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Can we talk about how absolutely EXHAUSTING it is to feel like we're supposed to have it all together?

The perfect career. The perfect relationships. The perfect health. The perfect attitude. Oh, and we're supposed to be happy while juggling all of it? Seriously?!

In this episode of Everything's Messy Podcast, I'm getting into something that's been on my mind lately: the difference between happiness and fulfillment. Because what if living a fulfilling life doesn't actually mean being happy all the time?

I'm talking about finding purpose in ordinary moments, recognizing that our definition of success changes as we grow, and learning to embrace the unfinished versions of ourselves.

And here's something I really want you to remember: You can be a work in progress and still have a beautiful, meaningful, fulfilling life.

We're also talking about why our basic needs matter, why compassion is so important when life gets hard, and why comparing our journey to someone else's is a losing game.

Because, friends, normal is overrated. And maybe the mess isn't something we need to fix before we can start living.

Maybe it's part of the journey.

So grab your coffee, throw on those comfy pants, and let's get messy!

A little reminder: You don't have to have everything figured out to live a fulfilled life.

If this episode resonates with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear that she's doing better than she thinks. And don't forget to follow Everything's Messy so we can keep navigating this beautifully messy life together.

Keep it Messy 💕

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What happens when a cancer diagnosis turns your entire world upside down? And what do you do when the medical system leaves you with more questions than answers?

In Episode 166 of Everything's Messy Podcast, I'm sitting down with the incredible Diane Blakeley for a raw, honest, and eye-opening conversation about breast cancer, hormones, healing, and the importance of advocating for yourself when it comes to your health.

Diane takes us through her personal journey with ductal carcinoma, from the shock of her diagnosis to the emotional roller coaster of treatment decisions, surgery, and recovery. And trust me, this conversation goes WAY beyond cancer.

We're talking about the things that don't always get discussed in the doctor's office. Hormone therapy, the Onco DX Score, KI-67, chronic inflammation, nutrition, environmental toxins, and why understanding what's happening inside YOUR body matters so much.

And because this is Everything's Messy, we're not skipping the emotional stuff either.

Diane opens up about facing mortality, feeling jealous of people who weren't sick, navigating burnout, and learning that healing isn't just about what happens physically. It's emotional, mental, and sometimes even spiritual.

One of my biggest takeaways from this conversation? You cannot be a passive passenger when it comes to your health.

That doesn't mean you have to figure everything out alone. It means asking questions, finding healthcare professionals who listen, understanding your options, and recognizing that what works for one person might not be right for another.

In This Episode, We're Getting Messy About:

• Diane's breast cancer diagnosis and how it changed her life.
• The possible connections between hormones, hormone therapy, and breast cancer.
• Understanding the Onco DX Score, KI-67, and how testing can help inform treatment conversations.
• Making difficult decisions about lumpectomy, mastectomy, radiation, and other treatment options.
• Why having supportive doctors, family, and friends makes such a difference.
• The emotional side of cancer that people don't always talk about, including fear, jealousy, grief, and burnout.
• Nutrition, food sourcing, chronic inflammation, and the role lifestyle choices can play in overall wellness.
• What Diane learned from exploring different approaches to healing.
• How AI could change the future of cancer detection and medical research.
• Why self-advocacy and personalized healthcare matter.
• The connection between mind, body, and emotional well-being.
• Learning to protect your energy, speak your truth, and prioritize yourself.

A Few Moments That Really Hit Home

"Healing, recovery is messy."

"Every single human body is different."

"Advocating for yourself is so important."

"You have to be informed."

And perhaps one of the most vulnerable moments of our conversation:

"I was jealous because they get to live and I'm gonna die."

That's the kind of honesty we need more of. Because being sick isn't just about lab results, medications, and procedures. It's about being human while navigating something incredibly scary.

Why You Need to Listen

Whether you've personally faced cancer, supported someone through a diagnosis, struggled with hormonal health, or simply felt unheard in the healthcare system, this episode is going to make you think.

Diane's story is a reminder that there is no one-size-fits-all path to healing. We can respect medical science, ask tough

Keep it Messy

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Family is messy. Genetics are messy. And sometimes the things we inherit have absolutely nothing to do with money. 😂

In this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast, I’m talking about all the things our families pass down to us — our genes, health habits, traditions, stories, behaviors, personalities, and yes… sometimes a little generational baggage too.

