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  • S1:E30 – Hidden Assets in Divorce: Cryptocurrency, Bitcoin & How to Find Digital Money Before It Vanishes with Divorce Attorney Kyle Sellett
    Apr 21 2026
    What if your spouse is hiding money in a place your attorney has never even looked? Cryptocurrency and digital assets have become the newest frontier of financial infidelity in divorce — and most attorneys have no idea how to find them, trace them, or value them. Illinois divorce attorney Kyle Sellett is one of the rare experts who does. In fact, he teaches other attorneys how to handle crypto in divorce cases. And today, he's teaching you. Whether you're deep in a high-conflict divorce and suspect your spouse is hiding digital assets, trying to understand your divorce financial planning options, or simply want to protect what's yours before it vanishes into a blockchain — this episode is the conversation your attorney probably hasn't had with you yet. In this episode, you'll discover: ✅ What cryptocurrency actually is — explained in plain English, no technical background required (blockchain, mining, wallets, and why it's called "digital gold")✅ The three types of crypto storage your spouse might be using — hot wallets, cold wallets, and hardware wallets — and why each one creates a different discovery challenge for your attorney✅ The real story: how someone lost millions of dollars in Bitcoin because of a single lost hard drive — and what this means for your divorce settlement✅ The exact tactics spouses use to conceal cryptocurrency assets — and the red flags Kyle looks for to unmask them✅ How the discovery process works for hidden crypto assets: subpoenas, forensic analysis, and when to bring in a specialist (and when it's NOT worth the cost)✅ The cost-benefit analysis every woman must run before hiring a forensic crypto expert — Kyle's practical framework for deciding if it's worth pursuing✅ The Practitioner Checklist — Kyle's step-by-step action plan for identifying, locating, and valuing digital assets in any divorce case✅ Why Kyle personally prefers mediation and collaborative divorce strategies over litigation — and how this philosophy can save you money even in a high-conflict case✅ The legal standard for dissipation and concealment of crypto assets — and how courts are now treating intentional cryptocurrency hiding as a serious financial offense✅ Kyle's own definition of what it means to "Divorce Strong" — a perspective that will shift how you think about coming out the other side Memorable moments: "I started learning about crypto because I had to teach a CLE. And then I realized — nobody in family law knew this stuff." — Kyle Sellett "Coming out the other side, understanding what happened, accepting it, and being able to move past it. That's what Divorcing Strong means." — Kyle Sellett "The question isn't just whether your spouse has crypto. The question is — do you know where to look?" — Becky Sampson Whether you're newly separated and overwhelmed, deep in a high-conflict divorce involving hidden assets, or healing after divorce and trying to make sense of what you may have missed — this episode hands you the knowledge to protect what's yours. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0. 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free About Kyle Sellett: Kyle Sellett is an Illinois divorce and family law attorney who has become one of the leading legal voices on the intersection of cryptocurrency and divorce proceedings. As one of the few attorneys who actively teaches other family law practitioners how to handle digital assets in divorce cases — through CLEs and professional training — Kyle brings a rare combination of technical crypto knowledge and practical courtroom experience. He is a passionate advocate for mediation and collaborative approaches that keep clients in control of their outcomes. Connect with KYLE SELLETT Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WeissKunzOliverLLC/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylesellett/Website: https://www.wkofamilylaw.com/attorney-profiles/kyle-sellett/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ ...
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    43 min
  • S1:E29 – Women and Money: Divorce Financial Planning, Financial Infidelity & What to Know Before You Sign with CDFA Rhonda Noordyk
    Apr 16 2026
    Women and money in divorce — it's the conversation nobody prepared you for, and it may be the most expensive conversation you'll ever have. Before you sign a single document, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) Rhonda Noordyk, Financial Divorce Advocate and founder of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, wants you to know the 5 money traps that are silently costing divorcing women thousands — and the 6-step settlement framework she's used to move over $25 million into the hands of women who would have left it on the table. From divorce financial planning and financial infidelity detection to hidden asset exposure and negotiation strategy, Rhonda joins host Becky Sampson to give you the financial playbook your attorney may never hand you — and the confidence to walk into your settlement knowing you have all the information you need. In this episode, you'll discover: ✅ The 5 money traps silently draining women's divorce settlements — and how to identify every single one before you sign✅ Rhonda's BRIDGE Method (Breathe, Review, Identify, Dial In, Guide, Exhale) — the 6-step framework for navigating your divorce settlement with clarity instead of panic✅ The DAMN Method — Rhonda's red-flag detection system for spotting financial deception and financial infidelity before it destroys your settlement✅ Why women are systematically labeled "overly emotional" in family court when they raise valid financial concerns — and the bias Rhonda has witnessed firsthand inside the legal system✅ The shocking discovery process loophole: why a subpoena is sometimes the only way to get the full financial picture — and why your attorney may not be fighting hard enough to get it✅ How the "stay quiet, stay agreeable" trap keeps women from asking for what they're legally entitled to — and the one mindset shift that changes everything✅ Becky's personal story: the moment of "absolute panic" during her own second divorce, when she realized she had no idea where the money was✅ What a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) actually does — and why hiring one may be the most financially protective decision you make in your entire divorce✅ The creative negotiation move that saved one client's settlement when life insurance was denied: a lien on the estate — and how to ask for it✅ The equation that unlocks everything: Knowledge + Experience = Confidence — and how to get both before you ever sit down at the settlement table Memorable moments: "You do not have to settle without all the information on the table. Period." — Becky Sampson "We've moved over $25 million into the hands of women who would have left it on the table." — Rhonda Noordyk "Having the right information to make good decisions — that's what Divorcing Strong means." — Rhonda Noordyk "I don't pay you to think." — What a client's husband told her, illustrating exactly why financial knowledge is power in divorce Whether you're in the early stages of divorce financial planning, deep in a high-conflict settlement, or healing after divorce and trying to understand what you may have unknowingly signed away — this episode is your financial protection playbook. