Your brain can turn divorce into a courtroom where every thought sounds like evidence and every feeling becomes a verdict. We’re slowing that whole process down and letting you know what’s really going on: cognitive distortions, or in other words, “brain lies” that spike divorce.

I break down four patterns that show up for so many divorcing and divorced women: all or nothing thinking (I’m either winning or failing), mind reading (everyone definitely hates me), catastrophizing (one hard moment means my future is ruined), and “should” statements (I should be over this by now). I'll also share the real-life ways these distortions hit parenting, co-parenting, and self-trust, plus why your brain loves to collect “evidence” for a story it invented.

Then I move into what to do when you catch yourself spiraling. Think less about perfection and more about being honest with what's true for you.

If you want deeper support, I also share how one-on-one divorce coaching can help you implement these tools with weekly practice and guidance.

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That moment when you finally get quiet and realize you don’t know what you want anymore can feel terrifying and weirdly ordinary at the same time. Today I’m going to shine a light on what’s happening for so many women in unhappy marriages and in the aftermath of divorce: identity loss through self-abandonment, the slow, almost invisible disappearing act that can look like love while it quietly erases you.

I'll talk about how this pattern builds over years through tiny decisions like deferring to his preferences and decisions, putting your needs at the bottom of the list, and learning to distrust your intuition. I connect the dots between cultural conditioning, the pressure to be the caretaker and emotional manager, and why so many women only initiate divorce after they’ve tried everything.

Then we get practical. I walk through clear signs of emotional self-abandonment. And I finish the episode with five simple steps to rebuild self-trust. I also share my guide, 115 Ways to Get to Know You, if you want a fun place to start.

If this resonates, subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find the support they deserve.

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To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

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Comparison after divorce can feel like a punch to the gut. One run-in with your ex, one hard kid drop-off, or one “perfect life” scroll on Instagram and suddenly your mind is building a case that you’re behind, broken, or failing. I’m Karin Nelson, a divorce coach, and I want to slow that moment down with you and show you what’s actually happening so you can stop treating the comparison as proof that there's something wrong with you.

We start by naming the comparison trap and why it’s so common for divorcing and divorced women. Your brain is wired to compare for safety, and divorce flips so many parts of life at once that your mind goes into overdrive trying to restore certainty. The problem isn’t that you compare. The problem is the harsh meaning you pile on top of it and how your brain cherry-picks “evidence” to support the story you already fear.

Then I give you five practical steps you can use the next time comparison shows up. I also talk about the standards you’ve been handed by culture, religion, and media and how freedom starts when you decide what happiness, success, and family mean for you now.

If you’re ready to stop measuring your worth by someone else’s scoreboard, hit play, share this with a friend who needs it, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. After listening, will you leave a quick rating or review and tell me which step you’re trying first?

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.