I dive into how our family history can shape who we become, from the role genetics and environment play in our health to the surprising ways birth order may influence our personalities and family dynamics.

But here’s the part I really want to focus on: inheritance doesn’t have to equal destiny.

Just because something “runs in the family” doesn’t mean we have to sit back and accept every habit, pattern, or health trajectory that came before us. We can ask questions. We can learn our family history. We can make different choices. And sometimes, we can be the person who decides a generational cycle ends here.

I also talk about the good stuff we inherit — the traditions, stories, values, recipes, quirks, and connections that make our families ours. Because our legacy isn’t just what we leave behind someday. It’s what we’re modeling and passing along right now.

We’re talking about:

• Genetics vs. lifestyle and environment
• Health habits we inherit without realizing it
• Breaking unhealthy generational cycles
• Birth order and personality
• Family traditions, stories, and identity
• Modeling a healthy self-image for our kids
• Becoming proactive about our health
• The kind of legacy we actually want to leave behind

Because we may not get to choose what we inherited…but we do get a say in what we pass on.

And as always, even in family, health, life and everything in between keep it messy. ❤️

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You can eat the “right” foods. You can take all the supplements. But what happens when your body isn’t actually absorbing or using what you’re giving it?

In this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast, I dive into the surprisingly complicated world of mineral deficiencies, absorption, thyroid health, and supplementation.

We’re talking zinc, magnesium, potassium, copper, calcium, iron, iodine, and selenium—and why looking at each mineral in isolation can miss a much bigger picture.

I explore how minerals work together, why more isn’t always better, and why symptoms like fatigue, muscle cramps, hair changes, weakness, or feeling “off” deserve context rather than an automatic trip to the supplement aisle.

And if you’re navigating Hashimoto’s or thyroid issues, there are some especially important conversations around zinc, selenium, iron and iodine—including why iodine deserves extra caution rather than a “more is better” approach.

I also get into the iron conversation beyond simply asking, “Am I anemic?” What does ferritin tell us? What affects iron absorption? And why does getting iron into the body not necessarily mean it’s being utilized the way we expect?

Because wellness is messy—and sometimes the answer isn’t another supplement. Sometimes it’s understanding what your body is actually doing with it.

This episode is for educational purposes and is not intended to diagnose or treat a medical condition. Talk with your healthcare professional before making significant changes to supplements, especially if you have thyroid disease, kidney disease, take prescription medication, or suspect a deficiency.

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What if your thyroid isn’t the only thing you should be looking at when you’re dealing with thyroid symptoms?

In this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast, I’m connecting some dots between the thyroid, liver, gallbladder, and female hormones—because our bodies don’t work one organ at a time.

We talk so much about thyroid labs: TSH, T4, T3, and whether those numbers fall into the “normal” range. But a lab result is one piece of information. How you feel, your symptoms, medications, nutrition, hormonal changes, and what’s happening elsewhere in the body can all be part of the bigger picture.

I break down, in simple terms, why the liver matters for thyroid hormone metabolism, how the gallbladder and bile fit into digestion, and why changing estrogen levels during perimenopause and menopause can add another layer to the conversation.

And of course, I bring in my own experience with thyroid disease and navigating healthcare. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that you have to be willing to ask questions. If something doesn’t feel right, “your labs are normal” doesn’t have to be the end of the conversation.

We’re talking about:

• The thyroid–liver connection
• Why thyroid hormone conversion matters
• What your gallbladder actually does
• Estrogen, perimenopause, and menopause
• Why symptoms and labs need context
• Asking better questions at your appointments
• Looking at health as a whole instead of chasing one symptom at a time

This isn’t about diagnosing yourself or assuming every symptom has one hidden root cause. It’s about understanding your body well enough to have better conversations about your health.

Because healing—and figuring out what the heck your body is doing—is messy.

Keep it Messy. 🦋

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This week on Everything’s Messy Podcast, I’m keeping things short, messy, and straight to the point.

I start with a little life update and some gratitude before jumping into something that seems to be EVERYWHERE in the wellness world right now: red light therapy.

You know how I feel about wellness trends. When something suddenly claims to help your skin, inflammation, mitochondria, recovery, autoimmune conditions, thyroid, sleep, energy and basically everything except your laundry…I have questions.

So, is red light therapy legitimate—or are we looking at another wellness trend with really good marketing?

