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A tiny lie can look harmless, but it can quietly train you to hide from yourself. We’re back with season six of 'Go Ask Sawyer', and we’re grounding this personal reset in Bell Hooks’ All About Love jumping into chapter three and the practice of honesty. I’m talking through my own “life edit” and what I’m noticing when I track patterns like screen time, thought spirals, and the ways I drift into old stories instead of moving toward what I say I want.

We get specific about what counts as lying, because it’s not always a dramatic betrayal. Sometimes it’s a half-truth, an omission, or staying silent until someone asks the exact right question. We also sit with the real reasons people lie in relationships and friendships: shame, fear of the fight, fear of being judged, or the deeper fear that telling the truth would force us to change our actions. If you’ve ever stayed longer than you should because you were hoping for the “when,” this is for you.

Then we tease apart privacy vs secrecy, using Bell Hooks’ lens: privacy can be healthy boundaries and self-knowledge, while secrecy often carries power, hiding, and misalignment. When we’re not truthful, our relationships can’t deepen, and even our bodies can start waving red flags through stress and burnout. We wrap with a weekly challenge to notice where you’re most honest, where you’re editing the truth, and what might open up if you simply let go.

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