Being the one who “has it handled” can look like strength from the outside, but it often comes with an invisible cost. In this episode of the Free to Be Mindful Podcast, Vanessa De Jesus Guzman explores why highly capable, high-functioning women - especially moms and leaders - can feel deeply alone despite being surrounded by people who rely on them.

Through a therapist’s lens, Vanessa unpacks how cultural conditioning, emotional labor, and the mental load many women carry quietly reduce support over time. This conversation is not about doing more or pushing harder. It is about understanding why support often disappears when you are seen as “the strong one,” and why learning to ask for help is essential for long-term well-being.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

• Why being highly capable can unintentionally lead to loneliness
• How cultural expectations and early responsibility shape over-functioning
• The emotional labor and mental load others often do not see
• Why people stop checking in when you always seem “fine”
• How survival-based leadership shows up in motherhood and daily life
• Why support is not a reward you earn after burnout, but a necessity before it

TUNE IN TO LEARN

• How capability becomes identity and limits support
• The difference between doing tasks and carrying responsibility
• Why asking for help feels uncomfortable for high-achieving women
• How to recognize exhaustion you may have normalized
• Practical ways to invite support back in without guilt
  
  

REFERENCED LINKS

The Reset Experience on February 22nd in Ridgefield, New Jersey

https://www.amigamoms.com/event-details/resetexperience-feb2026

Book Vanessa for Speaking

https://www.freetobemindful.com/speaking

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE
Being capable does not mean you have to carry everything alone. If this episode resonated, it is not a sign that something is wrong with you. It is often a sign that you have been strong for a long time in environments that quietly relied on that strength. Support is not a weakness. It is a skill, and one you are allowed to practice. Listen in, reflect gently, and remember… you are always free to be mindful.

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Emotional connection in relationships often fades quietly - not because something is wrong, but because life gets full. Parenting, work stress, cultural expectations, and emotional fatigue can slowly replace curiosity, affection, and presence. In this episode licensed therapist and host Vanessa De Jesus Guzman is joined by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Sheila Arias, for a conversation on how couples can reconnect emotionally without blame, judgment, or unrealistic expectations.

This episode offers practical, relationship-strengthening tools that can be used any time of year - not just around Valentine’s Day. Together, Vanessa and Sheila explore how small, intentional moments, compassionate communication, and emotional curiosity can help couples rebuild closeness over time, even in the busiest seasons of life.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

• Why emotional disconnection is common in long-term relationships
• How judgment and comparison quietly erode intimacy
• The role of curiosity and compassion in strengthening emotional bonds
• Why small, consistent moments matter more than grand gestures
• How structure and intentionality support connection and intimacy
• The importance of physical affection beyond sexual intimacy

TUNE IN TO LEARN

• How to rebuild emotional connection without blaming yourself or your partner
• Simple communication tools couples can practice right away
• Why emotional intimacy fades and how to restore it intentionally
• How scheduling connection can still feel meaningful and authentic
• Ways to reconnect that fit real life, not unrealistic relationship ideals

CONNECT WITH SHEILA

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheilaariaslmft
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheilaariaslmft
• Website: https://www.compasiontherapy.com
  
  

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE

Rebuilding emotional connection isn’t about fixing your relationship or judging where you are. It’s about choosing one small, intentional shift that brings curiosity, warmth, and presence back into your connection. Over time, those moments add up and help relationships feel alive again.

As always, thank you for listening. If this episode resonated, consider sharing it with a partner or someone who may need this reminder. And remember - in a world where you are free to be anything, you are always free to be mindful

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You finally slow down… but your body doesn’t.

In this episode of the Free to Be Mindful Podcast, Vanessa De Jesus Guzman explores what happens when chronic stress becomes so familiar that it no longer feels like stress at all. For high-achieving moms, leaders, and caregivers, operating in survival mode can quietly become the baseline... making rest feel uncomfortable, quiet feel unsettling, and calm feel out of reach.

Through personal reflection and real-life examples, this conversation helps name what many are experiencing but haven’t fully articulated: the difference between looking calm on the outside and feeling regulated on the inside. This episode offers language, awareness, and gentle reframes for listeners who are carrying a lot, especially in times that feel heavy beneath the surface.

TUNE IN TO LEARN

• How to recognize stress when you’re used to functioning through it
• Why slowing down can trigger guilt or restlessness instead of relief
• A simple reflective practice to name what you’re feeling and why
• How nervous system awareness supports better leadership and parenting

UPCOMING SUPPORT & RESET OPPORTUNITIES

If this episode resonated and you’re craving intentional space to pause and recalibrate, here are two upcoming opportunities to continue the work:

Virtual Leadership Coaching Container – February 5, 2026 (1 PM EST)
A facilitated space for leaders, founders, and professionals who are holding significant responsibility while navigating internal stress and external demands.
👉 https://propelonpurpose.hbportal.co/public/febcoachingcontainer/1-Inquiry_form