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0. 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free ****About Rhonda Noordyk: Rhonda Noordyk is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Financial Divorce Advocate, and founder of The Women's Financial Wellness Center. With years of experience helping women navigate the financial complexities of divorce, Rhonda has moved over $25 million into the hands of women who would otherwise have left it on the settlement table. She is the host of the Divorce Dialogues podcast and a tireless advocate for women's financial literacy, empowerment, and independence through and beyond divorce. Connect with RHONDA NOORDYK Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rhondanoordyk/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wfwcdivorce/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhondanoordyk/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RhondaNoordykWebsite: https://womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your ...
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    39 min
  • S1:E28 – Divorce Without a Lawyer: How to Win in Family Court, Child Custody Tips & What Your Attorney Won't Tell You with Tracey Bee, The Divorce Solutionist
    Apr 14 2026
    What if the biggest mistake in your divorce isn't hiring the wrong attorney — it's not knowing how to navigate family courts yourself? Healing after divorce starts with protecting yourself in the courtroom, and former family law attorney Tracey Bee, known as The Divorce Solutionist, is pulling back the curtain on everything the legal system won't volunteer. Whether you're facing child custody battles, going through a divorce without a lawyer, or trying to figure out how to win in family court without getting steamrolled — this episode is your strategic playbook. With years of experience inside the family court system and her own pivot away from law after witnessing its toll on families firsthand, Tracey Bee now coaches women to represent themselves strategically, understand the "game" of court, and walk out with outcomes that protect their children and their future. In this episode, you'll discover: ✅ The single most important mindset shift every woman must make before she walks into a family courtroom — from "concerned mom" to litigant (and why getting this wrong costs you everything)✅ Why family court is a "game" with rules nobody hands you — and exactly how to learn them before your first hearing✅ The #1 reason Tracey left her family law career — and the judge's warning she received on Day 1 that predicted it all✅ How to "study your opponent" — researching your judge's tendencies, opposing counsel's patterns, and the unwritten rules of your specific courtroom✅ The dangerous mistake Becky made when she represented herself: trying to act like a lawyer — and what to do instead✅ Why rushing to hire a divorce attorney in the shock/denial phase of divorce is often the worst financial decision you can make✅ Practical child custody tips: how to document, communicate, and present yourself as the stable, strategic parent the court wants to see✅ The difference between "process" and "law" — and why understanding this distinction changes everything for self-represented litigants✅ How to protect your mental health and nervous system while simultaneously fighting the legal battle of your life✅ The powerful reframe that defines what "Divorcing Strong" really means: "This is not what's happening to you — it's what's happening for you." Memorable moments: "Family court is a game. You have to understand the game to win the game." — Tracey Bee "Don't rush to hire an attorney in your shock phase. Do some of your own legwork first." — Tracey Bee "I tried to act like a lawyer. That was my biggest mistake." — Becky Sampson Whether you're newly separated and facing family court for the first time, deep in a high-conflict custody battle, or healing after divorce and trying to make sense of what just happened in that courtroom — this episode gives you the strategy, the mindset, and the roadmap to stop flailing and start winning. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0. 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free About Tracey Bee, The Divorce Solutionist: Tracey Bee is a former family law attorney turned divorce coach and strategist, known as The Divorce Solutionist. After years inside the family court system — watching the toll it takes on families and on attorneys — Tracey left traditional law to empower self-represented litigants with the strategies, tools, and mindset they need to navigate divorce without being steamrolled. She is the host of The Divorce Solutionist Podcast and a dedicated advocate for women facing family court alone. Connect with TRACEY BEE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesolutionist/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/familycourtstrategist/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/familycourtstrategist/Website: https://thedivorcesolutionist.com About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceWithoutALawyer #HealingAfterDivorce #ChildCustody Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong
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    46 min
  • S1:E27 – Starting Over at 50: Life After Divorce, Midlife Reinvention & Finding Joy Again with Santa Papa John
    Apr 9 2026