I talk about what red light therapy actually is, why wavelength, strength and dosage matter, and why simply buying the strongest red-light device doesn't necessarily mean you're getting better results.

And, of course, I had to dig into Hashimoto’s.

There is some promising research looking at red light therapy—also called photobiomodulation—and thyroid health. But promising research doesn't mean we've found a cure, and it certainly doesn't mean we should replace medication or medical care with the latest wellness gadget.

I also take a look at the history of red light therapy, because despite its recent explosion on social media, researchers have actually been studying this concept since the 1960s.

Then I ask the question I couldn't get out of my head:

If red light is so beneficial, why didn't we need these panels hundreds or thousands of years ago?

Maybe because we already had something pretty powerful…

☀️ THE SUN.

My biggest takeaway from this episode isn't that you need to run out and buy a red-light panel.

It's actually the opposite.

Before adding another wellness trend to your routine, understand what you're trying to accomplish and whether there's evidence behind what you're buying.

Sometimes getting back to basics—sunlight, movement, sleep, real food and taking care of ourselves—is still pretty powerful.

Wellness shouldn't become another thing we're overwhelmed trying to perfect.

Keep asking questions.

Keep doing your research.

And, of course…

Keep it Messy. 🦋

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We’re heading into fall… allegedly. Here in Southern California, it’s still hot, humid, and not exactly giving cozy sweater weather. But the change of seasons got me thinking about another kind of transition—the ones we’re constantly trying to make in our own lives.

And specifically: Why is it so hard to stay consistent when we KNOW what we want to do?

On this episode of Everything's Messy Podcast I get down to the triggers that might keep us from executing a plan of action to be consistent and peel back the layers to discover what's holding us back...

We hear all the time that consistency is the secret to building habits.

Be consistent with your workouts.
Be consistent with your food.
Be consistent with your sleep.
Be consistent with your routines.

Okay...but what happens when you’re burned out?

What happens when your nervous system is already overwhelmed, you're making a thousand decisions a day, and adding one more “healthy habit” feels like one more thing you’re failing at?

In this episode, I’m talking about the connection between burnout, mindset, decision-making, and consistency—and why the answer may not be more discipline.

Sometimes, we need to go back to the MESS first.

I share one of my own struggles with meal prepping. I had all the right intentions, but I was making the process so complicated that I couldn't consistently do it. When I finally reversed the way I was thinking about it, I realized something ridiculously simple:

I was making it harder than it needed to be.

Instead of prepping a million different meals, I started focusing on a few basic ingredients I could mix and match for myself and my family.

Less decision-making.
Less overwhelm.
Less perfection.
More consistency.

That’s where momentum starts.

This episode is your reminder that maybe you don't need to try harder.

Maybe you need to make it simpler.

Because sustainable consistency isn't about doing everything perfectly.

It's about creating something you can actually keep doing when life gets messy.

Keep it Messy. 💕

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When did making friends as an adult get so complicated?

In this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast, I sit down with Janessa Vicenty founder of "Girls on the Go" for a conversation about something we don’t always put in the wellness category: community, connection, and simply having somewhere you feel like you belong.

Janessa shares how her passion for bringing people together grew into Girls on the Go, creating events where women can show up, try something new, meet people, and actually connect—without feeling like they have to fit a certain age, background, or personality to belong.

And what started as an idea has grown into something much bigger.

We talk about how socializing is changing, especially among younger generations who may be choosing wellness events, experiences, movement, and meaningful connection over the traditional bar scene. We also get into why creating different kinds of events matters. Not everyone wants to hike. Not everyone wants yoga. Not everyone wants a fancy dinner. Building real community means creating enough variety that people can find the spaces that feel like them.

Janessa also shares the evolution into Man on the Move and co-ed experiences designed to bring even more people together.

But underneath all of it is a bigger conversation:

We need people.

Sometimes healing isn't another supplement, morning routine, or wellness hack. Sometimes it's getting out of the house, doing something that makes you a little uncomfortable, talking to someone you wouldn't normally meet, and realizing you aren't as alone as you thought.

We talk about stepping outside your comfort zone, creating inclusive spaces, friendships that have grown from these events, and what happens when an idea meant to connect a few people turns into a real community.

Because wellness can be messy.

Friendship can definitely be messy.

And sometimes finding your people starts with being brave enough to walk into the room.

Keep it Messy. 🦋

Connect with Janessa:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlsonthegosd/

Email: girlsonthegosd@gmail.com