Today we’re joined by the author of The Cut’s essay on wtf a 30 year old looks like, Claire Lampen, to unpack what actually happens when women get older—and why it makes us so dang confused. From the never-ending plastic surgery discourse (what even is the "mid face"), to why the less controllable we become- the “uglier” we suddenly are (so strange!! wonder why!!??), the strange mix of insecurity & confidence that come from making big life changes later in life, and what dating feels like when you’re being perpetually perceived during peak physical changes (see: bad). It's full of clashes & complicated & we're confused!!! And it shows!!

Y'all we are SO excited to be back with you again after a way way too long hiatus. But here we are for Season 2 of Clashists!! One of us grew a human being inside their body and the other continued to strike out on Hinge. We'll let you guess which was which. We recap our fav things we ate, bought, and obsessed over this past summer (and, well, early fall) and catch-up on some ~cultural~ happenings—namely how the heck they just dropped (??!) that jewel-laden crown, and why you should just shut up already about Belly's Sacre Coeur view. Love you, missed you.

Being in your 30s is WEIRD. Some would even say it’s peak time for life’s biggest ~culture clashes~. Your friend group suddenly starts to splinter—one falls in love and moves to farmhouse upstate, another has a baby and starts coping with the dreaded "witching hour", and the other is still out until 2 a.m. lighting shots on fire on a Wednesday ("leave me alone" -Gabby). In this episode, your fav duo is talking diverging timelines, mismatched milestones, and whether friendship can survive when everyone seems to be living a significantly different reality. Also: "Snack & Spiral" is back, and unsurprisingly a seasonal flavor of Bret's chips plays a starring role.

Vogue: Why Is It So Hard to Maintain Friendships From Your 20s in Your 30s?

The Cut: Our friendship survived bad dates, illness, marriage, fights. Why can’t it survive your baby?