    What if the most broken chapter of your life became the origin story of your greatest purpose? After 34 years of marriage, a painful divorce, and a moment of unexpected magic in a grocery store, a retired truck driver with over 3 million miles on the road became Santa Papa John — a full-time professional Santa Claus with 100,000+ social media followers and a mission to bring joy to anyone who's forgotten what it feels like to smile. Life after divorce, midlife reinvention, and starting over at 50 have never looked — or felt — like this. Santa Papa John joins host Becky Sampson for one of the most joyful, unexpected, and deeply moving conversations in Divorcing Strong™ history. His story of divorce recovery, personal reinvention, and healing after divorce is proof that your second chapter isn't just possible — it might be the one you were always meant to live. In this episode, you'll discover: ✅ How a 34-year marriage ended — and what Santa Papa John wishes he'd known sooner about his own happiness✅ The grocery store moment that changed everything: how two misbehaving children and a bag of candy canes sparked his life's greatest purpose✅ Why his current wife saw something in him he couldn't see in himself — and how the right partner transforms your midlife reinvention✅ The raw truth about growing a beard "to spite" his first wife — and what it taught him about lost identity in a deteriorating marriage✅ Two elderly sisters, ages 68 and 70, sitting on Santa's lap for the first time since childhood — the story that will break you wide open (in the best way)✅ The "Share a Smile" challenge: the one tiny daily action that can begin rebuilding your life after divorce TODAY✅ Why choosing joy is not toxic positivity — it's a survival strategy for divorce recovery and midlife reset✅ How stepping completely out of your comfort zone — including wearing a Santa suit year-round as "July Santa" — can rebuild your confidence and your identity✅ The simple, powerful message Santa Papa John delivers to every adult who sits in his chair: it's never too late to start over Memorable moments: "I've got a story!" — Santa Papa John, the moment he heard Becky helped women through divorce "Share a smile with someone you don't know today. That's all. Just start there." — Santa Papa John Whether you're freshly separated, deep in your healing after divorce, or standing at the crossroads of a midlife reinvention you didn't plan — this episode is your reminder that rebuilding after divorce can look like something you never expected. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0. 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free About Santa Papa John: Santa Papa John is a full-time professional Santa Claus, known as "July Santa," with over 100,000 social media followers across platforms where he shares daily messages of joy and positivity. A former long-haul truck driver with over 3 million miles logged and a former DJ, Santa Papa John discovered his calling after his own divorce — when his new wife helped him find the magic he'd buried inside himself. He is now happily remarried and dedicated to creating joyful memories for people of all ages. Connect with SANTA PAPA JOHN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/santapapajohn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/santapapajohnmn/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SantaPapaJohn LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnrosdobutko/ Website: https://santapapajohn.com/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #LifeAfterDivorce #HealingAfterDivorce #MidlifeReinvention #StartingOverAt50 Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong
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    1 h
  • S1:E26 – Peaceful Divorce: Mediation, Conscious Uncoupling & Healing After Divorce with Florida Family Law Attorney Anthony Diaz
    Apr 7 2026
    Healing after divorce begins the moment you realize you have more options than a courtroom battle. Is a peaceful divorce actually possible — even when things feel broken beyond repair? Can mediation protect your children, your finances, and your future without going to war with your ex? Florida Family Law Attorney Anthony Diaz, Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator and Board Member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, joins host Becky Sampson to show you exactly how the divorce process can look when dignity — not destruction — leads the way. With a background as a former CPA and Assistant State Attorney, and his own deeply personal divorce story, Anthony reveals the creative legal options most attorneys never tell you about, the rights you have in mediation that could save your settlement, and why the peaceful divorce path may actually be your strongest move. In this episode, you'll discover: ✅ What collaborative divorce and mediation actually mean — and how they're different from what you've been told✅ The "nesting" strategy that lets your children stay in the family home while YOU come and go — and how to negotiate it outside of court✅ The #1 right you have in mediation that nobody tells you: you never have to sign anything on the spot✅ Why a judge can't give you the outcome you actually need — and what the divorce process looks like when you stay out of court✅ The "needs vs. wants" framework that unlocks creative solutions and breaks impasse in mediation✅ How to protect yourself if your spouse is negotiating in bad faith during mediation✅ Why conscious uncoupling isn't just for celebrities — and how regular people use it to protect their families✅ Anthony's raw, personal story of going through his own highly emotional divorce — and how it transformed his entire legal practice✅ The one thing Anthony wants every listener to know: there is hope. Memorable moment: "When you get to the 'why' behind things, you open up this whole universe of possibilities." — Anthony Diaz Whether you're in the early stages of separation, deep in a high-conflict divorce, or trying to find a way to uncouple with grace, this episode is your playbook for taking back control of the divorce process — and walking out stronger on the other side as YOU 2.0. 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free About Anthony Diaz: Anthony Diaz is a Florida Divorce Attorney, Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator, former CPA, and former Assistant State Attorney. As a Board Member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP), Anthony has dedicated his practice to helping families navigate the divorce process with dignity, creativity, and compassion. Known as "the collaborative peacemaker," he specializes in mediation, collaborative, and uncontested divorce. Connect with ANTHONY DIAZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecollaborativepeacemaker/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AnthonyDiazThePeaceMaker/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/the1peacemaker/ Website: https://anthonydiazlaw.com/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #PeacefulDivorce #FamilyLaw #HealingAfterDivorce #ConsciousUncoupling Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong
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    42 min
  • S1:E25 – Mortgage After Divorce: Credit Repair, Home Buying & Financial Recovery with Rebecca Richardson, The Mortgage Mentor
    Apr 3 2026