Reset Experience for Moms – February 22, 2026 | Ridgefield, NJ
An intimate in-person reset for moms to connect, release what’s weighing on them, and leave feeling lighter. Not therapy — but deeply therapeutic.
👉 https://www.amigamoms.com/event-details/resetexperience-feb2026

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Vanessa shares how she uses the Oura Ring as a temporary tool to build stress awareness. Get 10% off! https://ouraring.com/freetobemindful

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE

Experiencing stress is part of being human. But when stress becomes your normal, your body may be asking for awareness before action. This episode is a reminder th

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In this episode of the Free to Be Mindful Podcast, Vanessa De Jesus Guzman sits down with Jamie Castano, LCSW, and Britt Moser, two of the co-founders of Synchrony, a first-of-its-kind social app designed to help neurodivergent adults build friendships, experience belonging, and strengthen social confidence. Inspired by Jamie’s son and shaped by Britt’s expertise as an autism specialist and educator, Synchrony goes beyond traditional dating apps by centering community, communication support, and safety.

This conversation is especially relevant for parents of neurodivergent teens and young adults, therapists, educators, and anyone supporting autistic adults navigating friendship, dating, and real-life communication challenges. Vanessa and the founders explore what happens when childhood services fade, why social connection still matters deeply in adulthood, and how an AI-powered social coach can provide real-time, context-based support.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

• A look at the gap in social resources for neurodivergent teens, young adults, and adults once childhood services end
• How Synchrony uses AI as an on-demand social coach to support communication, not replace human connection
• Why interests and communication preferences are central to reducing ambiguity and anxiety when connecting with others

TUNE IN TO LEARN

• How “aged-up” supports can help neurodivergent adults navigate real-world social situations
• How real-time support can help with expressive language, social decoding, and boundary setting
• What it looks like to bring an idea to life by knowing your lane, building the right team, and trusting the process

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE
Neurodivergent needs don’t disappear in adulthood, and neither does the desire for friendship, belonging, and connection. Synchrony is a powerful example of what can happen when lived experience and professional expertise come together to address a real and often overlooked gap.

If there’s something you’ve been wanting to bring into the world - a project, a resource, or a new way of supporting others - this episode is a reminder that your ideas matter and your sazón is what makes them uniquely impactful.

LEARN MORE ABOUT SYNCHRONY

• Website and waitlist: https://joinsynchrony.com
• Social media: https://

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In this episode of the Free to Be Mindful Podcast, Vanessa De Jesus Guzman explores the invisible leadership moms practice every day - at home, at work, and in the moments no one sees. Released on Martin Luther King Jr. Day, this conversation reframes leadership away from titles, visibility, and recognition, and instead centers the emotional labor, decision-making, and presence that motherhood quietly requires.

If you’re a mom who carries responsibility, holds systems together, and influences others daily, yet rarely calls yourself a leader, this episode offers a powerful reframe. Through lived examples, gentle humor, and reflection, Vanessa invites listeners to recognize leadership in the ordinary moments that often go unnamed.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

• Explores leadership through the lens of motherhood and everyday responsibility
• Reframes leadership as influence, presence, and emotional regulation rather than title or authority
• Connects professional leadership skills with the unseen leadership happening at home
• Examines how leadership is shaped in private moments, not public performance

TUNE IN TO LEARN

• Why many moms don’t see themselves as leaders, even though they are leading daily
• How emotional regulation, anticipation, and tone-setting are forms of real leadership
• The cost of quiet leadership and why it often goes unrecognized
• How leadership shows up when no one is watching — after drop-off, between meetings, and in internal self-talk
• A mindful reframe that allows leadership to feel more intentional and sustainable

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE
Leadership doesn’t always look loud, visible, or celebrated. Much of it lives in the quiet moments - in how we respond under pressure, how we carry responsibility, and how we treat ourselves when no one is watching. When we begin to name this invisible leadership, we stop disappearing inside our own lives and start honoring the value of how we already show up. This week, notice one quiet leadership moment - not to improve it or fix it, but to acknowledge that it matters.

Vanessa is currently booking speaking engagements for the spring, including Women’s History Month, Stress Awareness Month, and Mental Health Awareness Month. To learn more or book a call, visit https://www.freetobemindful.com/speaking

If this episode resonated, consider sharing it with another quiet

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Lifestyle Shifts Supporting Longevity and Wellbeing

Taking care of your health can feel overwhelming, especially when so many approaches promise big results but don’t last. If you’ve ever wondered why healthy habits are hard to sustain, this episode offers a grounded and realistic perspective.

In this episode of the Free to Be Mindful Podcast, Licensed Therapist and Mom Coach Vanessa De Jesus Guzman is joined by Renee Fitton, a longevity dietitian and Vice President of Growth at L-Nutra, for an honest conversation about lifestyle shifts that support longevity, wellbeing, and mental health - without extreme dieting or pressure.

