🧠 REFLECTION QUESTIONS

1. Where am I telling myself I “just need time”?

2. What help have I avoided because it threatens my pride?

3. What is my refusal costing my kids long-term?

“If you’re done living in Refusal, join The Ascent—where accountability replaces motivation.”

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Most divorced dads try to fix strategy while ignoring state. In this episode, Anthony breaks down the State → Story → Strategy framework and shows how to regain control before decisions spiral.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why discipline fails in dysregulated states

• How stories are formed under stress

• A practical reset you can use daily

Reflection Questions:

1. What state do I live in most days?

2. What story does that state produce?

3. What’s one strategic action I can take today?

Next Steps:

• 🔗 Join the Ascent Skool:
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Most men rebuild their world from outcomes (habits, routines, goals) — but they forget that state runs the show. In this episode we break down:

• The neuroscience behind automatic behavior

• Why emotion overruns intention

• How divorced dads can interrupt old loops

• A powerful framework: State → Story → Strategy

• Tools that change internal experience, not just external action

Reflection Questions:

1. What state am I in most mornings?

2. What internal story runs before I act?

3. What cue can I use to anchor the state I want?

Next Steps:

• Join the brotherhood: https://www.skool.com/the-ascent-for-divorced-dads-2803/about?ref=d906894f2b164c45a3b18c5363fca02c

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Most fathers are told to fight harder — that justice equals reunion.
That if you push back, go to court, or prove you’re right, you’ll get more time with your kids.

But what if that belief is costing you everything you care about?

In this powerful, unfiltered episode, Anthony Thompson sits down with Garry — co-founder of 100K Fathers — an organization dedicated to rebuilding strong, regulated dads and transforming the fatherhood narrative after separation and divorce.

Together, they dismantle the most damaging myth holding fathers back:

👉 ⚠️ Justice does not guarantee access — but it can cost you time with your children if you aren’t strategic, regulated, and present.

This is not a conversation about blame.
It’s a conversation about what actually works in the real world — beyond anger, beyond ego, beyond the courtroom.

• Why fighting harder isn’t the same as parenting better

• How traditional advice about custody disputes often backfires

• The real difference between winning a battle and preserving a relationship

• Why regulation — not aggression — creates access

• The importance of presence over proof

• What dads really need to do to rebuild influence in their children’s lives

• How to balance courage with strategy in family conflict

If you’ve ever felt:

• Stuck between spending money on lawyers and missing moments with your kids

• Like the system is designed to exhaust you

• Like you’re doing everything “right” but still losing time

• Afraid your anger or strategy is pushing your kids farther away

This episode will change how you think and act.

This is designed for fathers who:

• Are navigating separation or custody conflict

• Feel like the rules are stacked against them

• Know something deeper needs to change

• Still want a relationship with their children

• Want a strategy that doesn’t cost them what matters most

Support & learn from Garry’s work at:
👉 https://www.100k-fathers.com/

Join the Divorced Dads community and continue your transformation:
👉 Skool Group — Divorced Dads of America
https://www.skool.com/the-ascent-for-divorced-dads-2803/about

Follow Anthony Thompson for insights, strategy, and fatherhood truth:
👉 https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica

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• Send this to a dad who’s stuck in the fight instead of the journey

Justice is a process.
Presence is a legacy.

Choose wisely.
Choose connection.
Choose being seen by your children.

💥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode🎯 Who This Episode Is For🔗 CONNECT + NEXT STEPS💥 If This Episode Resonates…

Most divorced dads don’t fail after January — they quietly quit.

In this episode, we break down:

• Why momentum dies after New Year’s

• The neuroscience behind motivation crashes

• The psychology of avoidance and identity drift

• How to stop the slide before it becomes self-sabotage

If you’ve felt yourself fading, this episode gives you clarity — and a way forward.

Reflection Questions:

1. What habit did I stop without admitting it?

2. What discomfort am I avoiding right now?

3. What would consistency look like at 70%, not 100%?

Next Steps:

• Join the brotherhood: https://www.skool.com/the-ascent-for-divorced-dads-2803/about?ref=d906894f2b164c45a3b18c5363fca02c

• Follow on Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

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Most divorced dads don’t fail because of lack of effort — they fail because they stop trusting themselves.

In this episode, Anthony breaks down why self-betrayal destroys momentum and teaches how builders install identity-based discipline that works even on hard days.

Inside this episode:

• The neuroscience of broken self-trust

• Why confidence is built, not felt

• The Builder’s Code for daily integrity

• A 14-day identity challenge

Reflection Questions:

• Where am I leaking integrity?

• What standard changes everything?

• Who am I becoming daily?

👉 Join The Ascent Brotherhood
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Most men think they have to be fixed before they can build.
That they must be healed before they can create.
That stability must come first — before progress.

In this episode, Anthony Thompson sits down with Ryan O’Connor — Army veteran, single dad, and founder of @affluentmystique — to dismantle that lie.

Ryan’s life has never offered easy guarantees.
He’s faced:

• chronic health adversity (including epilepsy),

• the collapse of his marriage,

• the grind of rebuilding identity and stability…
  all while raising his kids without certainty, without security, and without waiting for “perfect.”

This is not an inspirational story neatly wrapped.
This is a truth-teller episode about what it really looks like to build a life in the middle of uncertainty — not after it’s over.

👉 Ryan also leads a program called ROCNTHE_DREAM (https://beacons.ai/rocnthedream), where he helps men and fathers turn pressure into purpose, clarity, and action — without waiting for perfection.

• Why you don’t need to be fully healed to start rebuilding

• The cost of waiting for the perfect moment

• How living with uncertainty becomes a daily practice — not a crisis

• Why fatherhood isn’t about having answers — it’s about being present

• The invisible cost of hiding in productivity

• What real resilience feels like when nothing is guaranteed

• How gratitude and mindfulness become tools of action — not escape

This is for the divorced dad who:

• Feels like life is happening to him instead of through him

• Fights to be present but still feels behind

• Thinks he has to be healed before he can build

• Is frustrated with the “wait, then win” narrative

• Wants to model resilience and courage for his children

Most divorced dads don’t struggle because they lack strength.
They struggle because they wait for strength to arrive.
They wait for clarity.
They wait for stability.
They wait for health.
They wait for marriage to heal.

But life doesn’t wait — and neither should you.

Ryan’s story shows that action in the middle of hardship is not a compromise — it’s a strategy.

Follow him on Instagram: @affluentmystique
Explore his coaching and resources here:
👉 https://beacons.ai/rocnthedream

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This is not hype.
This is a call to action.

You don’t need to be healed.
You just need to choose to build.

💥 What You’ll Learn in This Conversation🎯 Who This Episode Is For🔥 Why This Matters⚡ Connect with Ryan📌 If This Resonates

Relapse after divorce isn’t weakness — it’s automation. In this episode, Anthony breaks down the neuroscience behind relapse and gives dads a 90-second interrupt system to regain control without shame.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why relapse feels comforting

• How the brain defaults under stress

• The belief that fuels repeated patterns

• A simple interrupt that actually works

Reflection Questions:

1. What triggers my relapse cycles?

2. What emotion am I avoiding?

3. What does discipline look like for me in moments of stress?

Next Steps:

• 🔗 Join the Ascent Skool:
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