Épisodes

  • Masculinity at a Crossroads
    Feb 20 2026

    In this episode, Mira dives into the deeper psychological pattern behind recurring abuse scandals and the public reaction to them. This isn’t about partisan politics or attacking men, it’s about examining what happens when masculine power becomes detached from accountability. Why do powerful men keep getting protected? Why do victims get questioned? And why do so many “good men” stay silent when it matters most?

    This conversation explores the difference between masculinity and unintegrated masculine power, the role of hierarchy and loyalty in male socialization, and what ethical responsibility actually looks like in real life. It’s a direct, fired-up, but hopeful invitation for men to examine where comfort overrides integrity, and what it would mean to choose differently.

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    22 min
  • The Cost of a Shallow Culture
    Feb 8 2026

    This episode is a cultural autopsy. It looks at how modern Western culture has lost depth, emotionally, intellectually, and psychologically, and how that loss is showing up everywhere. In relationships that feel disposable, in rising loneliness, in worsening mental health, in gender hostility, and in a growing inability to tolerate disagreement or complexity. This isn’t about individual failure. It’s about a culture that no longer teaches people how to handle difficulty, think deeply, or stay grounded in themselves.

    When that happens at scale, the consequences are serious. Democracy becomes fragile. Authoritarianism becomes appealing. Capitalism tightens its grip as people work more, consume more, and chase relief from an emptiness that never goes away. This episode doesn’t offer easy answers, because there aren’t any, but it does name what’s at stake. Cultural change takes generations, and it starts with valuing depth again: in education, in effort, in discomfort, and in how we choose to live. Without that shift, this doesn’t end well.

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    37 min
  • Why Women Learn to Dim Their Desire
    Jan 29 2026

    Why do so many women feel afraid of their own sexual power, even after years of healing, confidence, and self-work? In this episode of Desire and Power, Mira Salem explores why female desire isn’t feared because it’s wrong, but because it’s disruptive in a culture that still doesn’t know how to hold it.

    This conversation goes beyond sex to look at how women learn to dim their desire in real time, how embodied female sexuality destabilizes relationships, and why men are rarely taught the emotional or erotic capacity required to meet it. Drawing from personal experience and cultural analysis, this episode unpacks the real cost of self-erasure, the limits of empowerment narratives, and what would actually need to change for women to stop managing their aliveness just to belong.

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    32 min
  • Interview With A Disorganized Attachment Style
    Jan 17 2026

    In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down with a close friend to explore what it’s actually like to live with a disorganized attachment style. We talk about how this attachment pattern formed, what her relationships felt like from the inside, and the push–pull dynamics that shaped her experiences with intimacy and trust.

    Rather than focusing on theory, this conversation centers on lived experience—confusion, intensity, longing, and fear—and how those patterns showed up across her relationships. We also speak to something important: disorganized attachment is not a life sentence. It’s a pattern that can be understood and changed over time.

    This is the first part of a two-part conversation. In a future episode, we’ll explore the specific healing modalities and practices that supported her ongoing transformation.

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    41 min
  • Manipulation, Attachment, and the Psychology of Power
    Jan 15 2026

    In this episode of Desire and Power, Mira Salem unpacks the psychology behind manipulation, insecure attachment, and power dynamics in relationships. Drawing from psychological research and lived experience, this conversation explores how fear-based strategies develop, why understanding isn’t the same as accountability, and how real security is built through self-trust, emotional regulation, and learning to love yourself well enough to feel safe. This is a grounded, honest look at what it actually takes to move toward secure attachment, without blame, and without bypassing the work.

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    42 min
  • Interview with a Dom
    Jan 5 2026

    In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down for a long-form conversation with a dominant to explore what dominance actually means beyond stereotypes, fantasy, and misinformation.

    We talk about the psychology of dominance, the level of responsibility it requires, and why real power in BDSM has nothing to do with abuse and everything to do with consent, accountability, emotional intelligence, and care. We explore how power is exchanged rather than taken, why many highly intelligent and neurodivergent people are drawn to kink, and what it truly means to hold space for another human being.

    This conversation offers a grounded, honest look at dominance as a form of leadership: one rooted in communication, humility, and devotion to a partner’s safety, pleasure, and autonomy.

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    48 min
  • Interview with a Sub: When Submission Has Meaning
    Jan 2 2026

    In this episode, I explore the psychology of submission. Not as weakness or pathology, but as selective, embodied surrender. Through a short interview with a man who submits only to women he experiences as truly “superior,” we unpack why submission feels empty when it’s disconnected from meaning, and deeply fulfilling when it’s aligned with safety, presence, and discernment. This is a conversation about desire, power, nervous-system trust, and what happens when surrender is chosen rather than compulsive.

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    Content note:This episode explores power and submission from a psychological and consensual lens. It is intended for adult listeners and discusses erotic dynamics in a reflective, non-instructional way.

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    14 min
  • Modern Dating Is Broken — Here’s Why
    Dec 31 2025

    Modern dating feels exhausting — ghosting, mixed signals, emotional laziness, and a constant sense that no one is fully present. In this episode, I break down why flakiness has become so common, not as a personal failure, but as a predictable outcome of the culture we’re living in.

    We talk about dopamine-trained nervous systems, the illusion of endless options, social media’s impact on intimacy, and why so many people confuse intensity with connection. I also share what non-flaky dating actually looks like in practice: not idealized, not perfect, but grounded in self-awareness, consistency, and choice.

    This episode isn’t about blaming men or women. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening beneath the surface, and what it takes to opt out of a dating culture that keeps people stuck, numb, and disconnected.

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    31 min