Send us a text

What masks do you wear without even realising it? This episode takes inspiration from Rob Goddard's book "Behind the Smile" as we explore the facades we've created throughout our lives to navigate the world as gay men.

Dave opens up about his "mask of control" – a safety mechanism developed from growing up in rough neighborhoods that now manifests as a need to maintain control in various situations. This protective strategy serves him well but becomes problematic when circumstances fall outside his influence. Meanwhile, I share my "mask of suppression" formed during years in the military when being gay was illegal, and how that suppression became so ingrained that traces remain even in today's more accepting environment.

We both acknowledge the contradictions in our personalities – claiming we don't care what others think while simultaneously seeking validation and approval, particularly in professional settings. The conversation takes a vulnerable turn when discussing the "mask of shame" that comes from past relationships and decisions, including my feelings about my previous marriage before fully accepting my sexuality.

The episode isn't all serious introspection though! We introduce a hilarious new segment on pet peeves that has us ranting about everything from people who don't wear deodorant on public transport to drivers who fail to acknowledge when you let them merge in traffic. Dave's passionate hatred for noisy car exhausts reveals his "cranky old man" persona in full force.

Whether you're examining your own masked behaviors or just looking for some authentic conversation with plenty of laughs, this episode offers both profound insights and entertaining banter. Share your own masks or pet peeves with us at fullygrownhomospodcast@gmail.com or through our socials – we'd love to hear what makes you tick (or what gives you the ick)!

Support the show

If you want to send us a question or would like our thoughts on a particular topic you can contact us at Fullygrownhomospodcast@gmail.com or contact us on any of our socials at Fully Grown Homos Podcast.

Send us a text

Ever had a week so jam-packed with adventures that you barely have time to process one experience before diving into the next? That's exactly what happened to us over the past fortnight, and we're spilling all the tea!

We kicked things off at our friend's 50th birthday bash where we couldn't help but notice a particularly handsome 6'4" basketball player who had everyone's attention. Between devouring the most incredible Persian feta dip (courtesy of Aldi!) and blue cheese that even converted the non-believers among us, we had deep conversations with our amazing female friends - each one an absolute powerhouse in her own right. From Amber's emotional wisdom to Helen's entrepreneurial success with her postpartum product "Happy Cat," these women continue to inspire us with their strength and hustle.

Amid all this socializing, we were also tackling the chaos of moving house! With the help of friends (special shoutout to Miami who immediately attacked an overgrown tree with secateurs the moment she arrived), we managed to transport countless plants, furniture, and Matt's extensive collection of possessions to the new place. This podcast marks our first recording in the new space, which we're excited to set up properly for future guests.

Perhaps our most entertaining misadventure came when we decided to visit Sydney Sauna on what turned out to be an "all-gender night." Let's just say we encountered some unexpected anatomy in the spa that had Matt absolutely horrified! While we fully support our trans and gender-diverse community, the experience provided some hilariously awkward moments that perfectly exemplify how we often find ourselves in situations that become perfect fodder for this podcast.

We also attended Rob Goddard's book launch for "Behind the Smile," a powerful exploration of the masks gay men wear throughout their lives. And finally, Dave had a satisfying confrontation with someone who had previously used homophobic language, proving that sometimes standing up to bullies is the perfect resolution.

So grab a drink, settle in, and enjoy this jam-packed episode of gay misadventures, thoughtful reflections, and plans for future escapades. Have questions about gay life or suggestions for topics? We'd love to hear from you!

Support the show

If you want to send us a question or would like our thoughts on a particular topic you can contact us at Fullygrownhomospodcast@gmail.com or contact us on any of our socials at Fully Grown Homos Podcast.

Send us a text

Words have power. When a homophobe at our local club referred to us as "the fucking poofters," it sparked a deep dive into the language of homosexuality – past, present, and evolving. What terms were once slurs but have been reclaimed? What words should never be uttered? And how does context change everything?

We journey through fascinating gay terminology from across the decades, uncovering forgotten gems like "Doric Love" (1920s term for gay relationships) and "fag stag" (the rare straight man who enjoys hanging with gay men). From "fairy" originally describing promiscuous women in the 1890s to "egg" describing someone pre-transgender realisation in the 2020s, we explore how language adapts to our expanding understanding of gender and sexuality.

Dave's Letter of the Day takes us through sexual terms beginning with F, from fellatio to face-sitting, leading to hilariously candid discussions about our own preferences and experiences. Then we tackle a sensitive listener conundrum: should our underwear model friend use a penis pouch to appear larger after a designer suggested it? We address body image concerns and the problematic nature of being asked to "enhance" what's already perfectly adequate.

This episode combines history, humour, and heartfelt advice – reminding us that while words can wound, they can also empower, educate, and bring us closer together as a community. Subscribe, share, and join the conversation by emailing us at fullygrownhomospodcast@gmail.com or messaging us on Instagram at @fullygrownhomospodcast.

Support the show

If you want to send us a question or would like our thoughts on a particular topic you can contact us at Fullygrownhomospodcast@gmail.com or contact us on any of our socials at Fully Grown Homos Podcast.