Do you ever feel like you're trying to keep it cool, but you’re secretly raging under the surface?

If you're a Type 9, or close to one, you’ve likely wrestled with feeling overlooked, overextended, and underboundaried. This rich panel conversation dives into the lived experience of core Type 9s, shedding light on how the desire for peace often masks struggles with anger, identity, and merging with others.

Learn how the different wings (9w1 vs. 9w8) shape how Nines handle conflict, personal space, and boundaries.

Hear real Enneagram 9s describe how “merging” actually feels in the body, and why it’s not just a metaphor.

Discover the surprising assertiveness that emerges when a Nine feels truly safe and situated.

Tune in now to hear this heartfelt, funny conversation that will transform how you understand and embody the Nine experience.

LINKS

Learn at The Enneagram School

https://theenneagramschool.com/

Intro Course

https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course

Get Typed

https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994

House of Enneagram

https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

01:03 - Introduction of our 9 panel, type 9 description, topics of merging; boundaries, the body center

19:42 - Managing our sensory availability, handling 'violations', individuating while not dissolving, anger revealing needs/attention and performance

54:03 - ‘Premature buddha', 9s coming in to their power

01:04:42 - Type 9 in leadership, comfort vs 'finding the grooves' to fit in, being a part of the environment vs feeling energetic force fields

01:19:13 - Distinctions between 9w1 and 9w8, how a wing supports attachment, different forms of 'peacekeeping', frustration or rejection

01:46:30 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine

Edited by Kristen Oberly

Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay

Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/

Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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