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Former family court judge Michele Locke breaks down the Netflix series Death of the Pastor's Wife and the Mica Miller case.

Michele is a family lawyer in Texas and hosts the lovelustlaw podcast. She joins divorce mediators Alex Howard and Amanda Silver.

Mica Miller died on April 27, 2024, in North Carolina. She was 30. The medical examiner ruled her death a suicide. Her estranged husband, pastor John-Paul Miller, is charged in federal court with cyberstalking her and lying to investigators. He has pleaded not guilty and denies the abuse allegations. His trial is set for January 2027.

Michele talks about what control can look like in a marriage, why leaving can be dangerous, why you should keep evidence, and how to help a friend who may be in an abusive relationship.

Facts checked October 22, 2026.

If you are dealing with abuse or feel unsafe: In Canada, call or text 9-8-8. Ontario: Assaulted Women's Helpline 1-866-863-0511 (24/7). In the US: call or text 988, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

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