Renee breaks down what longevity nutrition really means, why living longer isn’t helpful if we don’t feel well along the way, and how small, intentional changes can support physical health, brain health, and emotional wellbeing over time. The conversation includes an introduction to fasting mimicking approaches, including ProLon, while emphasizing safety, muscle protection, and sustainability... especially for women navigating midlife changes.

Vanessa and Renee also explore how mindset, gratitude, and intention-setting shape how we age and how we experience everyday life.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Lifestyle shifts that support longevity and wellbeing
• What longevity nutrition is, and what it isn’t
• How fasting mimicking works and who it may be appropriate for
• Why muscle protection and metabolic health matter as we age
• The connection between mindset, gratitude, and brain health
• Why small, consistent changes matter more than drastic overhauls

This episode is for moms and busy professionals who want to care for their health in a realistic, compassionate way, without adding more pressure to an already full life.

STAY CONNECTED WITH RENEE:

• https://www.instagram.com/fittonnutrition/
• https://prolonlife.com/
• https://l-nutra.com/

DISCOUNT LINK for 20% OFF: https://prolonlife.com/freetobe

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The start of a new year often comes with quiet expectation... to do more, be more, and have everything figured out. For many moms, especially those balancing motherhood, work, and caregiving, that pressure doesn’t feel motivating. It feels heavy.

In this episode of the Free to Be Mindful Podcast, licensed therapist, mom coach, and podcast host Vanessa De Jesus Guzman reflects on the emotional weight of the New Year and what it really means to grow when life, and capacity, looks different than it once did.

Rather than leaning into “new year, new me” energy, this conversation offers a grounded reframe rooted in grace, intention, and deliberate growth. It’s an honest look at expectations we place on ourselves, how motherhood reshapes our capacity, and why progress still counts even when it doesn’t show up loudly or in numbers.

This episode is especially for professional moms who are juggling multiple roles while quietly wondering if they’re doing enough, or falling behind.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

In this reflective New Year episode, Vanessa explores:

• Why the New Year often feels emotionally heavy for moms
• How motherhood and professional life change capacity and expectations
• The difference between intentional growth and deliberate growth
• Why progress doesn’t always show up in numbers
• Letting go of unrealistic “new year, new me” pressure
• A more compassionate approach to personal growth

A NOTE FOR MOMS WHO NEED SUPPORT RIGHT NOW

Vanessa shares why she’s bringing back The Real Talk Reset, an intentionally small Amiga Moms support group created for moms who are carrying a lot and need space to pause, talk honestly, and manage big emotions without suppressing them.

• The next Real Talk Reset takes place January 10th in Ridgefield, NJ
• https://www.amigamoms.com/event-details/therealtalkreset-jan
• Podcast listeners receive a special thank-you discount: FTBMPod25J
• Groups are intentionally kept small for a curated, intimate experience
• While it can feel therapeutic, this is not therapy

If you’re listening after January 10th, The Real Talk Reset will continue on a monthly basis in Ridgefield, NJ.

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE

You don’t need a louder year to have a meaningful one. You don’t need to reinvent yourself to grow. And you’re not behind... you’re r

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Recovering from the holidays can feel unexpectedly heavy for moms… even after schedules finally slow. In this final episode of 2025, and the culmination of the Anti-Overwhelm Holiday Series, Vanessa De Jesus Guzman, LPC, NCC reflects on what this season asked of moms, why the week between Christmas and New Year’s can feel emotionally off, and how investing in yourself is not indulgent, but instead an essential piece in parenting, regulation, and long-term well-being.

This episode offers a gentle close to the year, permission to rest during the break, and reassurance that support is available when you’re ready, without pressure or urgency.

EPISODE DESCRIPTION

• A concise reflection on the Anti-Overwhelm Holiday Series and the core themes moms resonated with most
• Why the week between Christmas and New Year’s often feels strange, emotional, or unsettling… even when life slows down externally
• A powerful reframe: this week is for integration, not intention
• A relatable reminder to invest in yourself, including a light, honest take on self-investment and care
• What coaching actually looks like in real life - practical tools that help moms pause, regulate, and respond instead of react
• Why regulated parenting, repair, and emotional modeling matter for kids and help break generational patterns
• A compassionate look ahead to 2026 using quarterly goals instead of pressure-filled resolutions

TUNE IN TO LEARN

• Why Feeling Exhausted After The Holidays Is Normal, Not A Personal Failure
• How Moms Can Use The Week Between Christmas And New Year’s As A Landing Space
• What It Really Means To Invest In Yourself Without Guilt
• How Coaching Supports Everyday Parenting Moments - Mornings, Bedtime, Transitions, And Meltdowns
• Why Emotional Regulation And Repair Create Long-Term Benefits For Kids
• How To Think About The New Year In A Way That Feels Supportive, Not Stressful

TAKEAWAY MESSAGE
You don’t need to use this break to catch up, reinvent yourself, or plan your entire year. You’re allowed to rest, soften, and let this be a pause. And when you’re ready, whether through coaching support, in-person spaces for moms beginning in January, or simply continuing to listen, you don’t have to do motherhood alone.

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