Where do you find your true identity—in your spouse, your past, or in Christ alone? And what happens to your marriage when both partners understand who they are in Him first?

In this episode, we tackle the identity crisis many marriages face today. Drawing from 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation," we explore how understanding our identity in Christ transforms everything about our marriage.

We share candidly about the baggage we brought into our marriage—Teddy's divorce, Maya's family history, and cultural patterns we had to break free from. We discuss how we both struggled with letting our pasts define us, but chose early on to never use the word "divorce" and to build something different than what we'd seen modeled.

The core message: your spouse cannot be your savior. We confess how Maya idolized Teddy early in marriage, looking to him to fill needs only Christ could meet. We address the "Jerry Maguire" lie—"you complete me"—explaining that biblical oneness isn't about losing yourself or being completed by another person, but two whole, Christ-centered people coming together in covenant.

We break down key identity truths: you are chosen and loved (Ephesians 1:4), you have redemption through His blood (Ephesians 1:7), there is no condemnation (Romans 8:1), and you are complete in Christ alone (Colossians 2:10). We explain how confession in marriage is pure honesty and vulnerability, not just seeking an apology.

Addressing the identity crisis in roles, we discuss how husbands are called to be prophet, priest, and king—hearing from God and leading their families. Wives are the "Ezer" (helper), the same word used for God as our helper, coming alongside to encourage, pray, and strengthen. We emphasize that wives can't properly submit and husbands can't properly lead unless both know their identity in Christ first.

Strong marriages are built on two people who first belong to Jesus.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.

What would your marriage look like if you had a clear, God-centered vision guiding your decisions? And are you building your future together intentionally, or just letting life happen to you?

In this episode, we explore how every great story has a quest—and marriage is no different. Drawing from Proverbs 29:18, "Where there is no vision, the people perish," we discuss why most marriages don't fail because of one big moment, but because they slowly lose direction. We share how we started our marriage without any real vision, thinking it was just the next step in life rather than a purposeful journey requiring intentionality.

We break down what marriage looks like with vision versus without it. Without vision, couples react instead of respond, conflict becomes personal rather than purposeful, and life decisions feel random and disconnected. With vision, decisions are filtered through God's purpose, conflict becomes growth-oriented, and unity increases even in hard seasons.

Using the imagery of oxen yoked together from Amos 3:3, we explain how two people can't walk together unless they're agreed—split vision means no progress. We candidly share our current season of job loss after eighteen years and how we're trusting that God is already in the next season, we just have to catch up to where He is.

We challenge the popular idea of vision boards focused on personal desires, emphasizing instead that biblical marriage vision flows from God's design. As Psalm 37:4 truly means: when you delight in the Lord, He places His desires in your heart—it's not about getting what you want, but wanting what He wants.

We offer practical questions to discuss together: What do we want our marriage to be known for? How does our marriage serve God's purpose? What do our kids think about our marriage? Remember—it's never too late to start, whether you've been married one month or fifty years.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.

What happens when marriage becomes lonely even while you're together? And how does isolation from community put your relationship at spiritual risk?

In this episode, we dive into the often-overlooked dangers of isolation and loneliness within marriage. Drawing from Genesis 2:18 and Ecclesiastes 4:12, we explore how God designed marriage to exist within community—never in isolation—and why the "threefold cord" of husband, wife, and God creates an unbreakable bond.

We discuss how loneliness in marriage is different from physical aloneness—you can be lying next to your spouse yet feel completely disconnected. Whether it's through busyness, smartphones creating individual bubbles, or prioritizing children over each other, we share how isolation breeds vulnerability to temptation, bitterness, and emotional walls.

Using the shepherd and sheep analogy from John 10, we explain how couples who distance themselves from their church community become like isolated sheep—easy prey for the enemy. We candidly share our own summer disconnect and how daily prayer together transformed our marriage.

We offer practical steps to combat isolation: turn off your phone when together, join a biblically-based marriage group, find godly mentors (not friends who feed your misery), and most importantly, pray together daily. We emphasize that accountability isn't about giving everyone access to your marriage—it's about having trusted, godly couples who can provide biblical perspective and loving correction.

Restoration begins with repentance of neglect, choosing pursuit over avoidance, and returning to vulnerability with your spouse. Marriage was never meant to be lived alone.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.