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The Gay Monogamy Coach.

The Gay Monogamy Coach.

De : Alan Cox
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The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast is hosted by the life coach, CBT practitioner, workshop facilitator and author Alan Cox.

He supports gay men in understanding the emotional, psychological, and practical aspects of transitioning from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship, while fostering clarity, confidence, and alignment with authentic relationship goals.

Each episode will investigate an area that surrounds monogamy and is reinforced by practical life coaching techniques.


Alan can be contacted via:

gaymonogamycoach@gmail.com


Website:

www.lifecoachingempoweringgaymen.com



© 2026 The Gay Monogamy Coach.
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  • Beyond: The apps. Chapter one.
    Jun 20 2026

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    Episode 2: The Myth of Choice.

    If you listened to 'The Infrastructure of Isolation,' you already know about the Administrator — the part of you that keeps the fortress beautiful, clean, and empty. This episode examines his favourite weapon: the illusion of choice.

    This is for professional gay men who believe they are making active decisions about their lives — but are actually choosing different ways to stay unreachable. Alan Cox, accredited life coach, CBT practitioner, and writer for gay magazines in the UK, Ireland, and the US, introduces two new archetypes: the Scheduler, who fills every hour so he never has to feel the Sunday silence, and the Resister, who leaves his calendar empty but fills it with solo distraction. Both believe they are exercising autonomy. Both are running a life designed for one.

    'The Myth of Choice' includes the Sunday inventory exercise, the arithmetic of one, and what the wardrobe knows about your readiness for partnership. It ends with a practical exercise designed to test whether you are still shopping with a basket — or ready for a trolley.

    The book 'Beyond: The Apps' is available now on Kindle and coming soon to Amazon paperback.

    Join the Patreon at patreon.com/empoweringgaymen for early access to 'Beyond' chapters, monthly Q&A, and a community of men who have stopped swiping and started seeking.

    For coaching inquiries: empoweringgaymen@gmail.com

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    18 min
  • Beyond: The Apps. Introduction.
    Jun 20 2026

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    Episode 1: The Infrastructure of Isolation.

    You have done everything right. The career is solid. The flat is immaculate. The Sunday schedule runs like a military operation. And yet you are sitting in the most expensive silence you have ever paid for — a kitchen that is clean, orderly, and entirely yours.

    This is the first episode from 'Beyond: The Apps,' the new book by Alan Cox, an accredited life coach and CBT practitioner who also writes for gay magazines across the UK, Ireland, and the US.

    'The Infrastructure of Isolation' is about the part of you that has spent twenty years optimising your solitude until it became a perimeter. It introduces the Administrator of Isolation — the internal architect who keeps the fortress beautiful, clean, and empty. You will learn how to map your own defended space, identify the physical and digital structures that keep connection out, and begin the work of dismantling a life that functions perfectly for one.

    If you are a professional gay man tired of mistaking the maintenance of a cage for the act of living, this episode is the first move toward burning his office to the ground.

    The book 'Beyond: The Apps' is available now on Kindle and coming soon to Amazon paperback.

    Join the Patreon at patreon.com/empoweringgaymen for monthly Q&A sessions and a community of men who have stopped swiping and started seeking.

    For coaching inquiries: empoweringgaymen@gmail.com

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    14 min
  • The performance trap. Part 3. Living without the script.
    Jun 1 2026

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    You’ve reached the final part of this series, and if you’re still here, something in you is already shifting. In Episode 1, we exposed the curated image — the polished version of yourself you learned to present because it felt safer than being real. In Episode 2, we dismantled the script you’ve been performing for years, sometimes decades, without ever questioning who wrote it.

    Now we’re in the space that opens up when both of those fall away.
    No performance. No choreography. No persona to hide behind.
    Just you — the real you — standing in the quiet.

    This episode is about what happens next. Not the theory of authenticity, but the lived reality of it: the emotional lag, the old habits trying to creep back in, the micro‑choices that build genuine intimacy, and the uncomfortable truth that most of your “personality” was actually self‑protection.

    If you’re listening and recognising yourself — the softening of your voice when you’re unsure, the humour you use to deflect, the way you nod along to keep the peace — then you’re already in the work. You’re already stepping out of the performance trap and into the version of yourself you’ve never actually lived as before.

    And this is exactly the moment when the right support changes everything.

    This episode is for the man who’s tired of performing competence, tired of being the unbothered one, tired of dating from behind armour. If you’re ready to build real emotional availability, real connection, and real monogamy — not the curated version, the lived version — then this is where your next chapter begins.

    If you’re ready to go deeper, book a session with me through the link in the show notes.
    If my work resonates with you, consider joining the community on Patreon to support the podcast and access more resources.

    You’ve done the hard part — you’ve stopped pretending.
    Now it’s time to build the life you actually want.

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    10 min
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