Episode 5 – Who Am I Without the Pattern?

When we begin to change our behavior, something unexpected happens — we no longer feel like the same person.

In this episode of A Place to Pause, I reflect on what it means to move beyond long-standing patterns and the uncertainty that comes with it. When

In the last episode, we talked about the moment awareness arrives - that quiet realization that we have been repeating the same patterns in our lives.

But, awareness alone does not change behavior.

In this episode of a Place to Pause, I explore the role discipline plays in personal growth.

Discipline is not punishment or rigid control. It is the ability to pause, observe our reactions, And choose a different response.

Real change happens when awareness and discipline begin working together.

Sometimes, the most powerful step forward is simply taking one breath before we react.

In this episode of A Place to Pause, I reflect on the moment I realized I had been repeating the same relationship pattern for most of my life.

Seeing the pattern didn’t immediately change everything — but it did open the door to awareness, responsibility, and growth.

Sometimes clarity arrives quietly. And once you see the pattern, you can’t unsee it.

Kawennakenre 🪶💝

When you grow up in chaos, peace can feel unfamiliar. In this episode, I talk about how childhood conditioning shaped my choices — and how I’m learning to break the cycle at nearly 60

EP #15 this episode I talk about the philosophy that's been running my life, and how I'm working on changing that to something more productive!

In this episode I give you some exercises to help you ground yourself in your true identity. For myself, that has been a mystery all these years. But in the last few months, I have done some diligent work and come up with some really good questions, explanations and descriptions on how to help myself find out just who I am - Really? I hope this helps you if you're looking for this.

Get out a pen and paper because you might want to take notes 🫶🏽

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Only love, Shirley 🫶🏽

It has taken so many versions of ourselves to get us where we are today. We need to recognize that - and we need to thank every version without embarrassment, without shame, and without holding back!

On this episode I speak about employment, health, and understanding and trusting that you know yourself, your mind, your capabilities and your body better than anyone else.

I inadvertently spoke about the grief of losing my mom. It was not something that I intended to speak about because it always, always gets me.

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I appreciate all of you!

Only Love

Shirley