Danger doesn't always announce itself with bruises or broken bones. Sometimes it lurks beneath the surface, wrapped in excuses, disguised as sleep, masquerading as concern.

During this powerful episode, we uncover the reality of psychological abuse that happens within the supposed safety of intimate partnerships. We explore three particularly devastating forms: abuse disguised as sleep disorders, where partners deliberately cause harm and then claim they were dreaming; delusional jealousy (clinically known as Othello's syndrome), where irrational accusations of infidelity become tools for control; and identity invalidation, a systematic erasure of a person's history, accomplishments, and sense of self.

These patterns often go unrecognized because they don't fit conventional understandings of domestic violence. A husband who presses on his wife's eyeballs in the night and claims he was fighting monsters in his dreams isn't just having a parasomnia episode—he's creating a perfect cover for deliberate harm. A partner who becomes fixated on implausible affairs with pastors or distant acquaintances isn't merely insecure—they're establishing grounds for surveillance and isolation. And when someone rewrites your childhood memories or diminishes your professional identity because you've paused your career to raise children, they're not being critical—they're systematically dismantling your sense of self.

We also address the complex question of why women stay, especially in situations where material comfort masks emotional devastation. "Leaving isn't always safe, and sometimes the prison has chandeliers." The contrast between a mansion and a shelter, between marble floors and survival mode, creates painful dilemmas that outsiders rarely understand.

If you recognize these patterns in your relationship or in someone you love, please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Remember: you are not crazy, you are not alone, and your life—your real, beautiful, whole life—is not up for debate. Stay safe, stay sane, and stay supported.

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In this episode of CocoaPods, Dr. Bola Sogade hosts Dr. Julia Interrante from the University of Minnesota to discuss the alarming rise in maternal mortality in the U.S., particularly in rural communities. They examine the consequences of inadequate maternal healthcare access, the role of data in shaping policy, and how technology, such as telemedicine, can support rural healthcare providers. Dr. Interrante highlights the ongoing closure of birth centers and hospitals offering obstetric services, emphasizing that funding and policy changes are essential to prevent further losses. The conversation underscores the need for a systemic shift in healthcare financing and advocacy efforts to ensure safe childbirth for all women, regardless of location or socioeconomic status.Dr. Julia Interrante is a mentee of Dr.Katy Backes Kozhimannil,a Distinguished McKnight University Professor and Co-Director of the University of Minnesota Rural Health Research Center.

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Can Rural Hospitals Survive the Storm of Obstetric Care Closures?

Our latest episode features Dr. Julia Interante, who has collaborated extensively with Dr. Katy Backes Kozhimannil, Distinguished McKnight University Professor and Co-Director of the University of Minnesota Rural Health Research Center.

With Dr. Julia Interante from the University of Minnesota, we uncover the alarming disparities in maternity care access between rural and urban hospitals. Dr. Interante sheds light on the sharp decline in obstetric services from 2010 to 2022and the significant financial challenges rural hospitals face due to low birth volumes. This episode provides valuable insights into the ripple effects of these closures on maternal and infant health, emphasizing the urgent need for policy-driven interventions to bridge the gap.

Join us as we explore the complex landscape of rural maternity care, particularly within BIPOC communities, and discuss actionable policy measures to reverse these concerning trends. Discover innovative solutions such as telemedicine, remote monitoring, and learn how mission-driven recruitment and preconception care can sustain essential services.

We also discuss the importance of balancing patient demographics and offering diverse birthing options to attract and retain rural mothers. Don't miss this comprehensive discussion on improving maternal health outcomes in America’s heartland, as Dr. Interante shares strategies poised to transform rural healthcare by 2025.

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