    Healing after divorce starts with knowing your financial options — and that includes the roof over your head. Can you qualify for a mortgage after a divorce? What happens to your credit when joint debts go unpaid? Can alimony or child support count as income on a loan application? Divorce financial planning expert and nationally ranked mortgage originator Rebecca Richardson, The Mortgage Mentor, joins host Becky Sampson to answer every question you were too afraid — or too overwhelmed — to ask.

    With 24+ years of experience and her own personal divorce story, Rebecca breaks down the lending rules lenders won't volunteer, the documentation mistakes that derail approvals, and the strategies that help women reclaim financial independence and buy a home on their own terms.

    In this episode, you'll discover:

    • ✅ Whether you can qualify for a mortgage before your divorce is even finalized
    • ✅ The #1 documentation mistake that tanks mortgage applications during divorce
    • ✅ Why your alimony or child support MUST go into a separate account (and what happens if it doesn't)
    • ✅ How joint debt affects your credit — even if your ex is legally responsible for the payments
    • ✅ Why getting pre-approved NOW gives you negotiating power at the settlement table
    • ✅ The truth about shared debts: you don't have to pay them off before buying a home
    • ✅ Creative homeownership strategies when your income feels uncertain
    • ✅ Becky's own raw, personal story of losing a condo to foreclosure during her first divorce — and what she'd do differently

    Memorable moment: "It's better to know, because then you can take focused action — versus just flailing." — Rebecca Richardson

    Whether you're in the middle of a high-conflict divorce, newly separated, or rebuilding after settlement, this episode is your financial playbook for protecting your housing future and stepping into YOU 2.0.

    💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

    Connect with REBECCA RICHARDSON

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.mortgage.mentor/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebeccawalshrichardson

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.mortgage.mentor?lang=en

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@the.mortgage.mentor

    Website: https://www.rebeccarichardsonmortgage.com/divorce

    About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

    🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

    ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

    #DivorcingStrong #DivorceFinancialPlanning #MortgageAfterDivorce #HealingAfterDivorce #HighConflictDivorce #FamilyLaw #CreditRepairAfterDivorce #BuyingAHomeAfterDivorce #CoParenting #DivorceRecovery #WomenAndMoney #FinancialFreedom #TheMortgageMentor #OnlySubpoenas

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    37 min
  • S1:E24 – Divorcing a Narcissist? Paulette Rigo's Strategies to Outsmart a Difficult Spouse and Save $45K–$70K in Legal Fees
    Apr 1 2026
    Divorce recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, and divorcing a narcissist — Paulette Rigo shares the no-BS strategies for high conflict divorce that have saved her clients $45,000–$70,000 and years of their lives. If your divorce is spiraling out of control, there's a reason — and it has nothing to do with your attorney. It's because you're mixing your Bowl of Emotions with your Spreadsheet, and those two things can never coexist in the same conversation. Paulette Rigo is a Certified Divorce Coach, ADR Credentialed Private Mediator, Certified Divorce Specialist, and founder of the Better Divorce Academy. She didn't learn this in a classroom. She survived an 8.5-year fully litigated divorce — including a 12-day trial and a 4-year appeal all the way to the State Supreme Court. Then she studied 272 divorce cases around her and built a framework that works even when your spouse is a narcissist, a liar, or completely unwilling to cooperate. In this episode, Paulette breaks down the two non-negotiable strategies for anyone divorcing a difficult or high-conflict spouse: Radical Acceptance (believing your ex truly IS who they are — and stopping the exhausting fight to prove otherwise) and Realistic Expectations (understanding that narcissists are actually predictable — once you know the pattern, you can outmaneuver them). She also explains why mediation almost always fails with narcissists, how to calculate your ROI on litigation before spending a dollar you'll never recover, and why your divorce coach — not your attorney — is your most powerful strategic weapon. Whether you're early in the process or knee-deep in a custody battle, this episode hands you the blueprint to stop reacting and start moving with strategy, composure, and power. In this episode: The "Bowl of Emotions vs. Spreadsheet" framework that changes everythingWhy leaving an abusive marriage often makes things worse first — and how to prepareRadical Acceptance: the #1 mindset shift for divorcing a difficult personWhy narcissists are predictable — and how to use that against themHow to calculate your ROI on litigation before fighting a battle you can't winThe hidden step before mediation, most people skip entirelyWhy your attorney is NOT your advocate — and whose job it actually isHow Paulette's clients save an average of $45,000–$70,000 and 8–22 months 💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free About Paulette Rigo: Paulette Rigo is a Certified Divorce Coach, ADR Credentialed Private Mediator, Certified Divorce Specialist, Certified Amicable Divorce Professional, and founder of the Better Divorce Academy. She is the author of the Better Divorce Blueprint and host of the Better Divorce Podcast. After navigating an 8.5-year litigated divorce including a 12-day trial and a 4-year State Supreme Court appeal, Paulette built a proven framework that helps clients in long-term, high-asset, and high-conflict divorces save tens of thousands and move forward with clarity and power. Connect with PAULETTE RIGOInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pauletterigo/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/betterdivorceacademy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@betterdivorceacademy X: https://x.com/paulettegloria YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6xmhF1sMo-nQaNhgSRfrfQ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/betterdivorceacademy/ Website: https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. healing after divorce, high conflict divorce, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorcing a narcissist, divorce recovery, divorce coach, divorce podcast, narcissistic abuse, co-parenting with a narcissist, divorce tips for women, radical acceptance, divorce financial abuse, divorce mediation, high asset divorce, better divorce academy, Paulette Rigo Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong
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    48 min
  • S1:E23 – Midlife Reinvention: From Abusive Marriage & $150K Debt to Business Empire | Margarita Eberline
    Mar 30 2026
    Midlife reinvention isn't a concept for Margarita Eberline — it's a survival story. She left an abusive marriage while raising five children, faced $150K in debt, lost her business, battled suicidal thoughts, and started over after the divorce with nothing but a mindset coach, one courageous decision, and a refusal to let suffering be her final chapter. Today, she's the founder of Marketing Boss, a thriving data-driven marketing firm serving law firms and business owners across the country. In this episode of Divorcing Strong, host Becky Sampson sits down with Margarita to map every step of her journey from rock bottom to empire — so you can borrow her blueprint for starting over after divorce, no matter how far down you feel right now. This isn't just a story of divorce recovery. It's a masterclass in divorce after 40, rebuilding after divorce with debt, single mom entrepreneurship, and the decision to choose yourself when every system — legal, financial, and emotional — feels stacked against you. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER: ✅ How Margarita navigated a simultaneous business dissolution AND personal divorce — with a newborn and four other children at home ✅ The moment she hit rock bottom and the one phone call that became her lifeline (mindset coaching changed everything) ✅ The "God drop" moment: how she found her divorce attorney at a conference when she was ready to go pro se because she couldn't afford legal help ✅ The hardest decision she made — leaving the marital home — and what she would do completely differently today ✅ Why she stayed in a toxic marriage longer than she should have, and the guilt-driven legal mistakes that cost her in court ✅ The therapy breakthrough that ended her "provider OR present mom" battle — and how the word "AND" transformed her entire identity ✅ How she built Marketing Boss from scratch as a single mom of five, and why her clients are primarily law firms and business owners ✅ Why Margarita still believes in marriage — and exactly where she draws the line between "working on it" and walking away ✅ Her definition of Divorcing Strong: "Doing it with love — and being happy, being joyful." MARGARITA'S BIGGEST LESSONS FOR DIVORCEES: Do NOT leave the marital home prematurely — it has legal and custody consequencesHire a divorce attorney — even if you have to ask for help to find oneDon't let guilt dictate your legal strategy — your ex's attorney won't have that problemFind your mindset support FIRST — clarity before strategyYou don't have to choose between being a provider and a present parent — you are BOTH MEMORABLE QUOTES: "I was a new mom. I had just given birth to my fifth child. And my business was dissolving at the same time as my marriage." — Margarita Eberline "I didn't have to choose. I could be AND. I could be a present mom AND a provider. That was the breakthrough." — Margarita Eberline "Divorcing strong means doing it with love — and being happy, being joyful." — Margarita Eberline ABOUT MARGARITA EBERLINE: Margarita Eberline is a single mother of five, an entrepreneur, and the founder of Marketing Boss — a data-driven marketing agency supporting law firms and small business owners. After leaving an abusive marriage, navigating $150K in debt, and rebuilding her life from the ground up, Margarita became living proof that midlife reinvention is possible at any starting point. Her story is one of radical resilience, strategic rebuilding, and the power of choosing joy after divorce. CONNECT WITH MARGARITA: 🔗 Marketing Boss — https://margaritaeberline.com/ 🔗 Connect with Margarita — https://www.linkedin.com/in/margieeberline/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/margieeberline/https://www.linkedin.com/in/margieeberline/ BECKY'S FREE RESOURCE: 📘 100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know — https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🔗 Only Subpoenas™ — https://onlysubpoenas.com/ https://onlysubpoenas.com/ ABOUT THE DIVORCING STRONG PODCAST: Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, Divorcing Strong brings real stories and real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Every episode features divorce attorneys, psychotherapists, certified divorce financial analysts, family law experts, and healing coaches — because rebuilding after divorce takes a full team, not a single voice. Subscribe so you never miss your next strategy session. 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing shared here constitutes legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a qualified divorce attorney, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, or licensed mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you are in a crisis or unsafe situation, please contact the National ...
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