In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down with a close friend to explore what it’s actually like to live with a disorganized attachment style. We talk about how this attachment pattern formed, what her relationships felt like from the inside, and the push–pull dynamics that shaped her experiences with intimacy and trust.

Rather than focusing on theory, this conversation centers on lived experience—confusion, intensity, longing, and fear—and how those patterns showed up across her relationships. We also speak to something important: disorganized attachment is not a life sentence. It’s a pattern that can be understood and changed over time.

This is the first part of a two-part conversation. In a future episode, we’ll explore the specific healing modalities and practices that supported her ongoing transformation.

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In this episode of Desire and Power, Mira Salem unpacks the psychology behind manipulation, insecure attachment, and power dynamics in relationships. Drawing from psychological research and lived experience, this conversation explores how fear-based strategies develop, why understanding isn’t the same as accountability, and how real security is built through self-trust, emotional regulation, and learning to love yourself well enough to feel safe. This is a grounded, honest look at what it actually takes to move toward secure attachment, without blame, and without bypassing the work.

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In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down for a long-form conversation with a dominant to explore what dominance actually means beyond stereotypes, fantasy, and misinformation.

We talk about the psychology of dominance, the level of responsibility it requires, and why real power in BDSM has nothing to do with abuse and everything to do with consent, accountability, emotional intelligence, and care. We explore how power is exchanged rather than taken, why many highly intelligent and neurodivergent people are drawn to kink, and what it truly means to hold space for another human being.

This conversation offers a grounded, honest look at dominance as a form of leadership: one rooted in communication, humility, and devotion to a partner’s safety, pleasure, and autonomy.

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