grades"

26:50 Reinventing my corporate persona at a new job

30:35 Traits of success = masculine?

34:24 Past, future, and present

37:04 Are we too two-dimensional?

39:05 Everything but food will end up in the landfill

References:

• Palestinian Excellence Podcast
• Arrival Movie
• Money Feels Podcast

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绿宝 ⁠(Lvbao)⁠ and I open up about our past struggles with unhealthy eating habits and body image. While we find ourselves in a better place today, the ghosts of our toxic relationships with our bodies and food continue to occupy our minds.

13:45 6-year-old Lvbao got called "fat" by other parents

22:10 Dieting was the zeitgeist of middle school

25:21 COVID lockdown - binge, fast, and repeat

39:04 Feeling "mentally fatter" in Asia

44:34 Every body has its natural state

51:02 Weight dictates my mood from waking up to going to bed

56:22 I could finally give up that last bite

57:51 Listening to the body: am I hungry or just stressed?

1:02:24 Parents telling us to lose weight over video calls

1:04:48 Fatphobia: why don't you just eat less?

1:07:54 The famine generation cannot comprehend emotional eating

1:09:09 -"I am so fat" -"No you are not, I'm fat!"

1:12:18 The guilty conscious of posting pictures of my body

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