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What actually makes a life incredible?

Not big moments.

Not Instagram highlights.

Not achievement for achievement’s sake.

In this episode, Ryan and Vic unpack what they really mean by “build the incredible life you deserve” — and why it has far more to do with foundations than outcomes.

If your life were a house… which part of the foundation is cracking?

In this episode, we explore five core building blocks:

1. Purpose – Direction, Not Pressure

2. Relationships – Belonging Takes Intention

3. Joy & Play – Not a Reward, But Fuel

4. Growth & Learning – Stay Open

5. Alignment & Integrity – The Tension You Feel Matters

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Reflection Questions from This Episode

• What are you optimizing for right now: performance, approval, or meaning?
• Who do you feel most yourself around?
• Who knows what you’re actually carrying?
• What did you used to do just because it made you feel alive?
• Where are you leaking energy?
• What small boundary would bring you relief?

You don’t need to overhaul your life.

Pick one foundation.

Choose one small action.

Just start.

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Prior GCY Episodes Mentioned

• Get Unf*cked: Your Are Not a Problem to Fix (A companion to this episode)
• Purpose: Define, Discover and Live Your Why
• The Energy Between Us: What Makes Relationships Meaningful with Susan Clark
• Let's Talk About Our Boundaries!

External Resources

• The School of Joy (schoolofjoy.co)
• Ingrid Fetell Lee’s TED Talk, "Where Joy Hides and How to Find It" and book Joyful

Hosts:

Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoaching

Vic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

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Somewhere along the way, many of us learned to interpret discomfort, confusion, or lack of momentum as proof that something is wrong with us.

In this episode, Ryan and Vic challenge that assumption.

They unpack what it really means to get unfcked* — not by fixing yourself, but by recognizing when you’re simply under-resourced, not broken.

Together, they explore three core elements that are often missing when life starts to feel heavy or stuck:

• Clarity – not certainty or a 10-year plan, but orientation
• Direction – movement without needing to feel “ready”
• Autonomy – the right to want what you want without justification

You’ll hear personal stories, coaching reflections, and practical reframes to help you stop diagnosing yourself as the problem — and start asking better questions about what’s actually missing.

In this episode:

• Why confusion and discomfort are not character flaws
• How the “fix yourself” mindset quietly runs the self-help industry
• The difference between being broken and being under-resourced
• Why motivation follows action (not the other way around)
• What autonomy really costs — and why it’s worth it

Reflection questions from the episode:

• What are you assuming is a personal flaw that might actually be a missing input?
• If you didn’t need to be sure, what would you try?
• Where are you living someone else’s version of “enough”?
• If you assumed you weren’t broken, what would you stop apologizing for?

Key takeaway:

You don’t need fixing.

You need support, space, and permission to listen to yourself.

Hosts:

Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoaching

Vic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk

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Vic and Ryan kick of Season 3 of Go Coach Yourself!

They look back at the 2025 Season 2 and tease what is coming in 2026. They touch on Heated Rivalry, both the TV show and the books, their amazing 2025 guests, how they will double down on the tagline for 2026 and extend an invitation.

Their invitation: We want hear from you. We are looking for folks who want be coached, folks who want hear their issue or their challenge or their successes talked about. We want answer your questions and help you get unfucked to build the incredible life you deserve.

So reach out. You can send us a text message directly via the link below. You can reach out to either of us on LinkedIn or you can email us at hey@gocoachyourselfpodcast.com

Hosts:

Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoaching

Vic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk