His father’s voice was still there. In a letter.

At 19, Blake Brewer lost his father in a snorkeling accident during a family vacation in Hawaii. Hours later, his mother found a letter in his father’s briefcase—one he had intended to give Blake on that trip. His father was gone, but his words remained. More than two decades later, Blake still returns to that letter.

In this episode, I sit down with Blake, founder of Legacy Letter, to hear how that experience became a mission to help one million people write a letter to their families. We spend years building businesses, providing for our children, and planning what we’ll leave behind. But how much thought do we give to what we’re leaving in them? Do they know how deeply we love them, what we admire about them, and why we believe in their future?

Blake shares a practical framework for putting those things into words, including a section many parents would rather skip: the apology. We talk about why good intentions don’t always translate into close relationships, how pride can keep us from saying what needs to be said, and why “I’m doing it for my family” deserves an honest look.

We also discuss when to give the letter, why your child’s initial reaction may tell you very little about its lasting value, and how this personal exercise has helped business teams connect. For anyone who has been meaning to say more to the people they love, this conversation offers a place to start—and a reason to follow through.

EPISODE LINKS:

Learn more about Blake Brewer and Legacy Letter: LegacyLetter.com

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HIGHLIGHTS:

02:59 – The family vacation that changed Blake’s life
06:46 – The letter his father left behind
11:56 – Why “my kids know I love them” can leave room for doubt
14:20 – What to include in a legacy letter—and why apology matters
17:05 – Give the letter now: Why you don’t need to wait
23:03 – A father’s letter that brought his daughter home
24:20 – When “I’m doing it for my family” deserves a closer look
27:16 – How legacy letters helped business teams connect
28:34 – Defining success by the family relationships you’re building
30:23 – Words your children can hear from you today